danakay91

Hi all ,I am looking into setting up a new wedding decorating business and I could really do with some help finding a suitable name.

So far I have these Ideas

- Wedding Wonderland

- Chic Dreams

- Dream Makers

- Simple Wishes

Could you please give me some of your ideas and opinions,

Thanks :)

My son is 4 years old and ever since he was a few months old he has shown behaviour that has caused me alarm. Since then I have continually seeked professional advice with very little joy. When he got older I noticed that it appeared he was suffering from hearing difficulties and after 18 months of constant nagging to the GP he finally made an audiology appointment which showed he had glue ear and his hearing was extremely poor. Then last year he broke his collar bone and I took him to A & E who completely ignored me and diagnosed him with a throat infection, I then attended the following day and refused to leave until an X-ray had been performed which then showed it was in fact a broken collar bone and not a sore throat!. Then as of January this year I have been back and forth the GP and hospital with concerns about my sons legs. They were all telling me it was nothing to worry about and to go home until they finally agreed to X-ray him in September! and noticed he is suffering with Perthes Disease! Now although I'm aware that Glue Ear and Perthes Disease must be incredibly difficult for a child to deal with and that it can have a great effect on my sons behaviour I am still not completely satisfied that these are the only issues here my son has. My reasons for these are

- My son is incredibly aggressive , he bites, punches, kicks & pinches myself, his siblings & other children and adults. He even threatens people.

- He is very destructive. He will break and throw his and others possessions. ( He has even broken bedroom furniture of his)

-He is extremely active. He never fully calms down, he runs in circles often, climbs up things, fidgits and it seems as though he can honestly cannot control his own energy.

-He can act very spiteful. Doing things purposely to get siblings or friends into trouble, breaking things of theirs and laughing. Hitting or pushing people and laughing.

-He can often act without thinking. Randomly hitting people for no reason and then acting unware of what he has done.

- He does spiteful things and when asked why he replies "because I did" (There is very rarely a reason as to why)

- He shows very little remorse often and then sometimes he will become very teary and upset over his behaviour and seek comfort for it.

- He receives a lot of attention and we have plenty of alone time. I have discussed with him to try and find possible causes of his behaviour ( if there is something troubling him, what is the underlying issue) without no clear root cause. When asked he cannot explain why he behaves this way and when asked if anything is making him unhappy he answers "No".

-He seems to think he has very good friendships with people in school but the teacher explains that he often hurts and upsets the children he socializes with and children are wary of him because of his aggressiveness. Yet he thinks it funny and laughs about hurting and upsetting them.

-The teacher describes him as "Uncontrollable" he has even been put on report!

- Myself, his father & the School are all working together with him to make sure his discipline is consistent and that he positive behaviour is strongly rewarded. We have reward charts in school and at home for him. We have "Happy House Rules" , a thinking seat and strongly encourage Him to express his anger/frustration in more positive ways (art, music, talking ect). All of which are not working for him. His teacher has made referrals as she is concerned about him

and she says she finds it most concerning that he just doesn't seem to care when he is punished.

It is very upsetting to see him displaying these behaviours and to not be able to find the underlying issue to help him overcome it. It affecting his relationships in the home, his schooling and his social life and I do not want it to do that! I genuinely do not believe he intends to be like this and honestly thinks he just has little control over his behaviour at times.

Can anybody give me some advice or shed some light on the situation please?

Really need some advice as I'm not happy about an incident that happened in my daughters school.

My daughter is 5 years of age and her teacher infront of other children in my daughters class decided to take her hair out of her plait and check for headlice. No other child only my daughter. Is she legally allowed to do this? I am disgusted about this and I believe if she thought my daughter had headlice she should of informed me so that I could go through her hair. You know how cruel kids can be at times and to sit there and check her hair infront of other children has annoyed me.

Hi there I have found in a box in my attic what looks to be like a gold bullion bar,

It has 259644 stamped on back, alongside MTL & small hallmark, 50g , 999.9

On the Front is stamped 18 , 750

it looks very much like this

http://www.auctiva.com/hostedimages/showimage3.asp...

