am i fretting to much about getting a job?

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i need to get a job. i have been a homemaker and at home now for 7 years. only pretty much get out of the house to take the kids to and from school, go out to eat, get groceries and go on vacation once a year. i need to get out. thing is how do you do it when kids are in school and hubby works full time and hubby don t want anyone watching the kids. UGH!!! i was just curious if you can even go try to apply for a job and say i need you to work around my kids going to school. i can t just work a constant shift. the shifts will have to vary from week to week. do they do that or do they want a constant shift. would be nice if hubby wasn t so smothering. he thinks we need to be together all the time on his days off. i try to tell him that working the evening shift while he works the day shift will probably be the only thing that will work with the kids going to school and them being out in the summer but is that true? will jobs let you change what hours you work each week because of your ever changing schedule with kids being in school and out of school?

Update:

how do you talk to you spouse without having a fight since it is such a touchy subject and both want their way?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you want an honest reaction, this sounds like the marriage from hell.  In your own words, your husband is "smothering", doesn't want anyone else to watch your kids, and you can't talk to him about it without getting into a fight?  Were you very young when you got married?

I ask  because your question is pretty naive, which usually means lack of world experience.  An employer isn't going to be able to create a schedule around your life and the needs of your kids.  They hire you because they need you there!

But if you're unhappy and feel trapped, it's really odd you can't talk this through with him.  Marriage is all about compromise, and it sounds like the 2 of you don't know how to achieve that.  For example, would it help if you found something a couple days a week (or even a couple evenings a week, like waitressing at a fun place?)  A night shift doesn't sound like a good idea, because your marriage isn't particularly strong right now, and you'd never see each other with this arrangement.  Besides, he'd probably start feeling like a single dad.

You have to find a better way to communicate with him that time away from home for you HAS to be built into the family schedule.

Anonymous · Answer

In answer to your last question: no.

Anonymous · Answer

You will have to earn money online at first is the way I've been trying to do this. So you can buy a car and have your sanity restored. You shouldn't have to work evening shifts at spotty schedule jobs that aren't leading to a career just because you said I do and then he didn't ;) (honor.....) Okay, that might not be what happened, but in some families it is. You might have just never really stepped up to help him with income that way before. I don't know. I do know that it's normal to want to be involved in things besides just your family, but I also think that it should not come at the expense of family time. Meaning, you probably shouldn't just work forever at a shift that keeps you away from home each evening.

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