What do Australia's Family violence experts have to say about parents that exercise overt control over whom their children befriend?

Having a close - very close relationship with all three of my kids until they hit high school, I totally agree with the idea! Each of my kids found a friend who did nothing but criticize and badmouth me, tho I had never done anything to them or my kids to warrant it! One used to come over and spend the weekend at our place, eat my food but never had a good word to say about me. I blame my kids to a degree as well for being WEAK and not showing any family loyalty (but they expected it when it came to THEM!)  Years later, I realised their 'friends' were jealous about all the things my kids had as well as the great relationship they had with me - which they clearly didn't have with their parents. In the end, I couldn't take the abuse anymore and kicked the kids out (not all at once!) Their friends didn't have so much 'advice' after that, and didn't care when my kids were lonely, hungry and cold. Maybe these selfish kids complaining about 'overt control' might want to THANK their parents for caring enough to pick their friends instead of just letting them walk the streets like their friends' parents do! My mother was like that with me. I can tell you it is NOT nice to walk around, cold without someone chasing after you telling you to put a jumper on. Telling you when to be home because lunch/dinner will be ready (I went hungry many times!) And telling you to go to bed at a set time. I used to look at my friends with parents like that - rather than get jealous and nasty like my kids' friends' did - I used to just watch and wish someone cared about me like that . . .