I just started dating this guy and he is wonderful, he has slept over but I said no sex.  ?

Sure. To be honest, I'd not want to jump right into sex early on. Give it time to see where it goes first before giving up the body to him.

Maybe he wants you to make the first move? 

You're setting boundaries. there's nothing wrong with that. If he spent the night knowing there would be no sex, he did. He heard what you said.

Why would it be "unfair" to him? As individuals we have to be fair to OURSELVES FIRST.

Yes, you're being very fair, but bear this in mind. Snuggling can prove hazardous to your abstinence. If not kept in check, snuggling may lead to the ultimate and, while both of you are obviously willing, you won't realize what happened until after it's over. If you're aware of that risk, feel free to continue forewarned.

If I was the guy I would want like oral or a hand job or something. 

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What's this "I feel it's too early" sh!t. Try all you like about pretending women aren't pereverted little sIuts, we know they are. he is just inexperienced and hasn't got you wet enough yet, once he works out how to do it you'll be spreading your legs quicker than margarine in the frypan

You are correct, it is way to early for any sexual activity whatsoever. But don't go beyond cuddling till you feel you're ready for it.

You're being fair if you've only just start dating him, and besides, it's good for a girl not to just sleep with a man they've just started dating. It shows class. Even though I don't necessarily judge a girl for doing it anyway. It doesn't necessarily mean they are easy.

How old are you? Personally, you shouldn’t be inviting a man to sleep with you and not expect sex. Keep the date out and away from the bedroom if you’re not interested in sex. It’s much less frustrating that way. How do you feel about oral?