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How do you forgive yourself for being stupid in a relationship ?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago
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    The best way to forgive yourself is to first develop a close relationship with God (if you don't have one already). He loves you more than you can even imagine just the way you are unconditionally. If you put your faith and trust in Him, He will forgive you for all of your sins - in the past, today, and in the future. It's really amazing. The book of John is a great place to start learning about His love for you. Hopefully, when you realize that the God of the universe has forgiven you - you will be more willing to forgive yourself.

    It sounds like you might need to talk to a professional counselor to help you get over him. Counseling is often available for a low fee through health insurance. Almost everyone needs counseling at some point in their life.

    When you are ready to start dating again, may I suggest that the first question to ask yourself when considering whether or not to date someone is, “Is this person a strong person?” If they’re not, no matter how much you like them, how much they like you, or how “cute” or “hot” they are, - please don’t date them. A strong person has good character (honesty, integrity, trustworthiness), displays a positive attitude (cheerful, caring, friendly, forgiving, helpful, and respectful), fulfills their responsibilities (for handling people who are pains in a positive way, for always trying to make a good choice, for taking care of themselves, for serving others), gives their best effort, and demonstrates self-control (of their body, anger, mouth and money).

    My suggestion is that you put in the effort necessary to become a strong person (if you’re not already) and eventually look for this type of person (otherwise you’re setting yourself up for a broken heart). Unfortunately this type of person is difficult to find – but save yourself the heartache and don’t settle for less.

    (Please remember that you eventually want a 50 or 60 year marriage - not a 5 or 10 year marriage.)

    Hope this helps!

    Source(s): True Love Lasts - written with a character emphasis for teens through young adults, Straight Talk About Teen Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 13-19, Straight Talk About Dating - written with a Christian emphasis for ages 20 and up
  • 2 years ago

    I tell myself in those young years I was niave. It's very true. The past is a forest of horrors when you look back on the immature years.

  • 2 years ago

    Lemme know when you find out

  • KTJoe
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    Make a vow to self; to never be that stupid in a relationship than march on with life.

  • 2 years ago

    hard to do.........................

  • 2 years ago

    you don't but you can still be friends

  • 2 years ago

    You need to learn from the mistakes you made. If you do learn and in the future behave better, then you can forgive yourself for being young and inexperienced. Anytime you can improve yourself after making a mistake you know you can forgive yourself as you've become a better person.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 years ago

    sometimes you have to live with the scars being stupid will get ya .. just dont do it again, that might be unforgivable ..

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