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? asked in Social SciencePsychology · 1 month ago

Do you think this is acceptable attitude from a school?

When I was in high school I was bullied to an extreme extent. I suffered depression and was avoiding going into school and going in late out of fear and my confidence/self esteem was destroyed.

I didn't report them as it wouldve made things worse. My school for speokr to students like trash and lacking empathy towards them (I was told this by THREE former staff too). I had so much going on that school work was the last thing on my mind, so I failed miserably but didnt care one bit- very out of character for me as I was a very high performing student.

My teachers never asked me what was wrong, they criticised me for a poor attitude and poor results when the reality is I was experiencing an all time low.

One teacher had the decency to ask if I was bullied and I denied. Months later, she told me she knows I lied to her when I denied it, and reassured me that she's a professional and wants to help and she will keep everything private and asked me to give her names and outlined the benefits why. After 8 months of misery and bottled in emotion, I told her the truth and she kept her promise and was very helpful and thoughtful. I have huge respect towards her.

I am no longer bullied anymore. In hindsight, my friends think it's disgraceful only one teacher showed a non judgemental attitude towards me and wanted to help.

Do you think the lack of communication between students and teachers is a big cause towards mental health and bullying? 

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  • 1 month ago

    Bullying is part of growing up! Students who hide in their safe spaces and cry about being bullied are losers who will amount to nothing when they grow up! Its pathetic how babied and feminine kids are today! 

  • Anonymous
    1 month ago

    you did not tell her at first.

    it would have ended way sooner.

    No you need to tell right away.

  • 1 month ago

    I understand you because I've been in a similar situation. In the end, you can only rely on yourself.

    Some teachers only care about their paycheck. Others would only intervene when there's physical violence. Most don't know how to deal with bullying. The thing is that bullies are often difficult to spot and control. They're not stupid, so they choose wisely the moment and place to do the bullying.

    Most teachers aren't therapists, and don't know how to act when a student is not doing well in their class. The family often doesn't know what to do either. Often it is better to not let them know -your parents or teachers- because this will only make things worse in the long term.

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