justtryingtohelp

Hi folks, I know there are a lot of variants on this question, but I wanted to see what you all think of this scenario (it's long):

I have been dating someone for just over 3 months. We knew each other casually in high school, but only recently were reacquainted. We spent time at the same parties and same weekend activities for a month before they asked for my number, explicitly for dating purposes. Since then, we've been on lots of dates, anywhere from 1 - 3x a week. After a month of dating we became intimate, and I expressed that I am only intimate with one person at at time. This went well for another couple months.

Lately, over the last couple weeks, I've felt my interest waning. I had a talk with them about my hectic schedule (working full-time and pursuing a graduate degree) and that I can really only date casually at this point. They expressed the same, that they wanted to be casual, as they will be moving in the next 6 months for graduate school.

A few days after that, we were intimate again, and then laid around watching a movie. When I was about to leave, I mentioned that I had been considering being celibate for my own mental clarity, that sex just takes up too much mental effort for me. This was met with shock, to say the least, and discouragement by them. Honestly, yes, I would probably react the same way if the tables were turned.

So - the real question is, should I continue to date this person? I don't see us as a long-term match, but I do enjoy spending time with them and their circle of friends. They may want to continue a physical relationship, but I'm not really feeling that anymore. What's fair?

I have tons of Nandina (Heavenly Bamboo) in my yard and I want to bring one inside my office as a bonsai cultivation. My question is, can I pot this in a steel container with a copper finish? or will there be some negative effects on the plant due to contact with metal?

Links to references are much appreciated.

Thank you!