My wife is becoming a bit of a hoarder- what do I do?

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The company she works for recently returned to working in-person, and now she'll bring back stuff from the office- pens, post-its, sometimes cupcakes if people bring them in. But recently she's started hauling in whole-*** computer chairs, monitors, computer towers- pretty soon I found out this company is MORE than going out of business. They're having a goddamn auction. She's apparently been bidding big bucks for the furniture, computers, even a coffee machine! I ask where she's getting the money for this, she says she's been dipping into her 401k! It's her money, but damn, it seems irresponsible- and now our house is cluttered with office furniture! She says she's gonna sell it, but she seems to be in no rush. What the hell do I do?

Update:

Someone mentioned that I should just discuss it with her, the problem with that is we're very estranged and only staying together for the kids. So. Not really an option.

Update 2:

I can't move out because then who's gonna play ball with my son? I'm not gonna leave him without a strong male role model, godd*mnit. You guys sound just like my wife.

vic · Answer

Givevher 2,days to get rid of it if she doesn’t you throw it out, her money or not meet her when she gets home every day and refuse to let her bring in anything else, grow a pair and just say no

crazy · Answer

Well, while she is at work, haul it off to a storage unit.
You need to seek counseling. Staying together for the sake of the kids is a bad thing.
You can still play ball with your kids unless she is a beech about things.
Better yet, see if you can get custody - problem solved!

? · Answer

Can you ask her to store it in the garage or at a storage unit for now? I mean, you live in that house as well so you do have a say. Also, sorry about being on "estranged" terms with her. Since you guys are still living together, is there anyway you can talk to her? I would NEVER feel comfortable living with someone I was fighting with! If the situation with her was that bad then you can totally move out. You as an adult should have enough money to get your own place. You don't have to stay for the children. They would understand and would rather see you happy then always fighting with her. You can play ball with them or whatever even if you didn't live there. Good luck.

Claude Have Mercy · Answer

Put them hands on her!

BIRTHCONTROL! · Answer

She's not a hoarder - she's a f ucking THIEF!

RoVale · Answer

You have to take the tough approach and get rid of those items as soon as she brings them home. Otherwise, you'll end up being in a home where you have to crawl over piles of junk to get from one room to another.

i + i · Answer

Since you claim to only be there 
for the boy, sounds like you should 
simply mind your own business.

Dr. Stephanie · Answer

Your wife may need psychological help to free her from hoarding. meanwhile, staying together for the kids is not necessarily the best thing for them, if it is an unhappy household.

Pearl L · Answer

not much you can do but go stay somewhere else if you dont want to be around it

Anonymous · Answer

Have you tried the radical tactic of discussing it with her, and letting her know your feelings on the matter?

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My wife is becoming a bit of a hoarder- what do I do?

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