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We were together on n off for 5 years. 2 years ago he met, moved in, and had a baby with someone within a years time. I try to stop talking to him but he calls me outta the blue to say hi. Every time I think I'm finally over it, I'll get a call, or I'll hear a song....I just got out of an 11 month relationship, and I didn't even shed a tear, nor do I miss him. I want my galvan back....he was my best friend, my everything. I need a time machine. I'd never let him go. :(

Ok, this is confusing so bare with me. Ok, two people cheated on their significant others. These 2 couples split shortly after this happened. Keep in mind this was 2 yrs ago. I was one of the ones cheated on. I don't really care what happened back then, that's water under the bridge. But the other night I ran into the ex of the other person that cheated on him with my ex. We hit it off great. We talked for 8 hours straight. And he has called me every day since. We hung out again last night until 5 AM. My question is this...Is it possible to start a relationship with someone that I share a horrible history with that I really never met? I know he has kids with her, but she has sine had a baby with someone else, and lives with this other man. My ex is still trying to be with me, but what he did was unforgivable. And this other guy is a hard-worker, and he shows great interest in wanting to be in my life and my children lives. I just don't want it to look bad as if it is a rebound. I mean it's been a couple years. We don't talk about pay-back or anything. I believe this is real. It happened by accident. Should I give it a try, even though I know his ex-wife is gonna try to kill me...not that I am scared or anything. lol...I can take care of myself. But he really is a sweet guy. I'd like to pursue this...Does this look right?

I have a 99 ford escort sedan...it is a stick shift and has had no major issue...but the other day, I took off to the store and it stopped working mid-traffic...it won't start again...occasionally it makes a noise as if it wants to turn over, but it won't...then mostly it just clicks once when I try to start it up. I thought it ran out of gas....but that wasn't it. Then I figured it was the engine, but my fiance is telling me its the starter, any mechanics out there want to give me any advice? HELP PLEASE!!!

I have this huge problem...and I need help so please if anyone has any idea on how much I should ask for, I would greatly appreciate it!

I was married in 1999 to a man that I thought was legally able to marry...come to find out 3 kids and 5 years later that he was already married in another country. Although he had no contact with his wife, he was legally married and therefore he acted as a bigamist. I had asked him prior to marrying him if he had gotten a divorce and he replied yes, so therefore he had hid the fact that he never went to a judge to have him dissolve his marriage.

I am in the middle of an annulment, and have been asked by my lawyer, how much money do I think I deserve for not only having his children and being his wife for 5 or 6 years, but also for putting up with his mental, physical, and sexual abuse?

I don't want so much that I look like I am just there for money, but for my children's sake, I wouldn't mind collecting a little lump sum.

So, any suggestions?

It all started last September...I met a man that was different. It started out as a casual relatioship...yes, a "bootycall"..we both were lonely an unattached...everything was fine for about 3 months, until I started to have feelings for him. I made the mistake of telling him I loved him. Although we were not with anyone else during this time, and we spent every night and sometimes days together. After telling him, he said he didn't feel the same for me. So I broke it off with him. After a week of miserable solitude, he came back in my life. He had told me that he didn't want to admit it, but he had fallin for me too. But everytime I felt insecure, I would leave him. I would go back to my ex...which I had a 5 year relationship with and a son...and he would sleep with someone that was a friend of mine...this went on for about 7 more months. We would break up, and realize we couldn't live without eachother, and end up together again. Well, we moved in together about 2 months ago...10 months into this relationship, I finally got what I wasnted. All his time and effort in the relationship. The first month was wonderful...but the last weekend we spent together he left in the morning, and came back at night on a Saturday, and on sunday, after I had already told him that I was feeling lonley cause he really hasn't been around in a week, he left with his friend anyway...he came back by 5 pm...then said his friends had invited him to a little get together, and he was leaving again. I told him I wasn't going to be the one to tell him what to do, but if he was going to treat me like his whore again, then he could just get his stuff. So he left...and then came back 2 hours later, telling me that we could work this out, but offering no I love you's or any comforting, so I made him leave again...and had no intention of going back to this guy, he had hurt me deeply...well, a couple weeks after this, I had a weak moment, and I made contact again. I let him stay at my house every night for a week and everything was fine until I asked him if he still loved me...he said no, and that he hadn't since before we moved in together, that he was just around for sex. I kicked him out of my house. I moved my ex back in... a couple nights later, this guy comes walking into my apartment, seen my ex and I standing in the kitchen...and said sorry and left. 10 minutes later he calls me and asks me why I didn't advise him that he was here. I told him since he didn't love me there was no reason to care. He told me to tell my ex that he had been having sex with his ex all weekend and got in a huge fight with my ex...he even went as far as to tell my ex that he was a pimp and I was his whore, and that this other woman was his whore too...he told my ex that he was going to come back and kick his ***!!! But never did come back. Well, this brings us to current time...my ex is in my bed, the man that I love is in my ex's exs' bed, and I am alone and awake at 5 am, wishing that I would have never kicked him out...knowing how much i love and need him. I feel numb, empty, and so stupid, cause I know in my heart that he loved me, he was just too sore to say yes, after I had kicked him out and after I brought my ex into my house. So, my question is...am I wrong to still love him? Am I wrong for letting him be my every thought? Am I wrong for dwelling on him, knowing I can never get him back? How do I stop loving him, when we both made mistakes, how do I let him go? How do I fight the urge to show up at his apartment, and to tell him that I am so sorry, that I love him so, that I will die if I never feel him in my arms again...how do I tell my ex that I am not in love with him anymore, and that my heart belongs to a man that I can no longer have because of my stupidity? Help, I'm ready to break down and run away from everything and everyone...I am so sad and depressed. Sorry this has been so long, but the pain in my heart won't go away.

Where are all the good men at these days? My 2 ex's are driving me loca!!!! One is with his ex in Dallas at her sons funeral...telling me he still loves me, but won't call me back in front of her when I call him and he doesn't answer. He says that he is just there because of her sons memory...which I would believe entirely if it wasn't for him sleeping with his arms wrapped around her every night, and didn't cheat on me with her last month...which is why we are not together! Then my other ex, whom I was married to for 8 years, is a bigamist, he was married in Mexico when he married me, it took 8 years and 3 kids for me to figure that out, he is driving me up the wall...he keeps telling me how much he misses and loves me and wants to be a family again...but yet...is still calling his ex gf and telling her the same ****!!! What am I to do??? How am I supposed to trust anyone, and why is everyone pissed off at me for not wanting to give it a 99th try with both of them?