I know you cannot say for sure if it is real gold or not, but what are these hallmarks please

Thanks in advance

Ok so i'm a 21 year old self employed mother to three children & my fiance is 33 year olds old and in full time employment. We've been together 11 months and got engaged earlier this month Things have been great between us and i've never met a man like him. The only thing that worried me when we got together was that he was very much a single man stuck in his ways... he wasn't keen on children, never been around them & never wanted kids of his own. He was against marriage and wasn't interested in that ( however he explained he'd never found the right person to have children with or marry).We live seperately and he owns his own house which is a one bedroom. We are due to be married in 2014 and we have only just found out we're expecting a baby in june. We are very pleased about this as i suffered a miscarriage back in august but here's my worries.We live in seperate houses but we also don't live like a family. He tries to bring up my other children up as his own after their father stopped having contact with them. His work can be demanding sending his abroad for a week ect. and i understand that. but when he gets offered to go away he doesn't discuss it with me... he just comes back and tells me he goings away for a week. he doesn't offer much practical support with the children either and sometimes it seems like he just isn't interested in them. He makes plan without telling me beforehand ect. it's just very much as though he's only part of the family when he is in the house with us... the second he leaves he's a single man again without plans. I'm stressing that my house isn't big enough for another child and i've been looking for other houses. He doesn't look with me or give any input except which areas are too far away from him. This should be a concern to him as much as it is to me because it's our child. I just feel as though i'm very much alone at times... how do i go about mentioning this to him?

Hi all, Ok I'm just starting to sing as a professional on the club circuit. Now my first set I created i've performed a few times but i'm starting to feel unsatissfied with it. I'm 21 years old and majority of the time i'm performing to people well above my years. With my first set I have some older classics ( purple rain, summer of 69, cher, something inside so strong) ect. & also some more modern and slightly unusual songs ( foundations, sheila & sail ) . The problem i'm having is that my set is a complete clash of songs & i have no image. I don't have the cheesy way about me and I like to sing songs like i mean them. I'm starting to think I maybe more comfortable performing if i perform as myself. I want to cover unexpected songs & make songs my own ( maybe throw some orginal tracks into it) . I want to have my own image as an artist. This may go down awfully because of the audience I normally play to. They might appreciate abit of variety and enjoy it. What I want to know is - What is your opinion on this? Should I do my own thing and take the risk or should I live upto my expectations of your average club singer and submitt to the cheesy stage presence and the usual old classics? Also if I was going to cover some popular older songs... what would you recommend?

Thanks

Hi all, I'm wondering if I can change my childrens surnames without their fathers permission?

Their father is on their birth certificates but he does not have any contact with the children at all through his own choice. My childrens have double barrelled surnames at the moment which are mine & his surnames. I am due to get married in 2 years and I'm also pregnant. I would like us all to have the same surname when I marry and we are even looking into my fiance trying to adopt them. My reasons are my children are all very young and my youngest has hardly ever met his biological father. They carry the surname of someone the do not have a relationship with nor do hardly know. Also my surname and their biologicals fathers surname is well known to local authoritys for all the wrong reasons. His is due to him getting into trouble with the police many of times & mine is due to my mother... but i've been victimised because of her and the association with her. They have a man who is willing to adopt them and he raises them as his own, they also have a sibling on the way and I'm due to get married. Can I change their names without their biological fathers permission?

Ok So back in January I started dating this bloke and now we are an item. He is an absolutely amazing man and I get along with him brilliantly. I have three children and although he is not a very child orientated man he is great with them. He is exactly what I'd be looking for in a partner. There is one problem however, he isn't after what I'm looking for in the future. One thing I long for is marriage and he isn't interested in that. I know it is soon to mention this and I don't want to get married anytime soon. However it is something I want in the future and I don't want to waste my time on a man who does not. I would like more children at some point in my life but he isn't interested in that. No possiblity of us living together either. I love him but as harsh as it sounds these are things I want. I probably sound like a cow but these are things I want out of life. What should I do?

Ok let me get this straight first. I am a 20 year old mother of three. I come from a family well known by the child protection services due to mothers past drug addictions and domestic relationships. I am a bright , good hearted person who lacks confidence in myself. I was brought up by my grandmother who was my absolute everything. She'd move mountains for me when I was younger but somehow our relationship has deteriorated . Now I do suffer with depression and although I play it down extremely well it does seem to have an effect on my life. Since becoming a mother at 15 I have had social services creep in and out of my life... sometimes for the wrong reasons and sometimes for the right reasons. I was in an abusive relationship and during these years my main support came from my grandmother. Now my family are quite insensitive and my depression is merely a period of self pitty and immaturity. Last year my children were wrongly removed off me this put huge pressure & worry on my family and I became the Bad Apple. 4 months later i had them returned to my care and within another 10 months I've left the abusive relationship and found a stable partner who respects me. My children have been removed off the child protection register and I have become a confident, independant woman. During them 15 months however me and my grandmother argued alot and nasty words were exchanged from both directions. I try my god damn hardest at everything, I have three happy healthy children, a nice home, a good relationship and I've just got myself a job. However regardless of how much things have improved my grandmother still strongly dislikes me. It hurts to see how much she cannot stand me because all I seek is her approval. My family mean alot to me and regardless of how much has happened in the past them and my kids are the most important things in my life. It's getting to the point though were i can see I am not wanted and I feel like moving away and starting a new life with just my children. I can't explain to my nan about how I feel because I get told to grow up. It's as though she wanted to see me fail. Do I pack up & leave or do I stay and take my place as the never was, never will & never could person of the family?

