I feel like I have wasted my youth and am really regretting it?

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I am 28 and recently it has hit me like a tonne of bricks how much I missed out on (through personal choice) when I was younger.  The friends I made all enjoyed and still enjoy going out to clubs all night and getting black-out drunk.  I kept forcing myself to go in the hopes that the enjoyment would suddenly one day "click", but it never did.  I kept making really flimsy excuses to leave early - I even once used the excuse that my grandmother had just gone into hospital, just to give me an excuse to get out of there without being called a "party-pooper".  I was also very sheltered for most of my life, my parents giving me everything so I never felt the need to go out and work for myself until I was 18. My girlfriend even calls me "Mr Sensible" which while well-meaning, I find upsetting because to me it means "Mr Boring" because I never did any of that stuff when I was younger, and somehow she is STILL more life-experienced and a more attractive hiring prospect in terms of work so I can't even say I am not reaping the benefits of it all.  Hell, my PARENTS even told me that I had to dress "funkier" when we went to see a Queen concert last week, and my gf patronisingly said she'd have to take me shopping for some "funky" clothes.   And it's not like I can "do it all now", as we are hoping to get married and start a family soon, so I need to keep myself grounded now.  I feel like it's all still in my system and straining to get out but that it's no too late.  Any help or advice?

celticbuddha · Accepted Answer

You want to have the same experiences as others, yet whenever you are in the position to do so, you bail out. . . . that should tell you something! You aren't meant to do what every one else does. You are meant to do what you need to do in life. Who cares what people think you ought to dress like or be like. Sensible is a good thing. Sensible does not get you killed. Seriously, you need to come to the realization that you do things, and dress in a way that makes YOU comfortable, not others. It does not matter what your parents did. It does not matter what your girlfriend says. What matters is what you say to yourself. If you truly want to change, then change for yourself.

? · Answer

Go out to a couple bars next week and see how you feel. Enjoy it. You are 28 so you probably want to start a family soon? Once you start a family you will be dedicated to their growth and won't care about partying anymore. Heck, just invite a few friends over to your place and drink and play a card game if you have to, you don't even have to go out. Partying is not as glamorous as you may think. I'm only 22 and I don't even like to party anymore. It makes you fat and if you black out drunk you might lose your phone or even worse have it stolen. And at the end of the day the partying has to stop for EVERYBODY eventually. The ones who want to go somewhere in life have to eventually put the bottle down. The ones who aren't successful will continue getting drunk all the time and partying. True facts. Take a look at people you personally know and see if any of them fit those descriptions. Good luck!

Anonymous · Answer

Think about it in this way:-  You feel you have lost out but your GF wants you to break out of the situation you find yourself in. v   Let her do as sh says, and quite possibly you will never look back.
Yes you want a family and settle down etec etc, but so does your GF, but she wants you to make up for what you have lost which is a good thing.    In some respects you are lucky you have a GF who really cares about YOU !

Anonymous · Answer

You are still very young so stop moping and go have some fun!

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