Would you be more supportive of your husband if he told you he was gay or if he told you he was transgendered?

I'd be upset that he'd waited this long to tell me in either case. I'd feel betrayed that this never came up before now and concerned that I couldn't trust him. I guess I'd be slightly more upset if he told me he was gay, because he definitely shouldn't have married me knowing that. Either way, though, my husband as 36 when we got married, either of these revelations should have come up long before then.

At this point we've been married for 13 years and have two children together, so it would be very difficult to deal with either one. Had he been cheating on me with men to discover this? That would certainly play a huge role in how I'd deal with it, because if he had, he's now exposed me to all kinds of potential diseases. For the sake of our children, I think I'd have an easier time supporting an announcement that he was gay.

At this point, 26 years in, it would be a huge shock

I would need time to process and grieve, but I would most likely come around to support him as he is a very good man and the greatest of friends as well as the love of my life. It sure would hurt though.

Supportive ? I don't know if that would be the right word but I would try to understand.

I'd be devastated. How dare he lie and lead me to understand our relationship in a certain way, and to believe it would last forever.

Neither. I'd be very hurt that he knew this about himself and strung me along and married me anyways.

Neither - I'd be filing for divorce.