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Just want to get a few opinions regarding this issue. It seems like I have to wait anywhere from a month to several months for general appointments with dr's, dermatologists, etc. Then when you arrive, the appointment is never on time...and the service sucks...am I the only one whom runs into this issue? What's your resolution?

I have a few friends in the service at this time. They are trying to persuade me to join...I'm 29 and even though I'm a college graduate. Things are very complicated. I don't know if I can blame it all on the economy. I think may be my choice in degree has something to do with it. I wouldn't reccommend business administration to anyone for undergrad.

My boyfriend wants to begin a life with me...but I feel as though I wouldn't be bringing as much as him to the table. I'm very insecure about my financial status and income at this time. What would you reccommend?

Looking for more information regarding fix-a-flat in cold weather...the weather here is currently 37 degrees, but will fall below 30 degrees late on tonight. Will fix-a-flat freeze in my tire? Will it still be drivable?

My BF is currently working out of the country. We have been together for 8 months and I like him alot. He's very caring and sincere, but he just recently told me his ex GF sent him an e-mail after having a conversation with his mother and finding out he is working out of the country. He replied back to her thanking her for checking up on him and telling her he hope she's happy. I feel torn. I almost feel as though himr replying to the e-mail can be considered cheating.

I know how females are and how they may try to ease their way back into someone's life, but I cannot look too deeply into what she does. I can only reflect on his actions. Maybe the way I feel comes down to trust,but I didn't have an issue with trusting him prior to this incident. Why would he wait three weeks to tell me about this and what's your opinion?

Hi All!! I'm a 29 year old woman with a bachelor's degree in Business Managment with a concentration in human resources. I obtained this degree straight out of highschool. I was an average student whom changed my major a couple of times, then eventually changed it to business cause it was the quickest route and I figured I'd get a HR position. Well, no positions were obtainable with no experience. So I worked various low income CS positions and lucked out with one or two decent waged positons along the way. My current position is another low wage position I felt obligated to take to pay my bills. I've been here for four years, but I have no intentions of staying. I'm 29, no kids...somethings gotta give. This economy isn't improving and the cost of living is continuously going down and I am the only one I have to depend on. I need to take 1/2 options...join the services or go back to school full time (with a loan). I'd like to get into a condensed nursing program if possible. Do you think my thoughts are a little extreme? I feel as though I have to make a change now, or one day I'll look around and have nothing...no retirement, no home, no family. etc. Money isn't everything =, but it helps. What do you think?

Hi all...I'm looking to pay down some of the debt on my credit card, but here's the catch. I'm looking to take out a personal loan for $3500 with a 4.5% apr that needs to be paid off in 14 months. I would use this loan to cust my credit card debt in half. The current apr on my card is 17.5% on a lump sum of $6200. Deal or no dea?l

Things can be confusing for no particular reason when you start to feel something for someone. He called me with a bogus story about his ex about five weeks ago. He basically needed to go to her rescue...and he did. He told me after the fact and made it seem as though she had absolutely no one else in her life that could've helped her. I blew a head gasket - I'm only human. My ex was calling me asking me to help him with things too, but I never did because I felt like that would've been too much. Well...I told him I was going to be upset and he'd have to accept it. I texted him the day after...apologizing. He never got back to me. I called him two weeks later, he answered...but it sounded like he wasn't able to say much (seemed like a female was in his presence). He gave me really short answers/responses - based on the way he was answering...i told him even if we are not a match, we could still be friends. We talked for ten minutes, then he says...I gotta call you back I cant talk right now.

The next day he texted me saying he wanted to talk about "that" - I told him I'd love to talk at some point and then he said "so we're on the same page then." I agreed. It's been two weeks since that text and I haven't heard from him. I know he had a couple things going on, but I feel weird about everything at this point. I think about him all the time and I really want to call him, but I feel like it's on him to call ME. Am I right? Is the ball in my court or HIS court? I don't even know anymore.

I heard the saddest story this morning about a young woman who dressed her kids up in their best clothing (their ages ranging from 2-6), giving the oldest girl a bag of fresh diapers and then leaving them on the sidewalk for someone else to care for. The children stood outside until the cops were eventually called. Authorityigures have been unable to find the mother at this time.

The only thing I could imagine is the mother not being able to afford to care for her children any longer, or worse.

It makes me wonder what people can do in their individual lives to maneuver around the tensions that currently exist in this economy. Should the US limit the amount of children people can have based on the economy. I feel as though some type of rules should be set for the population as a whole. We can no longer accept everything in this Country. We need restrictions on who can enter this country, the size of families, etc.

