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I work as a software consultant in a company. I dont drink monday to friday, hoping that I will drink on friday and saturday. I anticipate friday with the feeling that I can drink beer. I drink around 1500 ml (2 bottles of 8% alcohol each) on friday and saturday. If for some reason I am not able to drink or I try to refrain my self from drinking, I feel that I am wasting my weekend. Please tell me is it too much and harmful for my health to drink 2 bottles of beer per week. If yes what should I do to cut it or pass the urge of drinking?

We were three guys living in three separate rooms in a flat. Last month marriage of one of the guy is fixed. His marriage is after 8 months i.e in 2015.

He has moved in his would be wife in our flat. They are making love celebrating the companionship by cooking together watching tv togetheretc etc.

Who am i to say anything to them?

But my routine haa been devastated by a couple in our flat. I feel shy to move out of my room. Mostof the time they are cooking in kitche so i feel awkward to go in kitchen and take my food.

I come from a small town and i get the feeling that what they are doing is not right as he should rent a separate flat if he cannot control till his marriage.

So i hv decided to move out. Will i be called a loser or narrow minded for this step. I just dont feel comfortable tlin my house any more.

I am in a dilemma. I love to eat chicken very much. But whenever i eat it, I feel very guilty the next day. I killed it to satisfy my taste buds.

Once i went to take chicken in Bangalore with my muslim friend. The butcher, drowned the live chicken into a pot of extremely hot water without even stunning it.

I was very depressed to see this. I asked my Muslim friend, does he not feel bad for the chicken killed in such a terrible way.

He said, chicken and other animals are meant for nothing else than being eaten by humans, as Allah created these creatures for us. They dont have soul and they dont feel any pain. We can kill as many number of them without committing any sin.

This made me feel for a what if I would have been a Muslim, I would eat chicken daily without getting a guilty feeling.

Should I try to become a Muslim, because it is difficult for me to leave eating chicken.

1. There is this girl, madly, physically and completely in love with one guy for last 6 years.

2. Girl's family has decided not to allow her to marry that guy. Girl deliberates and decides to marry someone approved by her family that's me

3. Girl start meeting and talking me and after some time she confesses with me that she had a past and she is ready to sacrifice it and marry me.

4. We started understanding each other. Meanwhile her lover goes to USA for 2 months for some project work

5. Suddenly this guy comes back from USA. Her behavior changes dramatically. She stopped meeting me. She is saying that since we are not officially married, she has to be committed to her lover for some more months as she do not want to anger him. She want to end her relationship on a happy note.

6. She don't meet me at all, she talks to me only in text messages. Both of them go places, have dinner, do shopping and possibly have sex daily

7. The bottom line is- she has said, she will only keep her lover happy for two months. After this when our parent fix the marriage, she will leave him forever and move on with me.

8. Option is with me, to wait or to leave her. ( they both love each other..but i am going to be her husband! ) . I feel too weak too leave her as i love her very much.

9. My question is, shall i trust this girl, that once our marriage is fixed, she will forget her lover. Or is it a very risky thing and she might not turn up for marriage or continue her affair.

when we go to restaurant with self service, she will occupy the seat tells me what she want to eat. I will order and sit next to her and wait. Even if there are 3 plates and can't be brought in one round she will not move but ask me to bring all the things one by one like a waiter.. in theater movie break she will just ask me to bring coffee or snacks for her. She will never move, even if I have to make 2 trips for the things. I am first time in a relationship so unsure if this is normal expectations of a girl and I should not feel insulted. She also keep calling me psycho, old man if I miss any of her whispers like , "I m having stomach ache" I was feeling distressed and very low on self respect. Pls advice if I m not fit for relationships. I try to do everything to keep her happy but I could not see any effort from her side.

She also told me that the reason she is marrying me is because I am good natured. I am moderately good looking but she tells me I am not fit for her look wise as she is perfect. she abuses me but tells me she loves me from heart.

when we go to resturant with self service, she will occupy the sat tells me what she want to eat. I will order and sit next to her and wait. Even if there are 3 plates and can't be brought in one round she will not move but ask me to bring all the things one by one like a waiter.. in theater movie break she will just ask me to bring coffee or snacks for her. She will never move, even if I hv to make 2 trips for the things. I am first time in a relationship so unsure if this is normal expectations of a girl and I should not feel insulted. She also keep calling me psycho, old man if I miss any of her whispers like , "I m having stomach ache" I was feeling distressed and very low on self respect. Pls advice if I m not fit for relationships. I try to do everything to keep her happy but I could see any effort from her side.

Should people with high blood pressure even slightly over 120/80 decide to marry. I have heard it is too dangerous, life shortening, can cause stroke. Is it not wrong to marry a presumably healthy person.

I am 32 Male from South India

She is my would be wife. When she met me 8 months back she told me that she want to be honest with me and so disclosed that she had a past. Her lover is in same city in which we two are working.

