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Is It Normal To Feel This Way?
I am a 21 year old guy, and you could say I've lived life to the fullest. I lived the fast life for my teen years: heavy drinking, heavy partying, heavy gambling, heavy sex life, Heavy everything. Just as I have had a lot of extreme ups, I have also had some extreme downs. I, for example, have lost pretty much all of the closest people to me in the last 7 years. I am not talking just aren't in my life anymore, but actually passed away. And I say pretty much because my uncle is the only one left of my core support system of people, and he will be lucky to make it to the end of the summer. So, while I was constantly having fun, I was always constantly mourning the loss of someone I deeply cared about.
But, after years of this, I feel as if I just don't want to do anything anymore. I feel so burned out, that I can't even fathom dating anymore. I literally don't even have any interest in women anymore (but did not turn gay). is this normal?
3 Answers
- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
You might be depressed. Work on finding something you enjoy to occupy your time and grow as a person on your own. Stick to positive activities. Maybe volunteer somewhere or take up a productive hobby. Once you feel better about yourself as an individual you will probably be ready to look for love.
- ?Lv 67 years ago
Congratulations for not falling into that stupidity of saying you are gay because you lost your interest for DATING. You already seem to understand your own situation and you seem to know yourself. And all of this stress that you are going through is very normal and it is only a phase! That is the good thing. With some people, it is not because they don't seek methods to help them and neither do they keep positive to attract positive energy. What you Just need to do is accept that you are going through a phase and you also need to have positive things to do to keep you alive and stuff regardless of how you feel.
It is sort of like feeling ill, and you don't want to eat but you have to drink some soup or medicine to help the sickness go away. It will go away and the best times are when we transition from darkness to light. It is a beautiful thing, beautiful feeling.
- 7 years ago
You exhausted yourself with all the grief but yet not really crying about it and talking about it. Instead you turned to a life that would distract you and distract you it did and you will find that as you get even older, life will automatically settle down for you. . .not meaning marriage and kids but it will just become slower anyway due to job circumstances, friends moving to other countries, looking for other opportunities and just having limited time altogether. therefore if you don't take the time every once in a while to relax, cry even or have quiet time with just yourself, you will exhaust yourself even more and as life becomes slower anyway, you will move into a deep depression either because you will find yourself forced to be alone more through no other choice but lack of people to converse with, have sex with, go to parties with etc. So voluntarily take the time now to reflect on your life, talk to a professional if you feel you need to and be quiet for yourself. . .eventually you will be interested in girls again if you take the time for yourself first.
