Dixie Normus

The following situation is fairly messed up. Facts:

- ex and I were together for just over 6 years

- We have a 29month old child together, whom I would do literally anything for.

- She was a SAHM, I have a decent job that allowed us that.

- truthfully there was/is no abuse of any kind inflicted on or by any party.

- I was/still am paying all bills including mortgage, utilities, her cell phone bill and delivering groceries a couple times per week.

- there's an internet connected camera in the bedroom (my condo, which I am trying to sell, has only one bedroom) used as a baby monitor. She doesn't know I made it accessible from the outside. I will admit that's scummy.

A series of unfortunate events lead to the break down of the relationship in early February. She kicked me out on the morning of Feb 3, saying she would go to a woman's shelter with my son. I didn't want my son in some shelter, so I left.

Started renting a room, still pulled my weight with the upbringing of my son. I see many nights of the week, and on the weekends we stay over at her mom's (with whom I have a good relationship)

Begged and pleaded over the next few weeks to try to reconcile our issues - no dice.

She starts dating within a few weeks. I mope, but gradually I start to move on.

Well, her new relationships seemed to go pretty well. She brought a guy over and had sex with him, just tonight.

Honestly I don't care she had sex with another guy. My issue is her bringing that guy into my condo, having sex on my bed and couch that I'm paying for/paid for. He's watching my TV, listening to my stereo, watching my netflix, using my wireless, charging his phone with the electricity that I pay for, probably using my shower, and heaven help him if he's eating the food that I bought for my son.

I want her out, tomorrow. I don't care, she kicked me out 35 minutes before I had to start work. I know I have the legal grounds. I hold the title, and there's no rental agreement. I'm just worried about the fallout. I want my son to remain in his home, but throughout the entire ordeal, she's been using him against me. The shelter thing. Threatening to take me to court.

Yes, there's the "call a lawyer" but I still want to avoid legal intervention.

My partner and I are parents of a very rambunctions, very headstrong and stubborn 18-month old boy. She's a stay at home mom and I work to provide. That arrangement is fine. Sometimes it seems the stress of our son is too much for her. She often doesn't sleep well, so it's up to me to try to get myself ready, get my child fed and prepared for the day, so she can get a bit of extra sleep. I'm fine with that as well.

A few weeks ago, I got up with our son, changed him and prepared breakfast for him. That particular morning, my partner got up and supervised his feeding (himself) while I prepared for my work day. While I'm in the shower, she comes into the bathroom and demands to know why I changed him before his breakfast, as he got food on it and had to be changed again. I replied that it was because his sleeper was urine smelling from the night. So the past few weeks, after he's gotten up, I've changed his diaper, fed him, and then let his mother take over.

This morning after I've fed him, she asks why he hasn't been changed yet, as according to her "how woud you feel about eating breakfast smelling like urine". I replied "a few weeks ago you barged in while I was showering demanding to know why I had changed him before his breakfast and today you're asking me why I hadn't?"

She didn't have an answer for that.

I live in Vancouver, and I have a 20 minute walk to work. I have 2-3 near hits a month from generally clueless drivers. We're talking inches, and sometimes screeching tires. 98/100 times, they're Asian (I'm white).

It's pretty much become so bad, that I refuse to place my safety in their hands, even when I'm fully in the right.

As an example, last night I'm walking with the traffic direction, but its clear. There's an oncoming silver Honda up ahead wanting to turn left onto where I'm about to walk across the road. I have the sign. I don't give any indication that I would let her go, but she doesn't see me, and proceeds to turn. When she's clear, I start crossing. She's asian of course.

Another near hit likely avoided because I've assumed that most Asians can't drive.