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I'm always praying not to get to this point but this time, I'm on verge of chosing between my two beloved female. I got married more than a year ago to my wife who migrated here from other country, all those time we are in constant arguements. Thinking that she's trying to adjust on the culture and everything, I gave her the benefits of a doubt. All these time she wasn't in good terms with my mom, she ignored her pretending she doesn't exist.

My mom is 65 years old and lives with me since she migrated here 3years ago. She has nobody except me since the rest of her family was left from our country. She tried to talked to my wife most of the time but no luck.

Me and my wife works and no kids, she makes more than I do which might made her a big headed. Everytime I confront her, she pretend that there's nothing wrong between us and sometimes treaten me to go back to our country.

I don't know what to do, I love her and I know she loves me that but she just can't live with my mom or atleast that's what I thought.

Now, my mom treatens me that she'll go somewhere else, knowing she doesn't have anybody.

I don't know how to deal with them anymore, I tried and did what I could but I am always stuck in the middle. One more thing, we are about to get our own home and it might be more difficult for me decide.

Don't get me wrong, my wife does her part too but not to the extend of trying to work all things out.

Our lease will expire soon, so we deicided to look for a house. We saw a house that we both like and we got pre-approved more than the asking price. We are both working and earn more than enough to offset all monthly expenses and still save atleast 35% of our income. With all the opportunites and advantages we have like the new homeowner's credit, the incentive by the builder, low rates and low price, I personally decided I want to move to a house. All of the sudden my wife says NO, I told her all the reason why we need to take advantage of the opportunities we have and tried to persuade her but she said she's not comfortable with the commitment. Am I stupid to think that the reason why my wife doesn't want a long-term commitment is that she's not seeing me as a long-term partner? I wanted to buy a house too bad with all the perks (low price, low rates, tax credit, incentives) but I want my wife to be onboard on this.

We would like to buy a house but doesn't want all our income to be spend on our mortgage and other monthly expenses. So I would like to know how much should a typical family of two should save after all the montly expenses.

I personally want to buy a house now that the price is low and the interest rates are record low. We have sufficient income, our mortgage would be 29% of our AGI, and we don't have debts except for car payment. I have excellent credit score but my wife doesn't since she just migrated a year ago. I have stable job and so with my wife which she started working 7mos ago.

I had told her the advantages of buying the house now since we're paying $815 for our rent, but she's still not decided yet. I don't want this to be a one-man decision, so I would love to have my wife onboard in our decision.