Does anyone ever make peace with being gay?

I'm very happy with it. Fortunately it has never given me any problems such as violence from homophobes. It's just what I am and in fact it was trying to be something I'm not that caused more problems.

I rather like what the former mayor of Berlin, Klaus Wowereit, said. "Ich bin schwul, und das ist auch gut so." (I'm gay, and that's a good thing.) He actually said that at a party conference shortly before the mayoral election in 2001 to beat the tabloids to "outing" him! After a moment of stunned silence, the conference cheered him. Good for them and for him.

Don't think of it as being "stuck that way". We're just a different kind of normal.

Is the problem you being accepting of yourself, or other people? If it's other people, stuff 'em. THEY have a problem, not you. If it's you, that's more difficult. But it's a fact, it won't change, and it's a beautiful thing about you.

Many do.

I'm sorry to read that you feel conflicted and uncomfortable with your sexuality. I think it's clear that many, if not most homosexual and bisexual people reach a point where they are fine with not being heterosexual - some sooner than others. There are benefits to offset the disadvantages. You seem like a fairly intelligent person, based on the questions you''ve been asking, so I wonder why you haven't yet "made peace".

There are gay people who feel it makes them incompatible with their religious principles. (They are sinners)

There are others who feel it makes them incompatible with their family/society. (They are degenerates)

There are a few who are repulsed by the idea of sexual contact with their own gender. (It's icky)

There are some who can't escape the worry of AIDS and other STDs. (It's scary)

There are some who feel disgust at the sorts of people and activities that being gay seems to offer. (It is sick)

...and I suppose there are other issues, as well - but probably the most pervasive one is...

there are many who feel in their heart of hearts that they are missing out on what others (heterosexuals) seem to have. (The grass MUST be greener, and that's where I was supposed to be!)

You just have to figure out what's bugging you.

BTW, the Robert Oppenheimer quote from the Bhagavad Gita (which slightly dinged Verse 32 of Chapter 11) was part of what took place between the warrior-king Arjuna and his chariot-driver, just before a major battle which was going to require Arjuna to kill many beloved members of his own family.

To grasp its significance, you have to understand that the Bhagavad Gita is the climax of the weaving-together of many different and competing religious and philosophical traditions that existed in India when it was written. It proposes that the answer to all philosophic questioning is obtained not in "either-or" exclusivity, but in recognizing similarity, compatibility, and harmony where it exists between those various traditions. Among other traditions, it synthesizes the asceticism of the monk, the practical devotion of the householder, and the ritual of the religious. For this to work, Arjuna has to not only be told what to think about the war he is about to conduct, but also what the significance of life is (along with practically every other moral, ethical, or spiritual concern) and what is the unifying power or theme that holds all this universe together.

To that end, the chariot driver, who is actually Krishna, who himself is an incarnation of the being Vishnu, not only dispenses all the foregoing information and advice to Arjuna but also, at Arjuna's request, agrees to reveal his actual self to Arjuna. This is what takes place in Chapter 11. By the end of Verse 55, Vishnu, through Krishna, has explained that the breathtaking form that Arjuna has seen is actually a sort of avatar or communication symbol to convey what he is (which he identifies in Verse 32 as "Time", not "Death", but in any case is that which both creates and destroys the universe, forever.

The dialogue between Arjuna and Krisha goes on for 18 chapters.

CAll the gay center. Talk to the counselor. Join a social support group of guys your age. You need to meet some people who have come out and are happy about it.

I came out to myself at 25 and to my family shortly after. It was in the middle 70s when there was little to no support for gay people. Now we have gay centers, gay support groups, out gay actors, out gay politicians, gay parades. And gay marriage. What else could we want? People are actually more supportive. Not all. THey never will be. As long as churches keep making us sinners and threatening us with hell, some brain washed people will never accept us. oh well. Go join some gay social groups and you will meet lots of good people. My best to you. HUGS from a senior lesbian

I am not conflicted by it.

Yes. The only time I had a hard time with it was in my early teens when most of my peers were heterosexual and I knew no one else who was gay so you either had to pretend or be alone all the time which is what I chose because I was never the one to pretend to be something I was not. I am very at peace with being gay and when I look at heterosexual men I am actually glad to be gay.

I'm very comfortable with bisexuality 😺🐾