Why is he like this?

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So my friend and I hand out and ended up having a make out session. They ended up going too far and ended up touching me in my genital region even though I told them I was uncomfortable. Weeks later I had the bravery to confront them about. They tell me they never sexually assaulted me because I didn’t say no and that if I had said no they would have stopped. Funny story is at one point they asked if I wanted to have sexual intercourse with him. When I told him I wasn’t ready he got all angry at me and said “I don’t understand why girls take sex so seriously.” I of course needed clarity whether or not I was raped.

I ended up looking online at rape forums most of them said unless a girl or guy verbally says yes it can be considered sexual assault.

I told him I wanted an apology and instead of admitting to me what he did was wrong he went and deleted me on social media. He then proceeded to block me so I couldn’t contact him. He also had the audacity to call the police saying I was harassing him.

Why is he doing this? Is he mentally unstable or a narcissist? I am doing my best to move on I just want some clarity or closure.

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The guy is just angry and obviously  has some idea that insulting women because they don't want to have sex with him is ok to do. Well, it's not ok to get angry about respecting a woman's limits and personal boundaries.

If you're not emotionally prepared for sex, then don't find yourself in precarious situations like this anymore.  And avoid men who are pigs too.

Onlooker · Answer

My guess is he's anxious about his own behavior and is handling it very poorly. He sounds very childish. This is his problem, not yours. That said, if you feel he took advantage of you, whether it's coercion or assault, I would encourage you to see a therapist as a first step of loving and accepting yourself.

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It doesn't matter why he does what he does.  All YOU need to know is that he is an a**hole and YOU should have beat him to deleting.  As it is, be glad he is angry at you .. you should NOT be spending time with him. And if he tries to contct you, do NOT accept contact from him.  he's no good, and it doesn't matter why.
In my opinion, he is just an ordinary young man .. not getting enough sex and angry when he doesn't get what he wants.  STILL .. not acceptable to be with,.

Young girls seek love, young men seek sex. If you are not ready to have sex with a man, don't go anywhere private with him, because he will think - or at least hope - that your agreement to this means that you are going to have sex with him. And some guys do NOT want to take "no" for an answer, so just avoid the situation in the first place.

Make sure that YOU develop enough self-esteem that you find enough courage TO say "NO" when you feel that way. Don't be passive, because staying silent is how you become a victim and can even get you raped .. and charging them with rape doesn't undo the emotional violation of being raped.
  
If you don't have the courage to speak up for yourself, don't date yet.

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Why is he like this?

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