Joe Smith

I have been dating my now girlfriend for over 2 years. We met as members of the track team on college our sophomore year and have been dating ever since. It started out strong, hand holding, slight pda, cuddling, the like. Naturally we later exited the honeymoon phase. Things went well and in the past month or two its been at a standstill.

We are both done with track. I am preparing to move to a job this summer (2 hours away) and she is staying for an extra semester of school. The plan has been to try the long distance thing but our relationship since has stalled a little. Sex life is dragging, I am not excited that much anymore and I don't think she either. We seem to have different interests as well. I still adore her and appreciate everything she is as a person but I feel as though we might be moving in opposite directions. When I said I was looking to move to a bigger city after a year she seemed surprised and acted like she never planned to leave our town (though she later said she would move to a big city for me).

It is hard because I know this girl would do anything for me and I'm not sure if I will ever find that again (this is my first relationship). What is your advice? Should I ask to take a break or should I ask to see what she thinks? It's hard because I know she is going to likely cry if I bring up the possibility of breaking up...

We've been dating a little over 2 months. Our first date was back in december. We go to the same college together and are both on the track team. As you can imagine we are around each other a lot. With that said, even though we are around each other a lot we don't spend much time together. She is always with her roommates and I feel uncomfortable butting in on that. One night earlier this week I asked her to hang out the next day. She said oh absolutely. We got to that night and she was saying how she didn't want to come over because she didn't want her friend (roommate) to get mad at her for leaving (they were watching tv at their house). These types of things happen a lot.

This week is my last week at college before I leave for summer and still we only spent 1 hour of alone time together. Should I talk to her about this? Or is it going to come off as really needy? I plan on just telling her that I feel as though anything we do has to go through her roommates. Thats not something I want in a relationship. I like this girl but am not going to stay in a dysfunctional relationship.

It seems like she really expects me to just chase her around and do everything she wants. I will ask her to come over (she lives a minute away) and she will want me to go over there. She literally never comes over. Then tonight she asks what I am doing for dinner and I said I was going to the dining hall and she got upset because i wanted to go there instead of another place with her and her friends. I honestly want to spend time with her because I like her but I feel like it should be two ways. She rarely comes over my house and I always go over her house. I always hang out with her and her friends and she never hangs out with mine. I really do like spending time with her and I don't want to break up with her but its starting to get to the point where its not even worth it.

So me and this girl have been talking for about 2 months (almost dating). We are both in college and on the track team together. Basically she had a really big track meet this week and so I haven't talked to her too much. I know she was really excited going up. On her way up we were talking a lot and she said don't miss me too much and I can't wait to hang out when I get back (so obviously things were fine). We can't talk a lot because she is busy but I have texted her before her races and said good luck and after saying good job. She has always said thanks back. So yesterday she didn't do near as well as she wanted. Knowing this I just texted her and said "good job! sorry it wasn't what you wanted but you gave it what you had." She never responded to that text. I haven't contacted her since then (yesterday morning) and she has contacted me in any way. Should I continue to give her space until she messages me again or should I text her before her race today?

So me and this girl have been talking for about 2 months (almost dating). We are both in college and on the track team together. Basically she had a really big track meet this week and so I haven't talked to her too much. I know she was really excited going up. On her way up we were talking a lot and she said don't miss me too much and I can't wait to hang out when I get back (so obviously things were fine). We can't talk a lot because she is busy but I have texted her before her races and said good luck and after saying good job. She has always said thanks back. So yesterday she didn't do near as well as she wanted. Knowing this I just texted her and said "good job! sorry it wasn't what you wanted but you gave it what you had." She never responded to that text. I haven't contacted her since then (yesterday morning) and she has contacted me in any way. Should I continue to give her space until she messages me again or should I text her before her race today?

I like this girl, she likes me. We've both said it to each other and we've already kissed. Basically when we are one on one we get along very well and I like talking to her a lot. We are both in college and are on the track team together. We have been on 2 "official dates" (movie and dinner) but we spend more time hanging out at my apartment or with our friends at hers. This past week we were around each other for three days in a row. We have probably hung out one on one at least once a week since our first date. Then last night she was still texting me asking if I wanted to hang out (we didn't because her team dinner went too long). Our first date was a little before Christmas. We text each other every day now. In about 2 weeks is it time to bring up the relationship talk? I probably won't ask her to be official but just to ask where she thinks the relationship is at? We are both exclusive already and we are only awkward in public settings because she is a little weird before things get official (thats what her friends told me). Is it about that time?

it isn't our first date. We are both in college, we've been talking for about a month

