Butterfly

I am hoping I can reach out to someone in a HR position with a State agency in California.

I have done some really stupid things when I was in my early twenties. I am now in the process of cleaning up the wreckage of my past. I have a court date coming up to expunge my record. My goal is to take the California State Exam and hopefully get a job with the State. I will have my Bachelor's degree here soon in Business Administration and I would like to get a position as an Executive Assistant. Is this goal unreachable because of my past?

PS. It has been over 13 years since I was in trouble with the law.

I live in California and I filed for a Dissolution Summary Divorce. I mailed them in because it seemed like such a simple process. We have no kids, no assets, no nothing so it is a real easy open and shut case. I mailed it in about 2 weeks ago and I still haven't seen my name/case on the courts webiste. I'm just wondering if anyone else out there filed this way and if they remember how long it took.

I am in the process of looking for a new place to move. I found a really nice apt. complex that is in my budget but the application is very extensive. The only reason this concerns me is because they want to run a background check on me.

Over 8 years ago I did something really, really stupid and it resulted in a felony charge. Of course drugs were involved and I allowed myself to be talked into putting a check into my checking account that didn't belong to me. Well, obviously we were caught. It took that incident for me to take a look at myself and say no more. Anyway, my question is...When this apt. complex does there background check will these things I did show up even though it happened so long ago? I have told that it stops showing up after a certain amount of time, is this true?

I am now 3 days late and the pregnancy test negative and the box said it was 99.9% accurate. Why do you think I haven't started?

We are in California and this question is in regard to my brother. What is the best way to go about getting a job when you have been in prison most of your life? My brother recently came to live with me. He has been in and out of prison most of his life, his main problem being drugs. He came to me really needing help and I told him he needed to get clean and stay clean and he could live with me for as long as he needed too. I'm happy to say he's been clean and sober for 33 days and doing really good. He just has this past that labels him. He's not a bad person, he's just done some bad, stupid things and now he wants to straighten out his life but we are having a hard time figuring out how. Quitting drugs when you have been doing them most of your life is huge for him. I am so proud of him. He's working a AA/NA program, going to meetings almost everyday and he's found a sponsor. I just wish that I could be more positive for him when it comes to his past. Where can he go to find a job for people with not so good pasts?

I have some serious problems. To me they are almost overwhelming. It is taking every once of my being to keep it together.

I have a 16 year old son that is driving me crazy. I have so much to deal with just taking care of him that my others problems are washing over me like a huge tidal wave.

My husband lost his job as a construction worker when the ecomony took a nose dive. Thank God he was able to find a job thing is, the job pays him almost half of what he was making before. So needless to say we have been struggling to make ends meet and every month I have to worry if rent is going to be paid.It's really a scary situation. Then he was hit with this mandatory health insurance insurance coverage for his son. He has a child from a previous relationship and child support is coming after him in full force. Last week he brought home a check for $240 for 2 weeks.

Then 2 months ago my husband tells me he wants his son to move in with us. His son's mom is not giving us any money and I feel like I am taking care of 5 people all by myself and it's taking toll on me.

I sometimes feel like I just want to take my kids and run for the hills. I mean I know how selfish that sounds and I know he would not be able to take care of himself right now but I can't help but feel I would be better off by myself. That old saying keeps going through my head "I can do bad all by myself". He's not a bad person. He doesn't drink, he doesn't cheat, he treats me really well. But his situation mixed in with my situation is driving me crazy. Anxious, nervious, stressed out to the point where I just want to sit and cry.

Am I wrong for thinking that I may be better off on my own?

need legal advice, please.?

Ok, so I really need help with this. I have an out of control teenager. yesterday I get a call from Macy's and they are holding my son because he was caught stealing. Believe it or not, Nordstrom's called me 2 weeks ago for the same thing.

I am a single mom with 2 kids and they are saying that instead of involving police a civil matter with take place. Meaning they will come after me for money I don't have.

I got a letter from Nordstrom's and they want me to pay them $475. I

just don't have it. So my question is, Can they send this to my credit report if I can't pay this?

I have worked so hard to clean up my credit and now I have this going on.

What should I do?

need legal advice, please.?

Ok, so I really need help with this. I have an out of control teenager. yesterday I get a call from Macy's and they are holding my son because he was caught stealing. Believe it or not, Nordstrom's called me 2 weeks ago for the same thing.

I am a single mom with 2 kids and they are saying that instead of involving police a civil matter with take place. Meaning they will come after me for money I don't have.

I got a letter from Nordstrom's and they want me to pay them $475. I

just don't have it. So my question is, Can they send this to my credit report if I can't pay this?

I have worked so hard to clean up my credit and now I have this going on.

What should I do?

need legal advice, please.?

Ok, so I really need help with this. I have an out of control teenager. yesterday I get a call from Macy's and they are holding my son because he was caught stealing. Believe it or not, Nordstrom's called me 2 weeks ago for the same thing.

I am a single mom with 2 kids and they are saying that instead of involving police a civil matter with take place. Meaning they will come after me for money I don't have.

I got a letter from Nordstrom's and they want me to pay them $475. I

just don't have it. So my question is, Can they send this to my credit report if I can't pay this?

I have worked so hard to clean up my credit and now I have this going on.

What should I do?

Ok, so I really need help with this. I have an out of control teenager. yesterday I get a call from Macy's and they are holding my son because he was caught stealing. Believe it or not, Nordstrom's called me 2 weeks ago for the same thing.

