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? asked in Family & RelationshipsSingles & Dating · 3 months ago

Could you ever forgive a cheater?

And have you?

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  • ?
    Lv 7
    3 months ago
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    Never did I allow a cheater stay with me, Instant break up, and Id never stay with a cheater. It broke my heart and years later it still bothers me, so NO way.  You forgive them, you are just telling them it was ok that they cheated and will do it again, because they know you were stupid to take them back and you will again.

  • Anonymous
    3 months ago

    you forgive for your benefit so you can let go of your anger and hurt. but you still need to move on. as once a cheater always a cheater. let her go. find a woman you can trust. 

  • 3 months ago

    NO. I HAVE NO ROOM FOR A CHEATER IN MY LIFE

  • ?
    Lv 4
    3 months ago

    Hell no, never because they don't change and it is a sickness and a compulsion

  • 3 months ago

    I forgave a cheater once, he did it again a month later but it was much was than the first time. Lesson learnt! 

  • 3 months ago

    I can forgive, but I don't forget.  Whenever a girl cheated on me (which happened a lot), I'd still talk to her.  I'd still hang out with her, I'd still be on friendly terms with her, and I'd still do naughty-naughty stuff with her on a casual basis.  But there's no way I'd ever put my heart on the line for her again.

  • 3 months ago

    Everybody deserves a second chance... Especially if you love him/her. Or you will continue messing with each other like Ross and Rachel and Friends. But would you give  the second chance, that's more serious. First time you always can forgive, but not the second

  • Anonymous
    3 months ago

    No and firmly suggest others not to take back cheaters either. I used to think "once a cheater, always a cheater" was just a meaningless thing but as I grew older I see it more and more about how true that is. Cheating is not about situations, it's about how sick and disrespectful the cheater is to themselves, others, their spouse, etc. Never waste your time with cheaters if you have any self-respect. Forgiving is different though since it helps the person who forgives to release that grudge too so if it is for the sake of your own peace of mind, sure, go ahead and forgive but if that's going to make you soft and maliable to the cheater or result in you forgetting what they did, don't forgive them unless they're far away from your life, then you can safely forgive them to make yourself feel calm. P.s.: And please do differentiate between your spouse getting taken advantage of if they're passed-out-drunk or passed out or raped and the likes vs if they actually cheated since in the former there'd be nothing they could've done to stop the sex so .. they'd still be in the clear.

  • Anonymous
    3 months ago

    I suppose that if my husband, who is not a drinker, engaged in highly atypical behavior and got falling down drunk and ended up with his dick in the dirt and it was a one time never gonna happen again thing, I'd rather forgive than turn my back on someone who has stuck by me through thick, thin, and putrid. But a chronic cheater? An ongoing affair with attendant deceptions and betrayals? Never. 

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  • ?
    Lv 5
    3 months ago

    The act in itself is something which shows how they deal with tough situations. Why give someone the chance to do it again. They need to learn a lesson

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