We broke up but then why did he say this to me?

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My boyfriend and I dated for a year ( hes 26 and I'm 25) and we've been in a long distance relationship. We live in two different states but we made it work just fine. We both traveled often to see each other and we've met each other's families. His parents were always the problem. We've been fighting for each other for a year and trying to change their minds about accepting our relationship for that long but unfortunetly they never changed their minds. They wanted to meet me several times but they never changed their minds about us. It has nothing to do with me, its just that the timing is wrong. They want his son to get a job and get himself established financially before making such a commitment. He just graduated from mes school and I wa actually to attend his graduation earlier this month. We broke up last night because of his parents, but decided that we still want to stay in touch. This is what he said to me " I love you :/ I wish things were different but listen, gods plan! Well both focus on ourselves now and put our trust in god. it’ll happen babe. I’m serious. We both are genuinely in love with each other and hopefully it’ll be just a phase and things will work out eventually". He said that he will still call and text me occasionally and we'll still be connected and kept on saying that he loves me so much.

seedy history · Answer

I'm a stranger to you both. But you asked something.. not sure exactly what. As a stranger, I'd say that a 26 year old man who allows his parents to make up his mind about his romantic status and inclinations is a 26 year old man who agrees with them. Even if he tells you otherwise. He's too old for his Mom and Dad to hold the reigns unless he wants them to. Or agrees with them.

Either way? Begin your own life without counting on him for anything at all and that way you can be pleasantly surprised if he ever shows up in your life. Calling and txting don't count. Not in the life of grownups. Don't accept that as "we'll still be connected" because that's a waste of your time.

26 year old men of value do not allow their parents to dictate their romantic lives. Please believe this. It's true. You allow that and you'll end up being the woman he "really loves" after he's married with kids to someone else.

You broke up. Believe THAT.

? · Answer

There is an old American Indian saying that goes "Trust in god but row (your boat) away from the rocks."

So, go ahead and trust that god has a plan and maybe its for you 2 to get together someday but you are broken up now so go ahead and start dating other people and realize it may never work out between you 2.  Text him if you want, talk to him if you want, but move on and look for someone else (until such time as the situation changes which may be never).

Anonymous · Answer

You may think it simply means to just wait around until he decides to change one day.This isn't the case you can subtly help him come closer to you.The Women Worth Having Won’t Wait Around For A Guy To Get His Act Together........WE DON’T NEED OUR OTHER HALVES — WE’RE ALREADY WHOLE. 
Women whose lives are filled with great and wonderful things won’t be wasting their time on men who become negative distractions from all that greatness. Our lives are so full that we know a guy had better step up if he wants to be a part of it. If he does, great, but he won’t be the priority. We want a guy who complements our lives, not takes over them

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We broke up but then why did he say this to me?

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