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Hi guys. I'm an aquarius woman and I met a sag guy who I think is GORGEOUS! I was in a bar utterly bored with some work colleagues and I was about to leave when he walked in. I didn't take notice at first but when I was introduced to him we hit it off instantly! Unfortunately I had to leave about 20min later as I had plans with a friend.

I saw him again the following week - same bar, same colleagues. I was a bit more reserved this time, I knew two of my colleagues has sussed that I liked him. Sag guy was trying hard to get my attention, to talk to me, his eyes were completely fixed on me. I had to leave after half an hour but he offered to drop me and my friend off to where we had to go. Funnily he drove right past where we had to go (we all knew it) but he just kept driving around the block aimlessly for some minutes. I think he was just trying to buy some extra time and wanted to say something but couldn't because my friend was there. She didn't give me a chance to be alone with him at all, even though she observed that he really liked me!!

It's been two weeks and I don't know when I'll see him again. The only way I can see him is if one of my colleagues who is a close friend of sag guy, invites him. Problem is I think my colleague fancies me too so I'm not sure I can trust him to invite sag guy to our next social night out. If I see him again, how can I get across to sag guy that I like him and want him to ask me out? I have to be subtle as my colleague won't leave my side, nor will my female colleague, so I can't really come out and say it. Really need an opportunity to get him on his own... Please help!

Hi all. Here's my dilemma. Someone I work with I think has had his eye on me for quite some time. He's married but he's also very flirty with the ladies. He's never said or done anything to make me feel like he's crossing the line but he pays me a lot attention, trying to find out if I have a boyfriend, and for some time has been asking me to join him for a drink after work.

A few weeks ago I went along for a drink and took my female colleague with me who actually works for the married guy. He introduced me to a friend of his who I hit it off with immediately. I thought he was really nice but I had to leave soon after so only got to chat with him briefly. I know the whole night the married one was watching me especially when I started getting on very well with his friend.

The married one hasn't stopped teasing me about his friend ever since. I felt like he was fishing for info - whether I liked his friend or not. I didn't give anything away. So he invited me for a drink the following week. I went along (with female friend) but again had to leave quite soon as we had plans. The guy I like offered to drop us where we needed to go. He drove past the place and kept making excuses why he couldn't park up. He drove about for 5 mins aimlessly and eventually dropped us off. When we got out of the car he lingered and seemed as if he wanted to say something but my friend was standing right next to me so perhaps he didn't felt he couldn't. The vibe I got was that he liked me. The whole night he tried to get me to talk to him and was making a lot of eye contact that sort of stuff but the married one was also talking to me a lot and not really giving us much space.

Last night we were meant to go for another drink (I missed out a week when I had other stuff going on). I finally asked the married one if his friend is really single? He said yes, are you interested? I just said I was clarifying. But after that he started to back track and talk about how there were a lot of girls after his friend but he's such a workaholic he hasn't had much time for previous girlfriends. He's suddenly changed his tune a lot! Before he was making remarks such as maybe you're the girl for him, he needs someone in his life etc, etc.

Then conveniently enough he told me his friend was coming last night as he was visiting his mother! just I feel like there's someone standing in the way of me getting to know someone who I like and who could potentially like me.

Last night I went for a drink with the married one and my female friend just to make a point that I wasn't bothered too much if the friend was there or not.

Do you guys think I should be patient and wait for another opportunity to go for a drink when the friend might be there or give this up? I don't understand the married one's game. Sometimes he seems like he wants to help and other times he's getting in the way! I don't feel I can trust him but he's the only one who can arrange an opportunity for me to meet the friend at this stage.

Thanks for reading this!

Hi guys. A doctor I work with has been on my case for months. At first I thought it was because I'm the new girl but 4 months later he's still as intense as day one. I can sometimes have a laugh with him but mostly I keep it professional. He thinks I'm a bit uptight with him but it's because I know he's married and he's one of these guys who's very charming with the ladies. He's married too so I obviously want to keep my distance. Anyway, if he's not staring at me, or asking me questions whenever I'm around him, he's trying to find out if I have boyfriend or not, and for weeks he's been asking me (and my colleague) to join him for a Friday night drink. I eventually went out for this drink and pretty much ignored him the whole night even when he tried to talk to me or buy me lots of drinks. I got chatting with a few other male doctors and had a right laugh with one in particular. He would regularly call out to me, checking if I was "OK" but I didn't get into conversation with him. When I tried to leave he seemed very frustrated, jealous, and wanted me to stay but I left. He kept saying you must come again next week. Anyway, my question is, what's his game? Do you think he's after a one-night-stand or an affair? I mean he doesn't perv on me and usually is genuinely pleasant, charming and I think just wants me to give him some attention...

Hi all. A lovely guy I've been dating sent me a text message on the day we were meant to go on a date. It said "I should be free at 6 if you're still keen to meet for a s*&^". I assumed he meant "shag". We'd been on some great dates and we had a chat about me wanting to take it slow and not rush into sex. He seemed to be cool with that. So when I got that message the first thing I thought was that he was playing around. I text back saying I don't think we should see each other again, that he'd obviously sent the text to the wrong person. I got no reply. I sent another text next day saying I was sorry if I over-reacted and gave him a chance to explain. Still nothing. A few days I text again asking if he wanted to meet. Still nothing. I don't know if I misunderstood things or if he really is shagging around. Please help. Is there anything I can do as I really want to see him again.