I am a single mom with 2 kids and they are saying that instead of involving police a civil matter with take place. Meaning they will come after me for money I don't have.

I got a letter from Nordstrom's and they want me to pay them $475. I

just don't have it. So my question is, Can they send this to my credit report if I can't pay this?

I have worked so hard to clean up my credit and now I have this going on.

What should I do?

I have a 16 year old boy who is my entire world. Well him and his sister of course. Lately this kid has been driving me insane and I totally don't know what to do. Saturday I get a call from his dad telling me the cops have him and they were taking him to juvenile hall for jumping on the light rail without paying. This is his 4th ticket. Then I'm told by my husband that he found out that my son has been skipping school and today I get a call from the school telling me my son is suspended for smoking behind the school.

So you see my dilemma...I have him in counseling through Kaiser right now. I try to be patient. I have lectured him till I am blue in the face. I actually to the point where I feel like telling him "if you don't care, then I don't care". I just feel like I am at the end of my rope. How do you handle your teenager?

I am in my 30's now and trying to be careful as far as sun exposure.

Can anyone recommend a good fake tan product?

I love my husband with all my heart. I just wanted to put that out there before I go into what I'm about to say.

You see, my husband and I have a great relationship. He's my best friend. Our only problem really is in the bedroom. He is only 39 and he has a horrible time keeping 'it" up. I mean it's to the point where I don't even want to try half the time because I lose interest before anything happens because it either takes forever for it to "work" or he ejaculates real fast. I don't know how to tell him this is a turn off for me.

So my question is...what kind of herbal medicine's can he take for this problem.

I usually eat regular wheat bread because it's much healthier for you. Then I came across this honey berry wheat bread and I must say it taste's fabulous. But the color of it is almost as light regular white bread. So I was wondering if anyone knew if it is better to just stick to the regular wheat bread or is this fabulous honey wheat too good to be true?

I went to a car dealership to buy a car. I found out my credit score was pretty good considering the bankruptcy I filed 3 years ago. My score is 687. Anyway because of the bankruptcy my finance charges were outrageous. The APR was 17.99%, that's almost $10,000 in finance charges. Anyway the car is a 2004 Lexus fully loaded and I got a really good deal, I paid a lil over $13,000 with only 51,000 miles on it.

So my question is when would be a good time to refinance it?

Should I wait a few months to prove that I am reliable?

Can anyone recommend a reputable refinancing company?

I am married...we have been together for 6 years and for the last year it's been such a Roller coaster ride I don't know whether I am coming or going. Abut 7 months ago he told me he was done with me and he couldn't be the man I needed and that we should just go our separate ways. I tried to change his mind because I loved him more then anything. 6 months goes by and I am finally feeling strong again and feel like I will be just fine, he decides that he wants to try again. Needless to say the trust is almost nonexistent. Anyway...I decide this is my marriage and I have an "obligation" to try and make it work.

Problem is...I just don't feel for him the way I used to. The passion is gone and it doesn't help that he hasn't worked full time in months and months and it's hard to have a sense of security with someone that can't contribute to the household. I am really starting to feel like our relationship has run it's course. So last night I try to tell him this and he starts crying and saying how unfair life is and on and on...

He is a recovering alcoholic and I am so afraid this will put him over the edge. But I don't want this to be the reason I stay. I am so confused but I have been feeling like this for quite some time now. How do I tell him we just need to let each other go.

I guess I should start at the beginning. My husband and I have only been married for 2 years but we have been together for almost 6 years. He is not a bad guy he has never abused me in any way but he has broken my heart. You see, my husband had a very hard time expressing himself and his love for me. I have come to him on numerous occasions and asked him please make me more important in your life. So over the years we have drifted further and further apart. So I finally came to him and said maybe we should just call it quits. I guess I was hoping for a reaction. But he agreed and he said he couldn't be the man that I needed. Well needless to say I was devastated. I tried on so many occasions to try to change his mind but he had made up his mind. My heart was crushed and on top of it all I had to remain in the same house because I couldn't afford to move. So although I was crushed I am a strong girl so with some time I was able to pick up my heart, dust it off and put it in a lil box (a brick one). Anyway 6 months goes by and the pain is not as intense and I finally feel like I can move on. Well after 6 months he decides he wants to get back together. And I have to say that I'm a lil peeved at him for putting me through all of this pain for nothing. So again I feel like he has put his feelings before mine. Anyway, in the mean time I start seeing someone (I know, I know) And this new guy is everything I have been looking for. He's responsible with money, husband was not. He is more affectionate then my husband ever was. He tells me everything I want to hear..He wants to be with me so bad. He has fallen so hard and so fast. And so here I am in this whirlwind romance and mu husband decides he wants me back. He is trying to convince that he NOW knows how to love me, now he wants to be the man of my dreams. This man crushed my heart and didn't even care and I'm supposed to just go running back! I do love him so much but I have a fear of him that you can't even imagine. You see, to me there is nothing worse then a broken heart and he knew that. I have forgiven him but I can't seem to forget. So my husband finds out about this new guy so I think my choice has been made. I mean why would he want to be with me now, right? Wrong! He still wants me back and the time apart from made me see that I still love him and miss him so much. I see what I did now..I convinved myself that I had feelings for this other guy do that I wouldn't let my husband hurt me anymore. But now that he's gone I miss him horribly. Please don't judge me harshly..I am a good women who is just so confused and so scared of being hurt I allowed myself to be persuaded to try another source, persay.

So my question is Should I give my husband another shot and How do I tell this other guy that I want togive my marriage another try?