Karen

This just doesn't make sense to me. I have to have an oral communications class for my major. COM 181 to be exact...but they offer it online? I'm petrified of public speaking...yes, I know..everyone is. But if I can do it over a webcam or something, I'll take it. How does that work? Is it webcam or something else? Thanks!

One of my good guy friends [Bob], who has always been super sweet and really good looking, started wanting to hang out with me a lot lately. We went to the movies & he came over to my house to hang out a couple times. I assumed he liked me, & he finally admitted he did..a lot. But my ex-boyfriend who, I'm not going to lie...it's been a few months but I still really care about him, came back in the picture claiming he wanted me back. I told Bob about my situation and how conflicted I felt about me liking him and still caring about my ex & he was totally understanding about it & claimed to be patient until I came to my decision. I told him I wasn't going to be pressured into a relationship by either of them. During our winter break though...Bob wanted [kind of pushed] to hang out & I agreed. He ended up buying me all of these presents. He's kind of sensitive & was SO nervous about me not liking them. I was completely flustered & flatter. I accepted the gifts because he told me he had spent a lot of time picking them out and I didn't want to hurt his feelings...especially since I was going to be spending the day with him. The whole time...he just hugged and kissed me over and over. I know I shouldn't have led him on more by doing it back but I felt at that moment..I didn't have a choice. He clearly assumed I had let my ex go at that point & thought it was okay to act like we were a couple. So, I did end up letting my ex go because of everything that had already happened..but now I'm just really unhappy. I told them I didn't even want to be in a relationship right now in the first place, but they kept pushing. I should have put my foot down but now it's too late. I have no clue what to say to Bob, but..especially since he wants to take me out to a dinner & a movie [& pay for it all]...I feel like now's the time to be brutally honest with him since I was sooo stupid and didn't before. I'm so frustrated..how do I tell him now's not the time? Yes, I know I'm a douche bag...but if I'm not happy & willing...the relationships going to be crap & he deserves SO much better. If you answer, thank you so much <3

One of my good guy friends [Bob], who has always been super sweet and really good looking, started wanting to hang out with me a lot lately. We went to the movies & he came over to my house to hang out a couple times. I assumed he liked me, & he finally admitted he did..a lot. But my ex-boyfriend who, I'm not going to lie...it's been a few months but I still really care about him, came back in the picture claiming he wanted me back. I told Bob about my situation and how conflicted I felt about me liking him and still caring about my ex & he was totally understanding about it & claimed to be patient until I came to my decision. I told him I wasn't going to be pressured into a relationship by either of them. During our winter break though...Bob wanted [kind of pushed] to hang out & I agreed. He ended up buying me all of these presents. He's kind of sensitive & was SO nervous about me not liking them. I was completely flustered & flatter. I accepted the gifts because he told me he had spent a lot of time picking them out and I didn't want to hurt his feelings...especially since I was going to be spending the day with him. The whole time...he just hugged and kissed me over and over. I know I shouldn't have led him on more by doing it back but I felt at that moment..I didn't have a choice. He clearly assumed I had let my ex go at that point & thought it was okay to act like we were a couple. So, I did end up letting my ex go because of everything that had already happened..but now I'm just really unhappy. I told them I didn't even want to be in a relationship right now in the first place, but they kept pushing. I should have put my foot down but now it's too late. I have no clue what to say to Bob, but..especially since he wants to take me out to a dinner & a movie [& pay for it all]...I feel like now's the time to be brutally honest with him since I was sooo stupid and didn't before. I'm so frustrated..how do I tell him now's not the time? Yes, I know I'm a douche bag...but if I'm not happy & willing...the relationships going to be crap & he deserves SO much better.

There's this really sweet guy I met at school this year, and we immediately became friends. We always talk in class and text all day really long messages. Just recently, we have gone on 2 dates. Once to the movies, and once at my house where we cuddled and watched movies for hours. Even though he's never told me how he feels about me, I guess because he's afraid I won't feel the same, it's clear he really likes me. I feel awful though. I really wanted to hang out with him because I wanted to see if I could have feelings for him, too. Honestly, I feel like I would have had really strong feelings for him if it wasn't at this time. I went through a really hard break up a couple months ago and I still have feelings for the other guy, who wants me back & I'm not going to right now obviously,...and I'm just not ready for another serious boyfriend. The thought freaks me out. I don't want to use him to move on..it won't work. I want to give the next guy I date 100% of me, whether that be him or not. But I've already led him on because I acted like I really liked him, which I do like him, but just not like that...I feel like a horrible person. I just want to stop all of this before he gets too attached to me and I really hurt his feelings to the point of awkwardness and not talking. I see him everrrrrryy day. How do I break it off nicely when he doesn't even talk about feelings? ugh, awkward.

