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is it wrong to date someone you don't think you'll marry?
I'm 19 years old and just started dating my boyfriend (24 years old) a couple months ago. We make each other happy. It's a complicated relationship and we communicate about nearly everything and we want to be together right now. We both know that the relationship might not last some coming conflicts, but we're ok just being friends if it comes down to it. Neither of us want that though... at least not in the near future.
The problem is I don't think I could marry him. Yeah he makes me happy right now... I love being with him. But in the long run I don't think our goals would match up and I don't think I could. Part of me says I'm only 19 and it's ok if I don't think I'm going to marry the guy... but another part wonders if I should stop wasting our time. It's just conflicting.
Is it wrong for me to date someone I don't think I could marry or be with in the long run?
3 Answers
- KathrynLv 57 years agoFavorite Answer
It's not necessarily "wrong". But my opinion is that if you two continue to get closer and closer, it will only be harder to go back to just friends later. You don't want to end up in an unhappy marriage, but you also don't want to be extremely hurt over the breakup. I would say that if you're both ok with it, going back to friends sooner rather than later is the best thing to do. Then you can stay in each others' lives and can find matches who you could see yourself marrying.
- 7 years ago
I don't think it's wrong. You're young, you shouldn't be looking for a relationship that ends in marriage yet. You should just be having fun, doing what makes you happy right now. And if he makes you happy right now, be with him. However, if he feels differently than you do, and he feels like you two could be married one day, you might want to talk to him about both of your intentions in the relationship. Ask him where he thinks you two are going. Tell him how you feel, and maybe you guys can still stick together for the time being.
- 7 years ago
Yes
Source(s): Don't date people for the fun of it! Have a little class. You'll only end up hurting them.