I'm 28 years old at this time and my life is fairly simple. After getting out of a 4.5 year relationship, I realize I wish I concentrated more heavily on my career success versus trying to please and accommodate the man in my life or building my life so I wouldn't be so consumed to have a wonderful relationship. I realize, relationships aren't what they're cracked up to be and even when I was in a relationship...I took care of me 100% financially so why didn't I plan things differently early on? I should have invested 8 years into academia to become a lawyer or even a doctor...I feel as though I've wasted more than enough time. Now, I'm in panic mode. I haven't ever officially used my bachelor's degree for any of my jobs...it helps to have them, but the value of the bachelors degree has gone way down.

After being in a 4.5 year relationship, I'm not eager to jump into another relationship. I ended things with my ex- several months ago b/c I realized I wasn't gaining anything positive from him. He betrayed me in many ways and he didn't contribut to my life in a positive way. He was just a companion I was loyal too for far too long. So now, I'd just like to take my time getting to know various men - I don't want a committment right now. Is there something wrong with dating multiple people? (I'm talking innocent conversation and getting to know that person, nothing more) The last guy I dated demanded that I date him exclusively - I felt like doing so was a huge trap and I wish I'd done what I wanted to do. Share your thoughts

Okay people, you know how it goes...I got into a mini argument with the new beau in my life on Friday. The argument pertained to him helping his ex girl friend move out of her roommated house - she obtained his new number from one of his friends - so he says. At first he claimed he did not know where she got the number from. Which leads me to believe he was lying to me. Maybe she had what he claimed to be a new phone number the entire time, OR maybe he never completely got rid of the old phone. Whatever...HE thought the story about her demonic episode of seeing the devil and heads rolling was going to appease me. I basically told him that was BS, and I didn't agree w/ him talking to his ex- then I let him listen to Toni. Yes, I hung up on him. After rethinking his story, I texted him the next day letting him know I may've over-reacted to the story and I might've helped an ex- if they needed it to. But I honestly wouldn't...do you think I should call him? Let the text message simmer? OR squash this relationship?

I get it...we all may communistate with our ex's from time to time. BUT - this is the second time I'm hearing about an incident with his ex--I got a strange text message. He said the text was from his ex and he changed his # altogether after the incident. NOW - He tells me she had a restraining order on him! But she called him the other day to let him know one of his friends was helping her move because she's been seeing things in her current residence! He then told her--he would help her move. So he did. Then he calls me this morning asking me- why I haven't called him all week...saying he was scared to call me...then boom then he tells me the bogus story above. I was very upset! And I'm unsure as to whether I should be upset or not...I don't even know anymore. My ex always kept in contact with his ex's too and I didn't mind until it came back to haunt me --when I realized those friendships were more than just friendships. So tell me, should I be upset about this? Why do men go to the extreme for their ex's? Maybe I should just get back together with my ex --- I never realized all men were like him

This is somewhat of a tricky question because at some point in time, we all want more. None of us are living the exact lifestyle we'd like to live, but in my book...men are different. A women can be perfectly fine working on herself as a relationship blooms, but what about men?

I really like the guy I'm currentle with (despite the 5 year age gap). I'm older...At his age I had just about everything that I have today or was close to getting it. And I don't care what a guy has materialistically because I do for myself. BUT in all honestly...can a man commit to a women knowing he doesn't have everything he wants? If he's focused on finding a job, and a vehicle...would he really want a relationship? If he's opened up about feeling as though he has nothing to offer...is that the epidemy of saying we can't be together? If this is the case, how come he didn't open up about feeling this way until after we became serious with eachother? I'm not getting it...I like him a lot, and I want to be with him. I don't care about what he has materialistically...

I was with my ex for four years- on again off again. He has two kids and a baby mother, I never met any of them. IMHO, he cheated on me w his baby mom and other girls too. He has recently asked me if I would be his girlfriend again...he says he wants to introduce me to his kids, etc and grow with me. He then asks if I'd go to his baby moms house w him to pick up his other vehicle. I told him that didn't sound like a good idea -no. At the end of the conversation he asked me if I still loved him. Im still angry at him for what he's done; he was taken back when I said I didnt know. Should I get back with him?

Am I at fault? How do you know if you've been blacklisted?