I like this girl, she likes me. We've both said it to each other and we've already kissed. Basically when we are one on one we get along very well and I like talking to her a lot. We are both in college and are on the track team together. Basically when I try to talk to her around other people though she never seems very interested talking to me. I talked to one of my friends about it (who is good friends with her roommates) and he says that he's been told she is just really weird about being together in public before it is official. Apparently she hates when people make comments about it and is just in general very unusual. I am wondering if I should talk to her about this. We have been talking for about a month but I am not ready to be official yet (and I don't think she is either). Is it weird if I asked her about what she wants out of the relationship or would that scare her off? Also should I ask why she is so weird in person or should I try and ask one of her friends? Everyone knows she likes me and I like her but she is still very unusual :/

I like this girl. We are in college, on the same track team together. We have hung out one on one a lot and have made out and kissed a few times. We are both horribly inexperienced with relationships. Neither of us has had a true bf/gf. When we hang out one on one we click really well. I see her about everyday but we don't always get to talk since we are very busy. We text everyday and she has told me she likes me. The thing is we are still a little awkward around each other and we don't hang out that much (like once a week). This has been going on for about a month now. I want to move this thing forward but don't want to ruin things. I am wondering if I should have a conversation with her about what she wants out of this. I will tell her I want to work towards a relationship but that I think we need to hang out and be around each other more if it is going to work. Is this something worth talking about? Please help, I literally have no idea what I am doing haha

I like this girl. We are in college, on the same track team together. We have hung out one on one a lot and have made out and kissed a few times. We are both horribly inexperienced with relationships. Neither of us has had a true bf/gf. When we hang out one on one we click really well. I see her about everyday but we don't always get to talk since we are very busy. We text everyday and she has told me she likes me. The thing is we are still a little awkward around each other and we don't hang out that much (like once a week). This has been going on for about a month now. I want to move this thing forward but don't want to ruin things. I am wondering if I should have a conversation with her about what she wants out of this. I will tell her I want to work towards a relationship but that I think we need to hang out and be around each other more if it is going to work. Is this something worth talking about? Please help, I literally have no idea what I am doing haha

So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Two weeks ago she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. I went over her house last Wednesday for a little and hung out with her and her roommates. She went out of town until yesterday so we just texted the rest of the time. I tried to hang out with her yesterday and she wanted to but she had too much homework. So today I finally saw her for the first time since Wednesday at dinner. I went and sat next to her and a couple of our other teammates were there. Literally we hardly talked to each other. She kept her head facing the other direction talking to her friends. At one point one of her friends literally told her to look the other way. Eventually everyone left dinner and we hardly talked. I was pretty frustrated. I honestly don't know what to do. I know this girl is probably really shy with guys but stuff like this has been happening ever since we started talking. It is very hard for me to keep going out of my way to see her and her not really returning the favor. I guess I could try and talk to her about it but I don't know where to start. Apparently she is trying to set up a double date too (one of her friends told me) so obviously she likes me but is really shy. i just don't know what to do...should I give her some space for a while? She texted me tonight about a joke we had but I replied once and am not going to respond to her last text because she had all dinner to talk to me. It is a very tough situation. Please any advice is much appreciated!

So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. I went over again yesterday as well. She told me she wants to take it slow and I am okay with that since I like her and am willing to give her time. The first time we kissed we made out for a couple minutes but since then nothing major. The past two times I have been over we have just sort of snuggled up I guess (initiated by her most of the time) but we haven't really made out. When I leave to say goodbye we will do a long hug and kiss sort of thing but I am wondering what I need to do to make a move I guess. I am not very good at this type of thing and her telling me to take it slow has me a little off. When I went over yesterday I didn't really have a chance because her roommates were around. I think she wants to but I will probably have to push for it...is this wrong?

So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. I went over again yesterday as well. She told me she wants to take it slow and I am okay with that since I like her and am willing to give her time. The first time we kissed we made out for a couple minutes but since then nothing major. The past two times I have been over we have just sort of snuggled up I guess (initiated by her most of the time) but we haven't really made out. When I leave to say goodbye we will do a long hug and kiss sort of thing but I am wondering what I need to do to make a move I guess. I am not very good at this type of thing and her telling me to take it slow has me a little off. When I went over yesterday I didn't really have a chance because her roommates were around. I think she wants to but I will probably have to push for it...is this wrong?