She assured me that her past is past and she will never bring it in our present but she needs some time to forget her lover.

Now I respected her honesty and gave her time of 4-5 months. The problem is she is constantly demeaning me and my feelings by bringing the name of her lover. that if he would have been there he would have never treated me like this, no one can love me more than him and what not.

Every time she says to me that she is going to meet him for the last time, but she meets him as she prefers to live near his house rather than mine which are at different ends of the city.

Now since I am far I cannot be always available to her and she is relishing the time with her lover assuming that I m fine with it as she will be mine completely after marriage.

Few days back she also confessed with me that she had physical relationship with his lover on regular basis for so many years so I should understand her that it is difficult to leave a person after that and thus I should give her more time.

I assume that the physical relationship is going on now also.

Can this girl be trusted at all. I loved her for her innocence and honestly but as she continues to bring her lover in the present, I am worried she will never change, not even after marriage.

Though I lover her, but I am unable to imagine her as mine, pictures of her sexual encounter with her lover are coming in my mind the moment I think her.

Please advice, If I am on completely wrong path and this girl is hopeless.

P.S She cant marry that guy because of some family issues which cannot be resolved

Hi,

I was diagnosed with Graves Eye and thyroid disease in 2011, when I was about to complete my MBA and got a good job.

I have started hating myself and have become an Atheist because I never did any wrong thing in my life, always gave money and help to needy people and still I was cursed with this disease.

I want to pray but unable to since I find it illogical why God has given me this curse. Now I know that no girl will marry me. I have nowhere to go from office, I have no one to speak to. Previously I had God but now I am unable to speak to him also.

I am totally lost, I have forgotten my career path and I am heading for a doom.

Please help if someone can still see if there is any hope left in my inconsequential presence in this world

I started meeting a girl. She was very nice to me and so did I. I try to be romantic with a person I like at a steady pace from the start itself. I did the same with her. One day she told me that she is not comfortable with my flirts. Assuming that I might be hurt, because I was too nice with her, she called me back after some time and ask me to forgive her for being so rude. After that I did not want to meet her,as I am emotionally weak and may fall for her in-spite of knowing that she wont reciprocate.

Even after this she always try to get to meet me for a coffee or a talk for couple of hour. She might have been thinking that I can go mad for her, so one day she started to open herself and told me about her relationship with a guy, who is married and have a child. That guy is in a far off town and she says she will not meet him anymore as it will spoil his marriage. She told that she love him immensely and all bla bla... which is the last thing I would like to hear from her when I am with her.

I got very angry as I was getting a feeling that she is making me her emotional tampon. I try to not meet her, but she keeps trying to be in touch, and want to spend time with me.

What shall I do now? In no way I am looking to be an emotional support for her past relationship. I can only like her from a romantic perspective. If she does not reciprocate I would like to discontinue meeting her.

Shall I completely disallow her by being rude and by not talking to her ever?

please advice. As of now trying to just be a friend by limiting the meetings with her is not helping me at all as it will make me a fool.

I worked for 4 years post Engineering studies for one IT company in Bangalore. Never before I faced any problem with respect to people using local language like Kannada/Tamil in office proceedings. It was English always and I was absolutely comfortable in conversing in it. Then I went for higher studies and after that I joined one IT company in Pune, Maharashtra, it is 170 kms from Mumbai. Problem is people here are always speaking in Marathi or Hindi but never english. The majority of my team always speak in Marathi every now or then even during conference calls with multiple people involved in it. There is so much understanding between managers and other local employees that they Jell up among themselves so much in their native language or Hindi, that they forget that some one else is also their who expects things to be discussed in English, which is the official language. The worst part is that I become a fool. Even if some native guy does not do his work he will simply speak in Marathi to the Manager and say that I was at fault. I am tired of requesting them to speak in English but they don't seem to be bothered by my request. I am seriously thinking to move back to Bangalore as my career will be sabotaged with this Regionalism. Request you people to please help me understand what are my options? To me things are not looking good

India the so called emerging economy is at the verge of the collapse from the common man's view of his country. The corrupt politicians and corrupt corporations have colluded and are looting the countries natural resources and all the tax payer's money. All the coal which could have fueled the country for 150 years is given free to corrupt, ineligible and fake companies,

Politicians have amassed net worths which is in billions and trillions. We were hoping that at least there is the Supreme Court which will ask the corrupt to return the looted money and also make them accountable for their actions. But following by the 2 G aquittal of criminals, The court is also soft on the corrupt government for the 2 trillion ruppes coal scam. This is quite depressing for me, where shall I go? what shall I do? It is becoming difficult to see the condition of the common man struggling to arrange all meals for his family while the prime minister throws a party to his corrupt ministers which cost INR 8000 (160 $) per plate which is outrageous by Indian standards. please suggest I am not able to focus on my Job and family because of the situation my country is in right now.

