My boyfriend of four years cums really fast?

To help him reach confidence - just indulge his fantasies and "worship" his penis.

I can't remember where I read this, but in Tantric tradition, they say we arouse a woman's vagina by first opening her heart, but we open a man's heart by first loving his penis.

So try telling him more of what you want - this position - that movement. You can try messaging his penis to get it hard looking at him with love and lust to let him know he want him and that he pleasures you - penis size aside. Emotional communication can work here - especially body language that tells him that you find pleasure in his presence and in his penis.

By the way, all these wonderful thing you said about him here - you should tell him. Us men love to feel like men - that we are masculine, a leader, and a provider making a difference - giving pleasure - to the ones we care about.

Does he by chance masturbate a lot or look at pornography? That he could be causing premature ejaculation. I would just use more foreplay, take it slower. Karezza - slower, more intimate sex that lasts longer by delaying orgasm can work here - read more about this from Marnia Robinson.

So, what's your question, honey? I assume you like him out of bed, since you've been with him this long. But, if it isn't happening in bed, this leaves a huge chunk of unmet needs in the relationship. You and he might be able to do something about his premature ejaculation problem, you could talk to a doctor, get counseling, learn how to delay things, etc. But nothing is going to change his anatomical deficiency. He might be happier with a very small girl, e.g., an Asian, perhaps. But as for you? Maybe its time to climb a bigger mountain. ~ Dr. Stephanie

I thought the whole point of the cougar phenomenon was to date younger men because they had the sexual stamina to keep up. If you really have a connection beyond sexual intimacy and want to stick with it for the long haul, I would seriously suggest seeing a sex therapist -- at first by yourself, and then talk to them about strategies of how you could both visit to spice up your sex life. Don't even mention his premature ejaculation at first, since the ego blow at his age (and stature) could result in catastrophic consequences.

1) That's a HUGE age difference

2) Um is it his first time having sex? Because the first time no one lasts long

3) what really are you asking?

4) Take him to the doctor, he might have a ejaculation problem

lol. get a man your age. not a child

What is the question?