should i tell my dad how much i hate him?

I recently told my mother that I hated her and now she's trying. However, we're older and she's closer to the end of life. Also, in my experience, bad mothers are more able to realize they did wrong and should fix a few things. Bad fathers tend not to be so willing to admit they were wrong.. If you guys are still young, then he probably won't learn a thing about this for another few decades.

Go see a therapist--it doesn't have to be for long, maybe a few months--to help you work out how to deal with this.

I know EXACTLY how you feel. Been in the situation, and know how it is when he's just a horrible person, but you don't want him out of your life.

My dad pushed me so far over the edge sometimes, I went in my room and cried for hours. My parents are also divorced, so my dad would talk horribly about my mother, it drove me insane.

Everytime we got in a fight, I'd reconsider telling the judge that I want my mom to have full custody of me (since I was over 1;, and legally had that choice). But everytime I'd get the nerve to do it, I re-thought what my life would be like without a dad. The process would repeat over and over, and I worried about hurting my dads feelings. The last three years, it got worse. In those three years, my dad had called me horrible names, kicked my brother out of the house, and tried to get full custody of me (my dad was wealthier than my mom, therefore, thought he was better).

I stuck it out until I turned 18, as hard as it was. As soon as I turned 18, I moved out. And when my dad would upset me, I'd release that I was now and adult, and I didn't have to deal with him. Today my dad is still the same, but now I can leave instead of crying in my room.

My point is, I get where you're coming from, and though you hate him try and wait until you're 18 so you can not create drama. Or, try having a talk with him or even your mom. I know when I had talks with him about it, my dad got worse. But, you're dad might be different considering my dad had horrible anger issues.

Good luck! :D

Not just yet. You don't want to hurt your father it may through him over the edge. Try to fix it one last time if he still does not care by all means tell him but don't just flat out say that you hate him. Tell him that you you have tried over and over again to make things right and keep going on from there It's best if its in your own words.

You have failed to give ANY idea of what you're talking about. Just saying.

Anyway, there would be NO purpose served by telling him any of this. Just get out as soon as you can, get therapy, and live your life.

You may not actually "love" your father but rather miss the father role in your life. It is possible your father has treated you badly and you resent not having a loving, nurturing father who supports you emotionally as well as financially. It is possible he equates love with money which generally leads to problems. There is little you can do to change your father at his age. If he has not realized the blessings he has in a son by now then he has missed the boat.

Rather you should focus on yourself and your future. Soon you will be off to college and you are fortunate to have your father helping you out financially. For this you should be thankful!!! But as you leave for college the amount of time your father will be around will diminish greatly which will allow you to focus on your life. You should be prepared that the best you can hope for with your father is a peaceful coexistence.

The frustrations and anger you are feeling is going to be based on a lot of things that have happened. You should probably talk with someone about it to get the feelings out and under-control. It could be a friend, teacher, clergy, counselor, or other adult you trust and confide in. If it makes you feel any better, you are not the only one in this situation. Sadly many parents do not see the blessings and positive parts of their children.

No, do not start a new battle with your father, learn to deal with the feelings in you and maybe then you can talk to him later.

Yes you should so he would know how u feel and treat u more good and kindness you want.but don't hurt your dad feeling well it would be hurt but pick the right time when he is happy so that he doesn't get really mad already when he is when he is already mad.so tell him at the perfect time kk.

Please seek counseling to get help in dealing with your emotions. Your father provided for you all your life. He taught you how to do things and made sure you had what you needed. You are going through teen angst and one day you will outgrow this. Don't burn bridges behind you. Some can't be rebuilt.