I have joined a new company in a new city after my higher studies. the company is full of beautiful girls. But almost all of them have one permanent office boyfriend. they show as if they are insanely in love with that creature. always texting/calling to him if he is not with them. He will always be like a servant to them, taking orders from them,opening doors, carrying their bags, bringing them snacks and reserving seats for them in food courts and buses.

How is this possible that all the girls have a boyfriend and so many are there in true love just like love birds. It seems to be a little bit annoying to the singles like us when they do the love making in places like bus of food courts.

And if all of them are already taken, will the less fortunate souls who are late to join the party will ever find a girl for friendship or even for marriage sake?

I see that India which was once called growing economy, is turning out to be a failed state just like somalia and pakistan.

Look at their leaders; All ministers are robbing the taxpayers wealth. some one told me that half of the GDP of the country goes into the pockets of their corrupt leaders like manmohan, pawar chidambaram etc. there is no law and order in the country. It will be a mockery if we call it a democracy. it is purely dictatorial regime by one famous political family. is it true?

My friend is eating way too much. He is not obese but he is 28 which is the start of fat gaining cycle. He eats 4 medu vada daily + heavy junk food mostly non veg in lunch + mandatory snacks inevening like bread pakodas or burger 2-3 at a time. If this is not enough he takes around 10 chapatis(indian bread) with a lot of fatty dishes. Finally he ends his day with a couple of beer (650 ml) each.

I was apalled to see all this so I just checked with him if eating like this is fine and healthy. He told me that he has a very good metabolism as he goes for 15 minutes jogging thrice in a week. So he will never become fat and will be free from diseases(he smokes 7-8 cigarettes also daily).

Please advice if he is right or shall I tell him to slow down a bit on his eating habits

My father considers himself as the supreme power and fights with everyone. He has not yet purchased a home for us though he earns a lot and is in the last year of retirmenet from government service. I and my brother have just started our careers and are not in position to buy a house. Brother is now 31 and I am 27 . The funny thing is that he said that he is not interested in getting a house for us or getting us married. Over and above he has given all his ancestrol property to his sisters and brothers. What shall we do with this man. Because of mother we were quiet till now. Shall we severe all relationship with him? He drinks and beat mother everyday. Shall we sue him for his unreasonable behaviour towards us. Please guide.

PS:In india it is a taboo and almost difficuit to get marry without one's own house

8 months before I was diagonised with hyperthyroidism. my TSH was << .01. I went to the Endo and he put me on carbiamazole - the anti thyroid drug. He also asked me to take wysolone - the steroid for few weeks. Immediately after some time say 1 month, I started gaining a lot of weight. I checked my TSH after 5 months and it came normal though on the higher side which was 1.5 and 2 on two occasions.

now 8 months are gone and I am still on carbiamazole. the problem is that my stomach and thighs are bloated now. no matter how hard I try I am not loosing anything. is this because of steroids I took or is it because the TSH is way above 5 now and I am hypothyroid. also please let me know when will the doctor take me off the antithryoid medicines. I am not in the same city as he is and I will be going to him next month.

I am 25 year old. I was diaognised with Graves and Hyperthyroidism 4 months back. Right now I am pursuing MBA from a top institute of the country. I was so happy that my professional career was about to began.

But after this disease everything has changed for me. My eyes are bulging out. and I am so much terrified by reading the horror stories of people with thyroid disease on internet.

my question is that is it certain that I will not be able to live a life now..the best part of my life is already done!.

I will never be able to do a private sector job. never be able to marry a girl and have a family. I will become diabetic and will get many more such chronic diseases. I have starting to hate myself and every second I am thinking why did this happened to me.

I am working in a software company. our team works on C# and .NET.

there is colleague of mine who is addicted to microsoft development forums (website where people will ask their questions. and solve also to gain points and virtual medals.). He is totally addicted to that site. he will ignore every other thing.(even now i am writing this and he is hooked to the same). he is already very lean and small (4.5 ft ) and he never takes a tea break or anything to refresh himself. since he is working under me it feels to me as a moral responisbility to make him aware about his health. I am telling this because he looks so frail that if someone pushes him he might even not stand up on his own after falling down. Although I am impressed by his extra special passion for msdn forums i still feel that he is overdoing it. mostly i will leave him to his condition but still i want to know your opinions.

I am working in a software company. our team works on C# and .NET.

there is colleague of mine who is addicted to microsoft development forums (website where people will ask their questions. and solve also to gain points and virtual medals.). He is totally addicted to that site. he will ignore every other thing.(even now i am writing this and he is hooked to the same). he is already very lean and small (4.5 ft ) and he never takes a tea break or anything to refresh himself. since he is working under me it feels to me as a moral responisbility to make him aware about his health. I am telling this because he looks so frail that if someone pushes him he might even not stand up on his own after falling down. Although I am impressed by his extra special passion for msdn forums i still feel that he is overdoing it. mostly i will leave him to his condition but still i want to know your opinions.