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bill
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bill asked in HealthMen's Health · 5 years ago

Bedroom issue?

Yesterday my girlfriend and I were fooling around and she was going to go down on me for the first time (we've only been dating for a month). However, I couldn't get an erection or keep an erection. Obviously I'm attracted to her. The night before we were just making out and I had an erection the whole time. I thought I was good to go and we tried again a little bit later but I ran into the same issue. We tried for a third time and I was able to stay up for a little bit also I wasn't as hard as I know I can be. So she went down on me for a bit then I started getting flaccid again so never reached the point of ejactulation. I feel like I'm only getting half of the engine firing. I'm only in my mid 20's and used to get full erections without issue less than a year ago. Have any other guys experienced this and what can I do to make sure I can get and keep an erection so I can please my girlfriend?

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Hey there! I recently started a PhD in human sexuality studies, working towards becoming a sex therapist. That being said, I agree with the last answer around performance anxiety. The thing is, the penis is not a machine that works perfectly at all times. You are human, not a robot or dildo. The problem is, men's masculinity, in our society, is so entwined with being able to perform sexually all the time, and not just in any way, in a penetrative way, meaning "I need to be hard and ready all day every day!" This is unfortunate. There is so much more to sexuality than penetrative sex. On top of this, when it happened the first time, you probably psyched yourself out about it, which made it more likely to happen again. When you worry about so many things it is hard to get the amount of blood flow needed to the penis in order to stay hard. My suggestion would be to give yourself a break. If you can't get hard or stay hard during a sexual encounter, do other things like go down on her or finger her or just get hot and heavy making out. You can also focus on other erogenous zones, like breasts, nipples, neck, etc. There is nothing inherently wrong with you, you're just human. Hope this helps! Here's a link on sexual performance anxiety as well!

    http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/sexua...

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    I took Prolargent 5x5 Extreme as directed and 30 minutes later I engaged in a romantic session. It worked great! the second time I took it. it worked even better. It seems to mean that it works better the more you take it. I guess it has to build up in your system or some thing. Thats my guess. I will defin itely keep using.

  • 5 years ago

    Sounds like performance anxiety.

    Try going down on her while she does so to you.

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