Hi all. I've been dating a guy (he's 41). We fancied each other for months and he eventually asked me out. We've had a few successful dates. He talked a lot about his brother's wedding and how he wants a serious relationship, how he's happy to wait for sex etc. He's very open and funny and mature and wanted to take me to museums for our dates! So it baffled me when recently I got a strange text from him on the day we were meant to meet. It just said "I should be free at 6 if you want to meet for a s^%$" (I assumed he meant shag). He never speaks to me like that. I got upset and text him that I didn't think we should see each other again as it seemed to me he'd meant to send that text to another girl. He didn't reply. I''ve sent him another two texts over the space of 6 days trying to get him to talk to me and perhaps explain what he did mean. But he's not contacted me back at all. Any ideas why he's suddenly stopped talking to me and if there's anything I can do?

Hi guys. I've been dating a guy for about a month. We'd fancied each other since we met a few months before and he finally asked me out. He was keen to tell me right from the start that he's looking for a relationship. I wasn't so sure about what I wanted but he said he was happy to take things at my pace. He wasn't pushing for sex and seemed understanding of the fact that I've had pretty negative relationships in the past. We had one night of passionate night where I ended up sleeping at his place but didn't go "all the way". After that he still seemed keen to see me, told me spending time with me was the most important thing. So about a week ago I was at work when a text message came through from him. We were meant to arrange a time to meet later that day so I thought it was about that. But it wasn't, the text just said "I should be free around 6 if you're still keen to meet for a s&^%!". I assume he meant 'shag'. The first thing I thought was that he had accidentally sent me a text meant for another girl. Was I wrong? Could it have been a bad joke? Well I got quite worked up and replied " you obviously sent that text to the wrong girl. I don't think we need to see each other again. Good luck to you". He didn't reply. The next day I text again thinking I'd been harsh and asked him if I'd got things wrong and tried to give him a chance to explain. He still didn't reply. It's now been 5 days. I sent him another text today saying I missed him and would really like to see him if he wanted to. Still nothing. I'm pretty fed up and I can't figure out why he won't talk to me. What do you guys think?

Hi all. Can you help me suss out my agent? He's a Sag. Very nice looking. Likes to crack some jokes, compliments me - just nice stuff like about how talented I am. He keeps it professional. Anyway, that was a month ago when I met him interview. Since then he either calls me or emails me nearly everyday! And it's not like he has hundreds of jobs he wants to tell me about, most of the time it's just to tell me he's still looking. I'm not sure if he's interested in me or is he just being friendly? I don't get half this much attention from my other agents! What should I do because I quite like him but can't get past all the professional talk. Thanks from Aquarius girl.

Capricorns, I need your wisdom please. Let me paint the picture. Hot Aquarian girl, intelligent, demure, good company, good manners, won’t shag on the first date, meets Hot Capricorn man who could be a serial shagger or a gentleman – not sure. We got on great. After the first date he invited me to a house party. I told him I had other plans already but he persisted I try to make it. On the day I confirmed I wouldn’t be coming. He called straight away and tried to convince me. When he couldn’t he said no matter what he did I was always rejecting him. Not true, I had other plans. It was the only time he’s shown a crack in his cool exterior. Basically in the few months we’ve known one another we’ve only met twice because I’m always cancelling. I like him but we met on a dating site which he’s still on and I’m not. You can imagine the doubts I therefore have. He doesn’t compliment me, hasn’t tried to kiss me but was planning our third date. I really can’t tell if he’s biding his time to get a shag out of me or is genuinely interested. Recently I told him we shouldn’t date anymore because I felt we wanted different things. He just turned around and no probs he just saw me as a mate! I thought it was a cover up but the seed had been planted and I’m not so sure anymore. He said we could be mates and arranged to meet after his holiday. It’s been two weeks and I’ve been missing him so I text him a hello message. No response, nothing at all.

Can you interpret this Cappy behaviour? Is he trying to get his own back/sulking/playing games with me or is he simply not interested anymore? Should I be patient and wait till Hot Cap gets back or give up now?

Hi all. I met a (Capricorn) man online. Dated him. Everything was going well on the surface but inside I was feeling quite insecure he was still on a dating site and I wasn't. Meant it took ages for us to get together in person as I kept cancelling dates. He seemed keen though and persisted. On our last date he said he had an idea for the next one. But we never got round to that as I decided to write him an email saying I didn't think we should go out anymore as I think we wanted different things. His answer surprised me and bothered me. He said he’d been thinking the same and the "truth" was he only saw me as a mate. Said I wanted a serious relationship and he wasn't ready for that (he assumed that as I never spoke about what I wanted). I mulled it over and a week later text him saying I was hasty and I still wanted to see him if he wanted it to. He said yes as long as I understood it was as mates only. He was going on holiday in a few days so told me he'd be back on so-and-so date. I said friends was fine and I'd see him when he got back.

I've made no contact since and he returns next week. I'm doing my head in. I really like him, but does he really only want friendship? Should I still see him or bow out of this?