I'm 41, single parent of 4 and just found out I'm pregnant again. Kids are 21, 16, 12 and 9. ?

Wow! Some of these people are quite hateful and condemning! What's sad is it's not just one or two being that way, it's more than half of the repliers. 

That's a shame that your future baby has a "father" who wanted you to abort your and his baby. My daughter's "father" has no part in her life, instead of requesting an abortion, he was insulting in his denial of being the bio dad, and wanted a paternity test...I chose to ignore his behavior and didn't want someone like him involved in our life. He's the type, IF he had wanted to have visitations, most likely would be poisoning her mind with doubts, ill talk and feelings. 

Not sure what the dad of your baby's feelings on your upcoming birth, but to me he already sounds like he wouldn't really be father material. Seems there are a lot of those type of "men" more and more these days. 

As for letting your family know about your pregnancy, perhaps when things settle down and are calmer for you. It's quite a bit to cope with having to deal with the upcoming birth of another child, then the "father" wanting you to have an abortion, having to be a single mother...NOT to mention how this past 15 months are more have turned our world upside down...that's a lot to have on one's plate.

I'm sure you will know when, as they say "Mother knows best." Sending warm wishes for peace happiness and joy for you and your new soon to be baby. 

You had several miscarriage's in the last few years (my apologies) so it sounds like this pregnancy was intentional. Surely you've wanted this to happen. And since you've had several kids already, you are already aware of all the ins and outs of being a parent. Nothing will be a surprise for you. You already know about the late nights, the feedings, the diapers, the crying, all the hardships (as well as the joys). You should be emotionally prepared and certainly have more education on the matter than any first time mom. You will just have to work on having the stamina for all those less sleep nights. The nice thing is that you still have other kids in the house. They better be aware that your time will have to be spent mostly with this new addition to your family. Luckily they might be able to assist with baby chores. Best of luck. 

Michele,

Maybe when it feels to be the right time for you, then you can confide to your family members about your pregnancy. Sorry about the loss of your husband and the father of your children. You have my sympathies. Also sorry how you were looking for advice and came across and some very mean answers. What would they think of one of my nieces who does have 4 children fathered by 4 different men. 😲They'd probably want to stone her. SMH.Married to 3 of them for a short time, all by the age of 21! None of my other nieces had been in her predicament, yet none of us judged her at all. She takes good care of her babies, the fathers all get along and strangely enough, 7 years later ended up back with her 1st husband. He is awesome with her 3 other children not being his biological offspring.Good luck on newest edition and no doubt you will reveal your pregnancy when you feel it's the right time. ✌🏼🤞🏼👌🏼😃

Whenever you want since you're supposed to be a grown adult.,,,, do what would be best

congratulations , kid number 5 without a dad , really smart arent you ..your problem not ours ..lol !!! by the way how does a male troll get pregnant with 4 kids already ..🤣🤣🤣🤣

There is a high chance that you will be a single mom to this baby because you mentioned the father wants you to get an abortion. Sometimes men take longer to adjust and if he knows your keeping it he may eventually come around. With that said he still will have a financial obligation for this child. You shouldn't be thinking negative about miscarriages, yes they can happen especially with your history. And at your age you are at higher risk. Take it one day at a time. When your ready you can announce your pregnancy.

I thought the same as 'anonymous' .(i can be pre-judice sometimes). Sorry to hear about your husband.

Sex should be within marriage if you want your children to have a good example; then your kids wont be scared to tell you when they are pregnant.

Well done on not killing the innocent child.  Hope you can afford it.

Whenever you want since you're supposed to be a grown adult.

and you still dont know what causes pregnancy

too much leg opening with the wrong men , ever heard of contraception?