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How to save a relationship with someone who think's you're out to get them.?

I moved out of my mom's about 2 years ago with my fiancee. Since then she has become depressed and paranoid and often solves her problems with alcohol. She takes just about everything I say offensively and strongly believes that not only do I hate her but, that I am actively trying to cause her emotional pain. She truly believes that I and everyone else are out to get her.

Example: My uncle named his third child Christian. My mother's first boyfriend's name was Chris. So she honestly believes that my uncle named his child after her ex-boyfriend as a way of getting back at her for past disagreements. How do I deal with someone like this? How do I save our relationship that is quickly deteriorating?

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  • 7 years ago
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    She needs medical help. You have to gain her trust and get her to go to the doctor of her own free will. They can give her medicine to stabilise her mood, but I don't believe they will have the power to force her to take it. You can talk to a doctor yourself about the options available. At the same time, just going over there and being present for her can mean a lot. Is there some way you could go and stay with her for a few nights in the week? ... loneliness can be at the root of a lot of mental problems. People need an answering voice, human proximity. She would probably still need some kind of mood medicine, but having someone nearby would help her to cope. You have to show her you love her.

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