How would you feel after you divorced a partner of many years after you were betrayed by him?

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-He kept making excuses to delay having a baby for 20 years,despite knowing that you wanted children.So you wasted your good fertile years on him.
-When he finally agreed to try for a baby,you were 39.You got pregnant but miscarried at just 8 weeks.He blamed you for not being able to have a baby and made your life a living hell after that.
-So you got a divorce.
-You feel upset that your partner denied you the chance to have a baby.

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i wouldnt like it but maybe you can adopt a baby

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If i decided to divorce someone, i wouldn't sit around thinking about the past and about how i wanted a child  and more.  I'd move forward because divorce means THE END of the relationship.  It's over.

Anonymous · Answer

What matters is how you feel, not random strangers on the internet.

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If you put up with the excuses for  20 years you are as much to blame,  get over it

Anonymous · Answer

What's done is done, you can't get back those 20 years, but you can prevent him from taking the next 20 years.  Letting what happened in your past prevent you from living your dreams would be just letting him take even more life out of you.  39 is still a good time to seek a relationship and have kids.  Unfortunately as hard as they are, miscarriages are part of the process of conceiving a child for millions of people.   If a child is your goal you must push onward before you truly are out of time.  Otherwise I fear the trauma he put you through will ruin the rest of the years you have left if you can't find the strength and confidence to give yourself a fresh start.

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Sh**ty circumstances for sure.  Can't change past stuff, so dwelling on it only creates more suffering for you.  I'm glad you are divorced, he sounds like a peach.

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How would you feel after you divorced a partner of many years after you were betrayed by him?

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