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My father is very verbally abusive and I don't know what to do. Help?

So I don't want to sound like one of those pathetic people that complain about their lives because I know that I'm very blessed and I'm thankful but it's just that my father yells at me all the time and now that I'm older I can handle it and just ignore it sometimes too but sometimes it gets to the point where I can't take it anymore. He yells at me for little things to the point where his voice gets hoarse and he makes me feel like ****. Even when I was little, I was so afraid of him that I was afraid to talk to him, let alone breathe around him. And it's for pointless stupid things too but it's annoying. Like one time he yelled at me so much for not drying the dishes to the point where I was so scared and he shook me and told me to do it or else. And he would yell at me when I was four and wanted to play with him. I know that was the past but all I wanted was to spend time with him and he told me to **** OFF. I know this might sound silly but I think verbal abuse is considered a federal offense, even if there is no physical abuse. What should I do? Please help me.

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  • 7 years ago
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    Talk to your mom in private about it. Most men don't realize what they are doing by screaming at their families.. Considering there is no physical abuse, it sounds like your dad is just trying to raise good disciplined kids... He probably isn't aware that he is laying down an outline for what you'll one day accept from a man.

    Also, parents are stressed... We work hard to give our family basic wants and needs and much too often sacrifice our own lives for our kids... Cut your dad some slack because we parents are also learning as we go...

  • It's NOT normal father behavior and yes, verbal abuse IS abuse.....find a trusted adult such as a relative or even a teacher/counselor at school and ask them to get professionals to intervene, such as Child Protective Services....if Mom is in the pix she may be useless...or a victim herself....get help for yourself....you can, you know....good luck.

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