What's more important to you in regards to appearance of a woman? How gorgeous a woman looks when she's all dressed up, make-up on & hair done or how she looks everday??

For example would you prefer a woman who look extremely beautiful when all her hair & make-up was done but not very attractive without it or a woman who didn't look as pretty as the girl mentioned above ^ even with her hair & make-up done, but looked much prettier than the girl above naturally?

Hi all, I had a mild post partum hemorrhage after the homebirth of my third child back in march, I lost 500 mls within the minutes following the birth of my son & recieved a shot of ergometrine to stem bleeding. I was anaemic before the birth and after the blood loss I was extremely unwell, dizzy ( I couldn't stand) & extremely tired and drained. I was not however admitted to hospital. Days following the birth I complained to the midwife of stomach tenderness, passing clots the size of grapefruits!, offensive odour & extremely heavy bleeding. She had no concerns! I went to the Doctor who told me I was measuring 16 weeks pregnant still & prescribed me with antibiotics to treat an infection of the womb. 3 weeks after the birth of my son I sat down on the toilet and bright red blood flowed from me! I led on my bed and dialled 999 but because I was in no pain they didn't think I needed to go to hospital. 1 week after that I woke up with intense stomach pains and went to the toilet and began gushing red blood , I run to my bed as it was still gushing and led on it with my knees up whilst my partner phoned an ambulance. Whilst waiting for the ambulance I passed two huge clots (small plate size) and blood continued to gush. The bleeding had calmed when the ambulance arrived and they took me down to A&E. A&E done a vaginal scan which showed nothing & the consultant ased the nurse to take swabs. Upon opening the speculum inside me she Gasped & called the consultant over to take a look. The consultant could see something stuck in my cervix! She put her fingers inside and prodded & blood began to gush profusely from me. she then explained I had retained placental fragments lodged in my "Still dilated" Cervix & that she would have to remove them there & then so my uterus could contract back down. I was wide awake! no pain relief! She began manually removing them with her hand. I could see the fragments being placed in between my legs on the table as she removed them! The bleeding was extremely severe and she was calling for help! Nurses ran in with huge Carrier bags to place on the floor to collect the blood! when she removed her hand I was still bleeding profusely as there was one piece left on my cervix I begged her not to use her hand again, so she used scissors! she kept explaining that she was more than likely going to have to take me to surgery asap because of the blood loss. She even packed my vagina with cotton wool swaps whilst giving me another shot of ergometrine! The bleeding stemmed but I was severly anaemic and required a blood transfusion! Here's my problem following this experience.... I have a phobia of periods! I have been passing clots in my period atm and although doctors have said it's nothing to worry about I continue to go down to hospital over it! I am soo scared! I keep shaking, getting tight chested & calling ambulances over it! I cannot relax ever since i experienced hemorrhage, I cannot cope with having heavy periods as it bring back the panic I had the day I hemorrhaged! what i'd like to know it how do i overcome this? how have you if experienced this overcome it? Please Help!!!

Hiya, Ok my best friend used to live with her friend and a couple of months ago she threw her out, At the time I had recently split from my partner who I have three children with & moved into a new house. I offered my friend to come stay with me until she sorted out somewhere to stay permanantly. I have borrowed her money previous to her moving in & she had also started working just before she came to stay with me. When she first moved in I borrowed her more money until she was paid her wages. I didn't mention rent to her but assumed that she would help out towards bills, food, toiletries ect. considering she works full time & I don't... Instead she hasn't paid me back any money & although she bought one lot of cleaning products & will rarely grab a pint of milk, or bread ect. I have not recieved a penny from her! When she gets paid she will go out & buy herself new outfits.. have her nails done & go out drinking on the weekends. She knows im financially struggling because she will sit there & listen to me beg my relatives to borrow me money for essentials & so on... I mentioned it to her then last week that I would need to have some money off her weekly for staying with me & she replied stating she bought them cleaning products (bleach, disenfectant ect.) & because she buys the odd pint of milk or loaf of bread.... that she thought that was helping me more rather than paying money....She also stated she'd be moving out soon! A week has gone buy & she has stayed over her other friends the past three nights but she still comes here to eat, bath , get ready for work & keeps her stuff here. Yesterday she got paid & she knew I didn't have a penny to my name... but instead of paying me back she had her nails done, & took her sister out for a drink! I text her asking if I could borrow money ( Hoping she would say "No I owe you so i'll give you that money") but instead she said "I've got £25 left I can borrow you a tenner" .... She got paid £200 yesterday and all of a sudden she only got £25 left.... I need to explain to her that I cant keep paying for her food, the gas & electric she is using.... but I dont want to hurt her feelings..What can I do?

