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what can I do to stop feeling so worthless?
i get told im worthless, stupid, etc. daily by someone either at home or at work, i always thought i was ignoring it but i cant help but feel that way after being told it by so many different people. Today i got out of work at 4 am and my girlfriend was upset at me because i didnt make enough money and i couldnt possibly be tired from my "loser job"... she wanted to go somewhere early in the morning... so i got a couple hours of sleep and gave her what money i had left so that we could have a good day together. by 5pm i was exhausted and slept till now... she yelled at me and said im a lazy loser and she is going to the movies and i ruined her day... she said i was supposed to move furniture when i was sleeping "being lazy" and cut the grass, well im alone and broke, she is out having fun with what is left of my paycheck.... i feel worthless now, and cant even see this situation clearly... someone please give their perspective on this.
2 Answers
- 5 years ago
Listen very carefully to me, tomorrow you are going to wake up and you are going to show the world they were wrong about you, you can give life more than you had, you are going to leave your girlfriend and worry about the important things, you are going to become a master at what you do by extensive research in your spare time and you are going to start becoming a better person, people won't call you stupid because you know you are great at what you do and they are only insecure because someone called them that earlier. You'll start looking forward to you job and make it a hobby to find someone great and maybe you'll find someone who appreciates you.
Life is a web of decisions but by making ones you didn't think existed can you truely become something that was unexpected!
- ?Lv 75 years ago
To really address that you really need to talk to a psychologist. there's parts of this that get repressed and "forgotten".... and they live in your unconscious mind. Often emotional parts get repressed. So now you feel helpless and lost and worthless because you can't get to ALL the information.
so that's the job of the psychologist - to give you some space where you can talk about this and get it down on paper and make sense of it.
Mostly what happens is that if somebody tells you you're worthless, then this causes tremendous hurt and anger... but you aren't allowed to express this hurt and anger (or they only hurt you more) - so it's pushed down - repressed.
This leaves a boiling sea of anger in your unconscious mind - and in that you will not be alone. LOTS of people live with that. You can be quite unaware it's there except that it will cause symptoms of horrible depression - sometimes anxiety.
So to actually SOLVE the thing, you have to get at these hidden parts of the experience and get a grip on them. And that really helps. At some point, you'll be able to leave that whole thing behind and move on
