If a woman says she will kill herself if u leave her what are some negative things that can happen in the future if u marry her?

A suicide threat is the ultimate way to control an empathetic, caring person.

If you’re in a relationship with a women that threatens to kill herself if you leave, you need to follow very specific steps so that 1: You aren’t stuck in that relationship forever and 2: If she’s truly serious about taking her own life, you do your best to help her stay alive.

When someone says, “If you leave me, I love you so much, I’m going to kill myself.”

This is just playing with your emotions, it’s abusing your compassion, abusing your empathy, and guilting you into staying in a very unhealthy situation.

This is not love. This is fear. When somebody says that, they’re saying it out of fear. 

Your response could be, “Hey, let’s go get some help. Let’s talk to a therapist, let’s go to counseling together. She may or may not agree to that but at least you’ll be able to tell if she’s actually serious about it. 

99% of the time, it’s an empty threat, it doesn’t happen. Her goal is to make you feel guilty enough to stay in the relationship and keep doing what she wants you to do but that’s not fair to you. 

When someone goes into the relationship and longs and desires for what I would consider “gaps” in their life, or empty emotional holes that need filling that they didn’t get growing up during their childhood, they have these empty spaces inside. They need to fill those empty spaces with someone else’s love, time, attention, and support because they probably didn’t get it from their parents.

When people don’t have that in their life before they enter a relationship, they expect the other person to fulfill that for them. What that creates is a high dependency on the other person.

So, the relationship starts off great, you’re getting all this time and attention and love and care, and then one day, the relationship is no longer working out for you anymore, and you want to get out of it. 

Now the other person feels like they are going to be incomplete and they are also going to be very lonely, and especially not happy and feeling like they are worthless and unlovable. When you are the source of all that for them, they become dependent and you become drained.

She thinks if you leave, she’s nothing without you. She thinks that her happiness comes from you. She thinks that her worthiness comes from you. Her lovable-ness comes from you. She puts all of her time, energy, and attention into you to get back what she doesn’t have inside herself.

When you’re in this type of relationship, when someone drains you like that, you want to distance yourself from them. You want to get away from that type of person. They are very needy, they want to be around you all day every day, and they’re very clingy.

If you’re compassionate, loving, and empathetic, you probably will stick around even if you’re not in love anymore. This is what can happen. You can fall out of love because that person feels so draining.

When you decide that you don’t want to be in the relationship anymore and feel like leaving, you know doing so will hurt her so much that you choose to stay against your own better judgment, against your own personal desires and wishes, or your own personal wants and needs.

You end up staying for her, but not for you. That’s like saying, “I give up, and I’m not here to honor me anymore. I’m just going to be unhappy while she  is happy because I’m so afraid of hurting her.”

Believe me, that person is going to take advantage of that. Once you allow the behavior of someone making you feel bad, making you their only source of happiness, their only source of feeling loved and validated, once you get into that dangerous emotional situation, it’s very difficult to get out.

Typically, people who get into that kind of relationship are empathetic, compassionate, supportive, generous and kind, and caring… all of the good stuff. But that good stuff gets used against you.

If you’re in a type of relationship in which the other person feels dependent and clingy and needy, and they’re always wanting to be with you and they always want to know where you are, it goes on and on. You might have to report everywhere you go to them. You might have to report who you talk to. It can get quite deep and intrusive.

She is not your responsibility, she is her own responsibility, you cannot fix her or change her. Just call the police if she threatens to kill herself. Don’t sacrifice your own happiness for hers.

People that say things like that are manipulative. In the future she could just get worse and start making these type of threats if you don’t fulfil her every need

She is full of crap. That line has been used for hundreds of years. they dont kill them selves, its just a way to control someone.

She's a manipulator. And if a person threatens to kill themselves, just contact their parents or family or better yet, call an ambulance.  I'm serious

That's manipulative behavior by itself, so she's definitely not "perfect and good" by any standard if she's willing to manipulate someone she claims to love. Shows me she lacks empathy. 

Since you're considering a future with her, ask about her death benefits, IRA's, 401k's, life insurance and such.

Now, let someone in her family know and do not pay the extortionist. That's all it is.

Anyone who says something like that has a psychological dysfunction. There are hundreds of possible results of psychological dysfunctions, so try to use your imagination. 

Although she may seem perfect and good besides this one thing, her threatening to kill herself if your relationship ended is extremely worrisome and does not make good grounds for a healthy relationship. I would recommend trying to talk to her to see if she would be willing to go to therapy or to speak to somebody, as suicidal threats are not healthy and could lead to dangerous actions in the future.