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Should I remind him of our anniversary in two days? ?
Our 4 year anniversary is coming up in two days. I haven’t really been thinking about it, and i just remembered it today. We never really had a set anniversary date, so maybe 2 years ago we set it to Dec 16, the day that we met. I feel like it’s not the easiest to remember just because we made it up. I’m going to get him a gift and a card. Should I remind him that it’s coming up, or see if he remembers? I would feel bad if he didn’t think about it and I was the only one that gave him a gift. But I do also want to see if he’d remember. What should I do?
6 Answers
- ?Lv 75 months ago
It is just as important that you remember him as that he remembers you. So let him know that you would like to celebrate it. Don't test him to see if he remembers. That would be presupposing that he should be the one to do all the valuing.
- bubulaLv 65 months ago
The Big Girl thing to do is let this go. You yourself almost forgot. Give him the right to almost forget or actually forget and not be penalized for that. In a healthy relationship, you can celebrate the fact that the two of you are together any day of the year, or even better, every day of the year.
What you are looking for is affirmation that he thinks about you and cares about you. Getting him a card and a gift to "nudge" him into that affirmation is cheating.
The very best anniversary gift you could give would be honest conversation about what it means to him and whether he is or ever has been comfortable with an anniversary celebration. Something tells me the idea of a December 16 celebration was entirely yours.
Best of luck.
- David KLv 65 months ago
Don't stand on ceremony here. This is a relationship. I suggest you tell him NOW enthusiastically that it's just two days away and you're excited about it. And suggest a way (small) to celebrate. That helps get him into the mood and lets him be part of it and not apologizing for not remembering.
- ?Lv 45 months ago
I'd say something like, "oh I can't believe our anniversary's coming up already" or something like that. That way you're not really reminding him, you're just bringing it up in a conversation and then see what happens if he gets you a gift or not. I would hope he would.
- seedy historyLv 75 months ago
If you want the day you met to be an anniversary of sorts and make a big deal of it then I think you absolutely have to remind him as well as make whatever plans you think need be made. Don't set him up for failure. For most guys, remembering the anniversary of the day they got married is about the best they can possibly manage. Very few recall the date of the day they met their girlfriend.
- ?Lv 75 months ago
Ask him what he'd like to do to celebrate your anniversary. Then he can cover his tracks if he forgot.