The new guy I've been seeing just got back in town yesterday morning. He's been asking me to show him more attention because I don't call and check on him. So I took it amongst myself to call and say good morning yesterday. He asked me what was on my agenda and when I said I was going to the gym, he was all over it. Mind you, I don't like working out with anyone...but when he asked me if he could come ~seeing as though he doesnt have a car I said sure. I let him know I had to jump in the shower, dress and come get him. He lives a half hour away from me. We talked at 9, I picked him up@ 10:45. He texted me at ten asking me where I was at... I was just leaving my place. I let him know...he then wrote he had stuff to do, new years eve was that night, etc. I took offense to this.. I didn't invite him to the gym and he's a half hour away from me! I texted him back whatever...he sent me seven texts going off. I didnt see ne of them until I got to his mothers house. I waited minutes for him to come out...I asked him why he went off on me via text, he then began to tell me what the adult thing to do would be... Folks I didn't invite him to the gym. He asked to go...and I agreed. I was giving him a ride! We didn't plan a time. I told him he should've told me he had plans... He said he didn't have plans anymore???? Before we got to the gym, I told him we were going to disperse bc there was a certain routine I wanted to do... He said what?! Folks I don't get why he was so upset? He told me told call him when he I dropped him off... I called him hours later to hit the voicemail. I didn't call him again. He is a fan of the blacklist.

This will be my third attempt trying to post my question...hope this goes through.

I informed my new love interest, after introducing him to my parents, that I'm very much interested in him but I'm dating other men. Mind you, we've been getting to know each other for 3 weeks now. That's it! He let me know he didn't want to continue seeing me unless I agreed to be exclusive with him. So I told him I'd see him exclusively, but folks we are NOT in a relationship. He told me I'm the only one he's seeing and he'd like to be the only one I'm seeing too...I get it he wants to be on the same page at all times. Right?

Fast Forward...I met his parents (he met my parents on the same day). But here's what bothers me:

-He claims he was founded by a young, hot model - not in those words of course. She decided she'd like him to model for her in a couple of underwear ad campaigns. They exchanged #'s, he said they are going to discuss things on Wednesday when she arrives - today (she lives in a different state). She will be here for a couple of days. He said he'd keep it 100% professional. I'd like to believe him, but his actions...he didn't call me last night or this morning...just texted me...and it's extremely out of the norm for him. It leads me to believe something is going on

I'm starting to question whether or not I should be exclusive with him based on this information. My thing is this, I just got out of a five year relationship with my ex and he asked me to be exclusive with him while he got to enjoy the pleasures of life. In other words, he hurt me pretty bad. In the end, I concluded exclusivity before marriage may NOT be the way to go. I'd like to date and get to know many different people and save exclusivity predominitly for an engagement if possible. I mean, come on folks...the story this guy gave me about the facebook chick isn't lining up. He had hundreds of photo's of her in underwear plastered all over his phone...it's just NOT believable.

My partner told me he wanted to be with more than one woman 7 months ago. He said him and his friend of 10 years wanted to give eachother a shot. This hurt me alot and I calmly broke things off with him. 1 month ago he told me he was wrong about what he wanted and he wanted to be back in my life again. I told him I'm not into being with a man whom wants multiple women and he'd have to be with ONLY me if I agree to be a part of his life again. He agreed. Since then we spent a couple of days together - no intimacy. But then I didn't see him for about three weeks straight. He got upset because I told him NOT to call me during my work day (we work two different shifts). He also learned that my neighbor had my number --this upset him as well. My neighbor and I are related through marriage and we've been neighbor's for three years--he's always had my number. My neighbor has asked me out, but I declined him and told him I would never be interested in him. I wouldn't have given him my number if I knew he was going to constantly ask me out. I shared this with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has never been a true staple in my life and because he knows this...he is insecure about us. He has cheated on me before. Long story short...when he does see me..he wants to be intimate with me. But I told him I wanted him to get tested before we became intimate again. He tried to say he did NOT sleep with his friend...but I haven't seen him in months so I know he has been with someone. I told him this may be something we can do together. He asked me how I would feel if he requested it. I have only had two partners including him, I get tested annually so it's not a problem. Should he be upset with my request? He's pissed at me about this...I don't get it

I will be 28 in a month and my hormonal acne is at it's worst. I was on birth control to minimize the acne over two years ago, but I had to stop taking it because it caused a vitamin deficiency that resulted in several complications. Once I stopped taking it, I started getting acne marks...any advice???

I got a phone call from an individual that I hadn't heard from in months...when I answered my phone, my tone went extremely high pitched. I do this often when I'm excited and I feel I show the other person love over the phone when I sound excited. A relative overheard me and said I sounded fake. Do you think that is fake? What does it mean to be fake, or is it a personality thing?

It's been 3 days which isn't long at all, but since he has done this in the past...it's becoming an issue. He sent me a text message..something very rude and I responded with "If you have nothing nice to say, keep the s*** to yourself" He got upset and told me he was joking. He called yelling about how I hurt him - and I apologized repetitively. If I can let it go, why can't he? My thing is anytime you send a joke via text with no LOL/lmao, you run the chance of getting a response like that. 1) How long should I give him before I start to date someone else? 2) Do you think he is taking this a wee overboard?