I had been dating a guy for about 7 months when...basically out of no where...he didn't want to be together any more. He had a lot of stress from school and was at a confused state. He told me he wanted to get his act together and then date me more seriously again. Of course, we still hung out and acted as if we never really split..& then once again, broke it off. But, for good. He claimed we were "too different." I was completely heartbroken. A week later, he had a new girlfriend. Ohh. That's why you really broke it off. - my first impression. She was a younger girl two grades below us. Completely hurt and confused, I ignored his texts and calls. Two weeks later, I felt ready to talk to him again. Y'know, he had to explain himself. Give me his bullshit excuses. He told me he didn't even really like this girl. He only started dating her from the pressure of all his friends. He told me maybe one day we could get back together & to keep me in the back of his mind. He wanted to continue being friends. I was still...completely in love with him...so I was happy with this explanation. But at the same time, I knew I shouldn't have been. He was acting like a douche! So, I began to think that what he asked was completely and utterly selfish and I wasn't going to wait for him. Weeks have gone by, and I'm not such an emotional wreck. I have been happy and I have felt like I don't need him in my life like the way I used to feel. I even started talking to this cute guy I sit next to in math. He's really sweet and he's a good kid, like me. My ex liked to party and smoke blunts - not really my thing. I'm not really sure if this new guy likes me though...I wish I did. I don't know if he does this with all his friends that are girls, but he texts me every day, tickles me...is super sweet, and even suggested that we go see this movie he thinks looks good. Just friends? perhaps. Of course I was like, sure! It felt good to get this kind of attention again. Weellllll, like 3 days ago...my ex calls and tells me he still doesn't have any feelings for his girlfriend and that he wants to break it off. He misses me and wants to have me back in his life. Which...I mean I kinda always wanted to hear him to say that...just so I could say no. But we started talking and he seems so genuine and sweet about it. He says he's really sorry and never really wanted me to get over him. I'm like whaaaattttt. When I told him I didn't know...and that I couldn't give him a 100% that I could ever get back with him...I swear he almost started crying, told me he really needed to just get off the phone. I didn't want to leave with him sad! I've realized I still care for him and love him; everythings still pretty fresh. I told him I was so afraid that he'd just do it again. He left so easily the first time. He said he really loves me and knows what he wants now...me. I couldn't handle him being sad...I'm so dumb! I told him we could try it again. But now, I'm having regrets...I don't know if he's what I want any more. But at the same time, this new guy won't tell me if he likes me or not and...if he does..what if he doesn't want to stay my friend because I got back with my loser ex-boyfriend? What if he thinks I like him back? (ha, I do.) That'll hurt him...I'm so confused. I already told my ex i'd get back with him & he's breaking up with that little girl. I might tell him I don't want to do this... I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO! Please, give me and kind of advice!

Whenever I'm with my boyfriend and we start kissing, I have a ridiculous amount of discharge coming out of my vagina. It's really gross and uncomfortable. Sure, I have it normally...but just a little bit. And when around him, I'm like drenched. Why is this??

My friend is really down and stressed right now. I told him he could talk to me about it but I didn't really have anything to say to him...just agree and be there to listen. I want to give him a pep talk or something. He's stressed about school...parents...basically, a lot more also. He's pretty messed up from childhood experiences. He says he feels he'll never succeed in life. Any one have any examples of nice, encouraging things to say to him? :\

Nowww, this is a bit different. We've only been dating for like a week and half. By the time Valentines Day comes along, it'll be a month! (NO, not intending on breaking up between then and now) Hehe. What should I get him? I was thinking making him cookies and then buying him something else:) Any suggestions?

Like I have an idea, i just need some stuff I should fill in the blanks with? I want to draw him something cutesy but idkkkbro! He always draws precious little things for me:3 Any ideas?

Sooo, I've been talking to this guy since school started in August. We ended up being really good friends. But almost 2 weeks ago, he told me he REALLY liked me & I was in total shock. Truth is, we are completely different. I guess opposites attract, because I started to like him as well. He would send me the sweetest texts and notes during the day. We went to the movies and blahblah we had as great time:)! He asked me to be his girlfriend like 5 days ago. Of course, I said yes. He's called me every night and told me he loved me a few days ago. I didn't say it back....because I felt it was too soon. He apologized that night. But it bothered me that I didn't say it back...& I didn't want him to think that I didn't love/like him too..So, I wrote him a note yesterday telling him I was just nervous to tell him and that I really did love him too. Also that I love spending time with him and It's just hard for me to really open up to people because I can be very quiet. I've been feeling really self-conscious about the note. & to make it worse, he didn't call or text me at all. I wonder if he thinks I'm creepy or obsessed with him..which I'm not. I think? I haven't texted him or called either...I just feel like i've messed up?

I woke up & wasn't feeling right. I talked my mom into letting me skip school & slept hours after. I don't feel tired anymore but just weird & it's like I've been having all this anxiety lately; which I never have. I'm starting to become a little worried..