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I'm so hurt by this entire LDR breakup, what's his deal?

My boyfriend and I (he's 26 and I'm 25) dated for a year. We were in a long distance relationship and we were committed. His parents were never accepting of our relationship though. I was told the timing that was wrong/ his parents didn't think this was going to work out because of the distance between us and that he needs at least a year or two of job experience before thinking about such a commitment, so we broke up 3 weeks ago. Luckily I was able to visit him a few times and meet his parents and spend time with his siblings and I was able to seem him graduate from med school last month and spend it with his family. He told me that he didn't tell his parents we broke up because he wants to still try to make this work although he said no promises because chances are slim that they would change their minds after making their final decision. We still text every so often and actually the other day we texted all night long, just talking casually/ updating each other on our lives and he told me he still wants to stay in touch every so often to see how i'm doing. I asked him that night if he still thought there was hope in us ever and he said "I honestly done see it working out. Im sorry. I really want it to but the chances are very slim. I still love you and always will. I'll bring this topic up again to my parents when the time is right but don't want to drag you along. It's not fair for you. Only time will tell". I just miss him so much and all the memories!

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  • 2 years ago

    Since when do parents call the shots on someone his age? It's time to move on.

  • Brian
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    It sounds as if he's trying to let you down easy to try to minimize your hurt. I'd let him go and move on. Find someone else who for whatever reason won't hold things back from you getting into a committed relationship nor will make excuses. I think you deserve better than what he's doing to you.

  • Leto
    Lv 5
    2 years ago

    Hel told you. He doesn't see this working out. He is getting no support from his family. He is being thoughtful enough to let you go without stringing you along. Accept it for what it is. For now, it's over. He's not closing the door permanently to your friendship

  • 2 years ago

    Well, he told you the truth. He doesn't see it working out. So now you have to quit communicating with him, take some time to heal, and start your new life going forward.

    Find someone local, enjoy your life and move on. He's gone.

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