Army how does it work for married people exactly?

Usually you live off base together. When you deploy or go TDY she stays home wherever home is. Some bases have apartments on base so you might be able to live on base or off base. She cannot go with you to some tours, and these tend to be shorter, like Korea. And she has to be command sponsored so uf she has any medical needs including mental health, she and you may not be approved for some bases which can't serve her needs.

Mazel tov.

By the way, I don't know if you are male ir female but the military is just starting to treat gay couples the same. Unfortunately some foreign countries don't so u could run into some problems there

Please listen to Blunt.

Do one or the other- because chances are good your marriage will end after a lot of torment and drama if you join the military. Being married is enough work to begin with- the military will own you and have rights over you when you have just promised this girl to be hers- and the military will in. Then she will be parked with her mother and great expectations with no satisfaction, or parked in the middle of nowhere on her own. And what is the point of that?

Find a decent job, get married, and go build a life. Or join the military and tell her goodbye. You can't actually do both,and they should never tell you that. Pick her.

And PS - the recruiter's job is to get people who fit their qualifications to sign up. They have a quota, and it has nothing to do with your plans for your life. They don't have any more invested in your relationship with your girl than a car salesman does with saving you money.

I hate to bash the military

my brother in law was in the military for years. He and his wife had 5 children- he was not there for the birth of any of them. He was deployed several times - for 3 to 9 months periods.

Going into the military is a commitment and a sacrifice.

It is no way to start a marriage. If you feel the calling to serve-join, be in the military for a few years before you marry. Know what the life of a soldier is really going to be like, before bring someone else into it.

In a forward area she can not live with you..

Usually you get an off base stipend to live in an apartment with your family. She will not be able to go to basic or any officer training in the beginning. 6 weeks to 3 months. Most likely you will have to live off base.. You ca only live on base if both of you are in the military unless that has changed recently..

You completely leave her behind. Being married doesn't make you any special. You will be going to basic training and she cannot go with you, live with you or visit you. And no, there are is no housing allowance for recruits. Basic Will be six weeks, assuming that you pass basic training, then you will go to AIT, same as basic training, you will be on a TDY school and you are required to stay in the barracks like everyone else, no extra money either because there are no housing entitlements during school, so if she decides to go it will be at your own expense and she will not be able to see you anyway. AIT is only 8-10 weeks depending of your do specialty.

Assuming that you pass AIT, then they will give you and assignment, assuming that they don't deploy you right away like most, then yes, you can then get benefits etc. so it will take 4-6 months to actually be able to get them. You will be limited to government housing though as e-4 and below are not authorized to live off post. If you get unaccompanied assignment such as korea, Japan, Iraq etc. she will not be able to come with you, although they will give you a housing allowance for the location she lives at. So if you get deployed, it will be between a year and a half to two years and a half before you can live together. There would me no moving or relocation expenses either while you are in school or on an unaccompanied tour.

My advice, don't do it, at least not yet. You are both too young and the military is tough. When people are that young they are also not emotionally ready to face the tough realities of the military: being alone, away from family and friends and penniless.

Sometimes girls cannot understand why their bf cannot be with them in their kiss anniversary, first date anniversary and all that childish stuff. They throw fits when comes valentines day and birthdays and you are not there, but they have no clue that you may also miss Christmas and thanks giving and the birth of your own children, it happens everyday, and no, the military doesn't care that your wife is alone or the dinner is getting cold. Same goes for weekends, do you know of weekend duty? The cq desk? Night time patrols? Last minute training? Punishment formations? That's right, your will have to go and your "sweetie" cannot be there with you. Let's not even get started on the constant training elsewhere, weeks long field exercises where you cannot be on Facebook babysitting your teenage spouse.

A lot of people change when they go to the military, college etc. their horizons widen and they mature. Same cannot be said of those that stay back home because they have not evolved at the same rate as you have. People tend to drift apart during those transitions.

I ve known the military since 1997. As a spouse and as a DA employee. I worked in an basic training and AIT post and saw, on a weekly basis, girlfriends and teenage wives coming there with no money under the impression that the army was going to take care of them. Well, it doesn't happen, some of this women got arrested for trying to break into housing, others snook into the barracks and got not only arrested but got their SO booted out of basic training, others cried and sit on the steps of my building because there were hungry and had nowhere to go, they caused a bunch of trouble and drama for the recruit/ soldier which ended up being reprimanded or kicked out. I saw this on a weekly basis, I gave some food and money for gas out of my own pocket so they could go home, but most people just tell them too bad so sad, why are you here anyway? And they ruin the recruits career by doing this.

Another thing I saw constantly were privates and their young wives fighting like cats and dogs over not being there, not having money to go clubbing, cheating and more cheating and of course, the most common one, after the teenage spouse gets tired of waiting, they clean out the soldiers bank accounts and abandon the government housing (we have found dead pets for months) and leave when the soldiers are gone to training or deployed and the soldiers don't even know until they come back to an empty and destroyed home. Then the soldier is responsible for the damages and financial ruin caused because of months of unpaid bills. The soldiers credit get ruined as a lot of women go shopping to the PX opening accounts there and leaving thousand of dollars of debt behind. These are not isolated incidents, every time the new class of AIT and basic rolled in, here we had the little Beyotches drama all over again, every month, every cycle, every time. More divorces, more bankruptcies, more cars being repossessed, then start over with the next class.

Anyway, I would not get married until you are both over 21 years of age at the very very least and only after you are done with both basic and AIT and you have a sure duty station, are established in your career and are more financially stable. You need to know if she is strong enough to endure this, and make sure that it is still what you want. Many women feel lonely and give up after just a couple of months. Soldiers spend more time at work than at home and they often find love among their new coworkers whom they have a lot in common because they understand. Seen it a million times over. Sorry for the long post.

Blunt for the win.

It is best for you to ask your recruiter these questions.