What do you think about what my husband did?

I agree with the majority in saying that it is suppose to BOTH of your money, not just YOUR med debt and HIS house bills....if you have a joint account (which old fashioned couples do...but I guess not no more judging by that 1 rude comment) then it should be BOTH of your money. You should have equal access to the account. Since you were unemployed, did you do things around the house? (Usually back in the day, wives stayed home and took care of things in the house while the husbands work...things changed obviously, but I just brought this up since you were in the same situation). If you didn't, then I can see why there's a huge issue. If you did, yet he still doesn't give you access to the bank then there's something wrong with him.

Whatever it is, you guys really need to work it out. Go to marriage counseling. COMPROMISE. The more one of you argues, the other will pushes and it'll be a big petty mess. Try to think rationally/logically. If not then simply take it to court and hash it out there.

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Things like this happen even when you're not dependant on husband.  It's not uncommon that couples don't work this sort of thing out with each other when the husband decided it's his way or no way.  I haven't been married legally but I have a problem with being disregarded.  It hurts a lot and people try to seem more important than they are when you're doing what's best for everyone they are only thinking of themselves.  You have some serious thinking to do with him leaving you high and dry I'm glad you are working now so you don't have to depend on him completely.

Disagreements about finances are one of the commonest and most serious marital issues that counselors often hear about, and you sure have some serious ones.  

You need to go to couples counseling with him, or without him,if he refuses to go. Your marriage isn't going to last under these current circumstances.

Do you live in a community property state? If so, its fifty-fifty, and each of you are entitled to half of everything, including debts.

Your husband sounds like a jerk.

Good luck! 

YOU are stupid to combine finances with him.  I was married 26 years and the ONLY thing that was in both names was the house.  I had my own bank accounts, my own credit (and good thing because he had to file bankruptcy due to financial irresponsibility) my car was in MY name only, paid for by ME.  I didn't want ANY financial accounts in joint names.  He didn't need to know how much money I have.  We split the bills, I'd pay the ones I was responsible for and he paid the rest.  This crap about joint this and that when married is STUPIDITY!!   Joint bank account when married is the height of ignorance and stupidity.  

I think he should give you $500 but only if you stay. I wouldn’t give $500 to an ex. 

At least one of you is childish and is being disrespectful to the other, and maybe both of you are.

Here's two ways to fix the money issue.

1)  You both get paid.  You both put your entire paychecks into a joint account.  All the expenses get paid out of that account.  No money comes out that you do not both agree on.  In addition to that, you both agree to an amount that you each get as a weekly allowance to go into your own separate accounts, to use as gifts, personal expenses, fun money, and things that are not common expenses that do not benefit both of you. 

This is only good if both can be trusted to not take money out of the joint account that the other did not agree to.  Good luck on that.

2)  If one of you insists that their paycheck is not going into the joint account, here's a fair fix for that.

A)  Add up all the expenses for the month.  This is everything that affects both of you.  Gas for the cars to get to work, groceries, utilities, rent, insurance, MEDICAL BILLS, car repairs, taxes, other fees, etc.

B)  Add up your total income for the month.

C)  Divide your total expenses by your total income.

EXAMPLE:  If your total expenses come to $900 a month, and your total income is $1500 a month, then $900 divided by $1500 is 0.6 which means that it takes 60% of your bring home pay to pay your bills for the month.

This means that you each pay 60% of your bring home pay to pay for the monthly expenses. 

Say that he makes $500 a month.

Say you make $1000 a month.

60% of his $500 comes to $300.

60% of your $1000 comes to $600.

Add that up, $300 + $600 = $900.  BOOM!  Bills are paid

and you each have a fair amount of your paychecks left based on what you each earn.

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You obviously cant be trusted with money

I can't even TELL what your husband did because your English is so terrible and your grammar makes you seem like a 12 year old.

My?  I?  His?  He?  your expenses?

You do understand that you are MARRIED, right????  There is no "my" and "his".  You are a married couple.  You don't have debt, the two of you do.  

Quit living your lives like roommates and start living as a married COUPLE.