val schmal

I have been in a relationship for 1 1/2 years. An older man, very successful, and priorities completely screwed up...as in I am not one of them....

I have broken things off with him numerous times and now, I have done it again, and for the first time ever he agrees.

He doesn't want to be with me either. Meaning, we are officially over (as I have stupidly let him run this entire relationship)....

So, it is agreed, we no longer want each other; I have erased his number and all messages from my phone, and even have plans to purchase a new phone with a new number come Wednesday...

It is over...

What now...

To suddenly have something in your life on a daily basis, and now just one day, one decision by two people and you completely cut communication....

Laking friends (as they are all in relationships) what does a girl do?

How does a girl occupy her time and make things happen without the one constant she has had for over a year??

I have been in a relationship for a year and half; it has been unfulfilling to say the least. I asked for 30 day "break" I thought I had asked to break it off completely and have a month to reconnect with myself. But at the end of 30 days he came back and basically just wanted to resume things as normal.

In that time, I took another man up on going out. He is everything that I wish my love would be. Exciting, fun, outgoing, we have a great time together!

However, he is not my Love. My love is predictable, safe, not fun! We never go out (other than the occasional dinner).

All I want is more attention. All I want is to be a priority. All I want is to spend time with him...

The new guy wants kids and marriage and he makes himself available to me. He wants to be with me all of the time and is constantly trying to find ways to win my heart...

But the man I have been with...I respect, admire, adore and we have such great chemistry together...he just can not pull away from work long enough to give me the attention I desire...

(sigh)...I now have two men...one me. I have communicated this to my love; he told me to do what I think is best for me. That he loves me and only wants me to be happy, and if I think another man will make me happy than so be it...

The new guy knows nothing of my love...

In fact, they even know each other and don't think too highly of each other.

I see the flaws in my new guy. The same things I admire in him; I dislike (as it is so opposite of who I have become).

They both feel great. The new guy is not my love and that is his biggest fault.

I am so torn.

Does anyone have good advice??

I am single, and everyone I know is out of town for the holidays. I am ALONE! Not that this is the first year, but I would like to occupy my damn time, so I am not stuck 'thinking' about not being with friends and family during this festive time. Any suggestions?

I am currently dating a man who is 19 years my senior, on the outside it does seem to be the biggest cliche. Older, very successful man dating the much younger, blonde hair, blue eyed 'girl' Only, I am not a girl, I am a young woman.

Still unsure of what it is exactly I am going to do with my life and he is so secure and successful and accomplished.

Am I just a fling? The older man wanting the younger girl to make him feel young and irresistable again? Or is it possible that he could actually have feelings for me?

How far does one go? Do I start to tell friends and family of this relationship I have developed? It has been 2 almost 3 months now.

The "I love you's" have already come out (he initialized this). He is one of the cities most "eligible" men, am I just being a silly girl? How serious should I take this relationship?

Oh, heck, I don't even want anything serious, I just enjoy being with him. What if things got more serious though? Am I a cliche?

My very first boyfriend, I met at age 12 (almost 13) I stayed at my cousins house for the summer, and met him. We were the same age, and spent the whole summer infatuated with eachother. We were each others first kiss. After the summer, we didn't speak again...

Until we were 20 years old. We ran into eachother at the fair. We went out a couple times, and I ended up moving away...

Now, 7 years later; we have found eachother again.

we are both from the west coast; now live on the east coast, only he is down south....

But it makes me wonder...

Is this fate? And is fate even real???

What is it about? My friend thinks it would be a good one for me to rent, but he wont tell me about it...

So, what's the story line???

plz. : - )

I hate to be boo-hoo type, but the truth remains that when it comes to men; I only continue relationships with a s s holes.

Last Friday I went on a horrible date. He was an arrogant, cocky, pig-headed jerk...

I just called him so we can get together.

I know tons of great guys, most in relatinships and have different interests than I do.

I am guilty as a repeat offender to negelecting my own true happiness.

Any insight on this?

Do you think that a person is more selfish if they choose to live alone and only care for themselves?

Or is it more selfish, to bring new people into a world that is so currupt for your own gain?

We meet all types of people, some we have chemistry with, others not. Do you give into temptation, even if there is no future? Is sex just a casual experience that you enjoy, or does it mean more? and why?

finish the sentence, plz.

My friend recently had her roomate bail on her one week before they were supposed to move into their new apartment. I told her she could stay with me.

Then she wrecked her car, and didn't have insurance, it costs 2500.00 to get it fixed, which she doesn't have. So, she's been using my car.

I got her a part time job waiting tables, so she could save money faster. But now, she is working so much she's not holding up her end at home (ie: laundry, dishes, cleaning, shopping).

When and where do I draw the line?

Every guy I meet wants something from me...why can't guys just develope friendships with females, no strings attached?

So you lost your virginity. do you now feel it was the right time and place and person?