What to do if a elderly person is needs to be moved into a nursing home but refuses to go.?

There are CNA's and HHA's who do live-in work who could watch your mother if she lives in her own home. You can give that person a room plus a stipend (for them to buy their own food), and then you could have someone come in for a couple of hours or for one day of the weekend so that person could get some time off (like to get away for shopping, to see a bf that you don't want in the home, or to get their car fixed for something). It's a LOT cheaper than putting someone in an assisted living or nursing home. Plus she would have some company during the day. Some people just don't want to leave their home, and if they are forced then they will have to be medicated and would die quickly from stress and anger. What you say is normal for someone becoming elderly but a facility isn't always the answer. My parents (both) lived in their home till the end.

You would have to get a court to rule that she is incapable of making decisions and give you power of attorney. There needs to be proof of an ailment, such as dementia, in order for them to do that. That being said she has to be somewhat cooperative bc theyre unlikely to send cops over to take her away kicking and screaming. She could also deny you that privilege by taking you to court and proving that she is competent.

Sounds like your grandmother has reached the point that she is no longer mentally competent. If that is the case then someone needs to initiate court proceedings to have a legal guardian appointed. The legal guardian then has the authority to do whatever is needed concerning her care.

Slowly ease her into it. Show her papers and info and show her the good side of this. Maybe she is afraid of accepting she is older. Maybe take a field trip to a nursing home and show her it isn't that bad

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Tjhere are can s whicjh can come into her home and assist her - contact the department of the aging services in your area.