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I still miss her. I want her back. I don't know what to do and it's killing me.?

Hello,

So my girlfriend of 2.5 years broke up with me and February.

For the next 2 months I would contact her almost daily trying to get an answer for why. But I never got an answer. Just "I need time" or "We're just on different paths".

Buy the 3rd month I would contact her once or twice every two weeks. Still looking for an answer and still getting the same responses. At this point, she had moved back across the country to be with her family (from NJ to CA).

Then July came (the 4th month). I decided that no matter how much it hurts and how much I miss her I wouldn't contact her. But 4 weeks went by and she messages me. She told me she misses me and the "us" from when we first started dating, and that not being together hurts her too. I replied to her telling her the same. And then she apologized for hurting me.

From that point forward for the next 3-4 weeks we would talk almost every day about pointless things. But for the last few weeks, we haven't been talking much. She doesn't attempt to contact me much anymore, or almost at all. I'm tired of being the one to try and contact her first. She won't even reply half the time.

I just want this girl back. A part of me wants to block her off completely, but the other part of me wants to continue to talk to her.

I'm not sure what to do at this point. It hurts. I think about her everyday, literally. I'm tired of it.I still want to be with her. I don't know what to do anymore.

Update:

I've tried talking to other girls but I always have this intense guilty feeling if I were to do anything further than talking to them.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    If you are not totally over her within 6 months of breaking up, go talk to a therapist. Because that indicates that you lack the skills and tools TO get over her.

    Of course, you would just short-cut and go talk to a therapist now.

    Also understand that contacting her KEEPS you from getting over her.

    So what if you miss her .. you will survive. There will be lots of times in life when you want something you cannot have. And the MORE you dwell on it, the more it hurts.

    It is time to grow up and start learning how to be master of yourself. Go talk with a therapist.

    She wants to tell you that you two are over for good .. but she is afraid to be that rude. She is hoping you will figure it out.

    Being on difrerent paths means you are both heading in different directions and she is not thinking you two will join together again. Nor does she want to.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    5 years ago

    The fact that she said she misses you is a good sign but she misses how it was in the beginning, so i dont think she wants you back right now, but you never know what the future holds. My suggestion is to stop contacting her because its only making you hurt even more. Slowly try to move on

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