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Is he playing me?

When I first met my baby's father he was homeless with a toddler. His toddler was 3 months old and his baby mom was saying he doesn't take care of his child. I didn't believe her because from what he was showing me, I seen otherwise. I was so desperate to be with him that I ended up getting pregnant by him too. And the whole time we've been together, he had been having sex with other women while i'm pregnant. He doesn't keep money, he owes me child support.. plus, he was abusing his 1st baby mom. She just Put a PPO on him a month ago. So I'm not really sure how to act. Sometimes I regret ever meeting him. It's gotten so bad that I actually want to fight HIS baby mom.( Mainly out of frustration) my life is a mess. What's so crazy is that he'll turn around telling me he "loves me". But I don't think he does since I keep accepting him back or I'll ask other people to babysit our kid or he'll tell me to ask my family for money. I think that's what he Meant by "love". One day he'll talk bad about His 1st baby mom then she'll send us food but I really don't care about that because she kept bothering me. Every time she was angry at him, she started bothering me telling me he is cheating on me with different women as if I didn't already know that. 😑She hasn't contacted me lately (I guess cause of the PPO she had put on him). Either way, I'm still stressed out

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  • 2 months ago

    Yea if he is cheating like that

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    If he is cheating move on from him. Not worth your time

  • ?
    Lv 7
    2 months ago

    It's understandable why you're stressed out. But honestly he sounds like a terrible person and it sounds like he's playing both of you. I know its not gonna be easy but being that you know he's not gonna change and he's shown you that maybe you should keep him from getting back with you in other words turn him down. I know it sucks but you're gonna find someone one day maybe even sooner than you think that won't be like him and that will love you and your baby just the way you two are. Also the way he treats his first baby's mom should show you how he is with women just make sure that you stay away from the bad boys because that's the thing about bad boys they're boys not men. They're not fully mature, they're not stable, and they can't handle a real relationship they can only mess with a girl for so long because they don't wanna commit or they don't know how to. His baby mom sounds like she's toxic too because its okay for her to tell you what hes doing so you can protect yourself and your baby but she's doing it just to hurt you because she's jealous that he's no longer with her. I think you need to get away from both of them because they're both toxic and if they're toxic to you they're toxic to the baby. I hope this helps and just remember you deserve better.

  • 28AKO
    Lv 5
    2 months ago

    why would u ask are u being played when u jux stated your boyfriend been cheating on u entire time u been t/g!! Know your worth and cherish your body, leave this dude alone. Take out child support on him if he's not taking care of his responsibility as a father to your child. Don't keep being a fool just to say you in a relationship with someone who doesn't care about you or your child. why keep taking him back and risking your health? It's herpes, hiv/aids and other std's out there to be going back and forth with a cheater. You choosing to stress your own self out by staying with this guy. That's you if you want to continue to be used and not know your worth, better get you some business about yourself and move on. He's probably abusive to you as well, why u want someone that keeps hurting you, cheating, etc... Go back to your first love Christ he'll always love you and never let you go. Ask God to open the eyes to your heart and led you in the right direction

  • Anonymous
    2 months ago

       

         Sounds like he is. I would dump him, find out if you can get a place of your own, have a baby shower for the baby by phone or live cam and take your money and go. Either make him show a pure committment or you will not take him. I am tired of these men, like because they are stronger than us, they deserve everything catered to them. We are supposed to matter too. But what happens to us most of the time, we lose our inheritance, lose our right to work, lose our right to provide for our children, all to keep these corporations monopolies with the armed forces. And over some stupid votes for our student government, that won't even let you work over gossip or rumors or worse, frame you for crimes you didn't do and deprive you a lawyer. So, yeah, tell him, HE NEEDS TO COMMITT OR YOU WILL QUIT.

         No more sex, no more goodies at 2 am, no more flirting, unless he becomes committed and grows up. I am tired of these Generation X - ers to Centienals that do this to people! Geez! Read your Bible and Jewish books and learn to commit to your families and take care of your women that can't take care of themselves and take their parents and communities to court and investigate theses corrupt student governments, banks, and communities and political community wealthy oligarchies!     Also, check to see if your parents or so called "good neighbors" and "good friends"are betraying you. Investigate and find out if they are telling you the truth or gaslighting you. I got "gas lighted" by so many people, you know made to have low self esteem, told I wasn't smart, when I was because they like my sister better. She is basically wealthy trash of the "Johnson & Johnson" company that came out with vaccines, that lives in ohio. No one deserves that, I just don't think we should be using an asian system, if we are already "pre - installing" people at where they were overseas, just to have them come over here, make us "undesirables", which sucks by the way, and blamed for all their parents huge companies committing crimes going back to the days of ENRON, when we did nothing "wrong" and get a bad reputations and then to top it off they base it off of who your reputation was at 6 to 18, when we are still searching for our identities. I deserved a house, I deserved at least one company for my five babies. I am going to cry again. But no one should have to go through this! NO ONE!     I don't like how they twisted the Bible and they hide the  books, there was 84 books at least, possibly as much as 150 at the most, maybe even more, and at least 7 volumes that we know of, in 4 parts of the world of the original Bible, even if it is not Canon from 1,000 A.D. , they should make it available to everyone. I don't think they will, because we could stop them. We know by the time of John, the last apostle's death, there were 84 extra books in The Holy Bible. I think they took them out because we could stop them spiritually and fight back or some of them were too short that they thought it would be a waste of time to study or simple, greed and power combination. 

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  • 2 months ago

    Seems time to decide that his intentions are of very little matter and focus on YOUR intentions instead. What do you intend for YOUR life? For your child's life? He likely really isn't able to be any more straight, reliable, trustworthy, honest or capable than he is already being. This is likely him at the top of his game. So I seriously doubt he is "playing you"... he's got nothing to play! He runs around with who knows who, nestles in with the best gal at the time who offers him a bed and food, keeps his finger in all the pies possible and has his eye out for what is different and more. For himself. That's the guy you describe. I don't see how he has much game to play. Perhaps you are ... or were... naive. 

    Quit worrying about what he's going to do. He's DOING what he does. You have yourself and a child to take care of. It's time to focus on that and the life YOU are going to create for you and your child. 

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