Your friend is pregnant.Her husband doesn't want her to breastfeed after the baby is born.What can she do?

It's up to her.

None of those reasons are reasons she should not try breastfeeding.

After six weeks when breast feeding is well established, and chances of nipple confusion for the baby go down, she can pump and the husband can feed the baby with a bottle.

Your friends and the midwife obviously don't know much about the father taking an active part in feeding a baby.  Breast milk can be expressed and put into bottles. If there's a lot of excess, it can be frozen for future use.  And seeing this, the father could feed the baby a bottle. 

and sorry to bust the guy's bubble but we don't usually have sex for about 6 weeks after giving birth.  Along with this, a woman's sex drive isn't that great after having a baby for a while. So he needs to get used to it and go watch some porn.

It should be a decision made by the mother, not the husband, and DEFINITELY not the father-in-law!! A breastfeeding mother can free up plenty of 'extra milk' for fathers to give to the baby. The 'not having interaction time' statement is a complete falsehood. So is the sex life statement. There shouldn't be any reason to worry about a sex life while breastfeeding. 

This is a mom decision.  Not a dad decision and definitely not a FIL decision, FIL needs to take several seats and mind his own business.  Some women struggle with breastfeeding but not everyone and not most.

My husband let his opinion be known but supported whatever choice I made.  My husband's personal opinion or preference was not to formula feed but he's also a physician so he fully understands the benefits of formula vs breastfeeding.  

I'm also not sure why you're involved in this either?

Breastfeeding improves the health of the baby. Dad should  shut up. He sounds ignorant

First of all - it is not your business.

But, the wife can use these arguments:

1.  She can pump breast milk and he can bottle feed her milk to the baby so he gets that chance to feed and interact with their child.  This is actually good for her to as it gets the baby adjusted to both the breast and the bottle and she would be able to take short breaks from the baby if needed since the baby will take a bottle also.

2.  Having a baby interferes with post-baby sex life.   Just the fact of being exhausted from caring for a baby and having a baby that will always wake up at just the right moment will interfere even if she doesn't breast feed the baby.  Breastfeeding the baby just means that he can't "play" with the breasts as easily during sex.  Poor man.

As for the father-in-law - it is also non of his business and just because his wife struggled doesn't mean your friend would.  Every woman has a different experience with how easy or how hard it is to breast feed the baby.  Part of those issues is based on the SUPPORT they are getting from family and from medical help.  (lactation specialist is a good idea for a first baby and first time mom.)  

It  comes down to two things. 

1. She can be weak and do as he says. 

2. She can be strong and go with her own feelings.   In the second course she can, of course, invoke help from all sorts of medical advisers to try to persuade the husband that her notion is the best for bringing up a healthy baby, though from your report it seems that the husband wouldn't listen. Possibly she might have to threaten to leave him and take the baby with her. She might even have to carry out that threat.

Pat gave the perfect answer.    Breastfeed anyway.   The opportunity only comes once.   And, everyone else will have to live with it.   

The solution is simple: 1) His wife can pump breast milk into a bottle for him to feed the baby sometimes, and 2)  He can stop putting his sex life above the health of his baby.  It's only a problem if he insists on being an a**hole about his own child!

Mind your own business