So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. My thing is that we are kind of stuck in this pattern. I see her every day but we don't talk very much. If I don't get to sit with her at breakfast or dinner (since we eat as a team and get separated) then I usually don't talk to her. I am ready to move the relationship forward. About 3 weeks ago we were both really drunk and we had a talk with each other where she said she likes me a lot but wants to take it slow (i think she meant physically). I am wondering if I should try bringing up a new conversation. We have been "talking" for about a month. I am wondering if I should ask her what she wants out of this. Should I ask if she wants to start hanging out more and moving this forward and also ask about where she sees this going? Is it weird for the guy to be asking this?

So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. My thing is that we are kind of stuck in this pattern. I see her every day but we don't talk very much. If I don't get to sit with her at breakfast or dinner (since we eat as a team and get separated) then I usually don't talk to her. I am ready to move the relationship forward. About 3 weeks ago we were both really drunk and we had a talk with each other where she said she likes me a lot but wants to take it slow (i think she meant physically). I am wondering if I should try bringing up a new conversation. We have been "talking" for about a month. I am wondering if I should ask her what she wants out of this. Should I ask if she wants to start hanging out more and moving this forward and also ask about where she sees this going? Is it weird for the guy to be asking this?

To keep it short: So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. My thing is that we are kind of stuck in this pattern. I see her every day but we don't talk very much. If I don't get to sit with her at breakfast or dinner (since we eat as a team and get separated) then I usually don't talk to her. I am wondering if there is something I should be doing? I realize that I want a relationship with this girl but it is hard considering we really only spend time together once or twice a week. Is it too early to start hanging out more or is it me?

To keep it short: So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. My thing is that we are kind of stuck in this pattern. I see her every day but we don't talk very much. If I don't get to sit with her at breakfast or dinner (since we eat as a team and get separated) then I usually don't talk to her. I am wondering if there is something I should be doing? I realize that I want a relationship with this girl but it is hard considering we really only spend time together once or twice a week. Is it too early to start hanging out more or is it me?

To keep it short: So I like this girl, she likes me (she has told me so). We go to college together and are on the track team together. This girl has never had a boyfriend and I was the second boy she had ever kissed. Very similar to me as well (kissed a few more girls). Basically we hang out on saturday nights and text back and forth most of the week. This has been going on for about a month. Last Friday she asked me to go do something with her and her friends but I couldn't go. instead we hung out late saturday night. My thing is that we are kind of stuck in this pattern. I see her every day but we don't talk very much. If I don't get to sit with her at breakfast or dinner (since we eat as a team and get separated) then I usually don't talk to her. I am wondering if there is something I should be doing? I realize that I want a relationship with this girl but it is hard considering we really only spend time together once or twice a week. Is it too early to start hanging out more or is it me?

Basically this girl and I go to college together and run track together. We have been talking for a while. She already told me she liked me a lot and we have hung out for the past couple weekends. Today she texted me at around 1 and was asking what I was doing tonight and if I wanted to go to the basketball game tonight after our practice. We practice at different times so she told me she would text me later tonight and tell me if she was going. So I know the game starts at 7 and at about 730 she sends me a text that says "hey! i forgot to tell you I am at the basketball game now." Honestly I wanted to go but at this point I was a little frustrated. I didn't really want to show up late with some of her friends already there just to see her if she "forgot to tell me." So I told her I was going to stay at my house now and that I hope she has fun! Yeah it was a little edgy but I wanted her to get the message. Was I wrong in what I said?

So I have been talking to this girl for about a month. Things have been going pretty well. We've been on one "official" date but we hang out pretty much every saturday night. We are both in college and run on the cross country team. This past weekend I went home with her after a party like I usually do and we went outside and talked for a little while. We were both a little drunk but we hadn't kissed yet and I wasn't going to let it get away. So basically after a lot of talking she told me she liked me and just wanted to take it slow. So I said thats fine and then we made out for a little while. She was pretty nervous before we kissed because I was like the second guy she had ever kissed. She has never had a boyfriend or been in a relationship. I don't have a heck of a lot of experience either. The next day she texted me first and seemed really excited to talk to me. She tells me to text her all the time. Basically, I think she likes me a lot. My main problem is that sometimes when I am around her during the day she can be really hard to talk to. I feel like I'm interviewing her and she never really seems too excited to talk about her day. I like this girl a lot and I think it has potential so I try to be supportive and engaging for her since I know she has barely any experience. It can be hard on me sometimes though because I don't have much experience either. I don't know all the right things to do. What I am wondering is if I should just try and talk to her about these things. I don't want to blatantly be like "why are you so hard to talk to sometimes" but if I told her I don't know what I am doing all the time and I need a little help, do you think this would be a good idea? Any other suggestions would be great!