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When I was younger but still an adult I don't cry much because in my culture men Don't?
That much. I wasn't doing it because of that but I just didn't have the urge even if I was by myself. I just found crying as useless thing that never solved any problem. Now, that I live here I found that people do cry a lot even at a movie. At first I didn't get the need to cry but over the years it seems like a strong wall that protected me from becoming emotion has eroded so I cry now. It is like brain was taught how to react to the feelings like that.
I'm just wondering wether the same goes for the numerous people turning gay these
Days. May be society homosexualizes certain behaviours so much and people that act certain way are segregated to the point where they any kind of liberty by declaring themselves as out of the closet person. What say you?
4 Answers
- ?Lv 66 years ago
There was a documentary I recall, how American culture changed the definition of what it means to be a "man", as depicted in popular westerns where the male hero was "tough, rugged, individualistic". The documentary, however, pointed out that was not the situation prior to the cultural change - before that, men were known to be affectionate, kind and gentle, with full range of emotions as anyone. Once the artificial stereotype of the "rugged man" emerged, some emotions were being redefined as the domain of gays and such. In late 1980's, the consequence of men repressing emotions in order to avoid being "mislabeled" by society, lead to such movements like "The Men's Movement" and similar.
I personally don't cry, my intellect rules my emotions - usually. I do burst out laughing, often, my intellect apparently fails me then, as the moments or situations aren't even that funny, still they often crack me up. In all my life, I cried so few times, I could probably count the events on my hand's fingers, both hands, throw in my two feet as well, perhaps add my neighbor's digits as well, but, that's about how much I cried in my whole life when pain became unbearable, or a true story was overwhelmingly sad. I still don't get the crying bit, but like genuine laughter, is human emotion - we all experience emotions, there are no "wrong emotions" as long as they do not rule us. Even in my case, there are situations where laughter would be inappropriate, so, in such moments I steer my mind away from silly matters and deal with the solemn situation at hand.
If you feel like crying, perhaps you repressed it. It is one thing not to be compelled to cry, and another when a person deliberately represses the need. Leonard Nimoy, who played the "dispassionate" Mr. Spock on the fictional TV series "Star Trek", in an interview once mentioned how the pressure of his character spilled into his real life - by merely playing a dispassionate character, hours on end requiring to be in such condition while filming, there would be occasions when for no apparent reason he would burst out crying. Repression of natural emotions is not natural, there will be consequences if repressing them long enough. So, I have no clue why the "change" in you, I speculated over some possible explanations, but, if you feel like crying do so, and if you are tough enough of a real man, even crying in public won't bother you.
- Tom SLv 76 years ago
I say that your culture and religion has really screwed with you. Learn to think for yourself.