please serious answers

Hiya, I recently gave birth to my son 6 weeks ago, It was a planned homebirth and two midwifes & one student midwife attended. Before delivery I was slightly anemic and did not recieve medication for it. Once I delivered my son I suffered postpartum hemorrhage a blood loss of 500mls and recieve a shot of ergometrine to stem the bleeding.After the ergometrine I was still trickling blood for some time. I was extremely unwell after the birth of my son but was not admitted into hospital. All midwifes left within 30 minutes after the birth of my son and I was told to stay in bed for the rest of the day.Placenta was checked and believed to be complete. A few hours after I gave birth I phoned the midwife as I had gotten up to use the bathroom and blood was trickling again from me. She was not concerned and just told me to rest. The midwife visited often the following days after and I mentioned I was losing large clots (size of oranges), suffering headaches,dizziness, extreme tiredness & that my abdomen was tender. There was no concern to her and she stated my uterus had fully contracted back. Each time she visited I mentioned I was experiencing all these symptoms and that my bleeding was still extremely heavy and bright red. She was not concerned. A week after delivery I visited my GP whilst still experiecing these symptoms & my loss had a very offensive odour. He believed I had an infection and told me my womb was measuring 16 weeks pregnant.He could imediattely identify I was anemic and that my blood pressure was low. He prescribed me anti biotics and iron tablets and left it at that. For the next week I was taking the antibiotics and still complaining of my symptoms to the midwife who still didn't seem concerned. Then 3 weeks post partum I had a large gush of blood whilst using the bathroom I phoned healthcall and explained to them what had happened but because I wasn't experiencing any pain of fever they believed I had started my period and therefore didn't think I should be admitted. The following sunday I woke up at 6.30am with agonizing stomach pains I believed to be from my Irritable bowel syndrome. At 7.00 I began bleeding very heavily and phoned and ambulance. Whilst waiting for ambulance I lost two large clots (size of oranges) and still continued to bleed. Ambulance arrived and bleeding had slowed but they took me into hospital because of the clots I had passed. Upon arrival I was admitted into gynaecology and given an ultrasound which showed nothing. They assumed I had an infection and went to give me swabs. That's when they noticed a huge mass of retained placenta lodged inside my (still dilated) cervix! The consultant then began to manually remove the peices of retained placenta from my cervix and I suffered massive Secondary Post partum Hemorrhage (roughly 6 pints!). They decided to give another shot of ergometrine and explained that if my bleeding didn't stem I would be taken into theatre. After the shot of ergometrine my bleeding slowed and I was put on a drip of syntocin. The smell had imediately gone from my loss. I had doctors checking on my loss every 30 minutes had to have three drips of syntocin throughout the night aswell as 3 drips of IV antibiotics to treat infection. The flollowing day I lost 4 large clots and my hemoglobin had dropped to below seven and I had to have three units of blood transufsed into me. The following day my hemaglobin had gone upto 10.2 but my platelets was half of the normal ammount. They allowed me home with iron tablets and two lots of antibiotics but I was referred to a hematologist. I visited the hemotologist today who had said my platelet count had gone back into the normal range and had dropped because of the massive blood loss & infection. Can I make a complaint against this due to the fact I was showing warning signs and nobody took notice? This whole experience has been awful

Me and my partner have been together for four years now. He is 23 and I am 19. We have a good relationship but recently his sex drive has decreased drastically. We used to have a fantastic sex life and would always do things to spice it up but now he’s just lost interest in it. He used to want it all the time to the point where I couldn’t keep up with it lol but now I’m the one who wants it and he doesn’t. It’s not as though I want it all the time but we’ve only slept together 3 times in 3 weeks! I would like it a little more often than that. I know he isn’t cheating for a fact so I know that’s not the problem. There has been recent changes to our relationship though which are .. He used to smoke weed all the time but now he has stopped completely and we have recently moved back into our house after staying with a relative for awhile. Why doesn’t he want it? He will stay up all night listening to music or playing video games but won’t come up to bed until I am asleep. Saucy underwear worked at first but now I don’t even bother because he don’t come up to bed. I even asked him where my vibrator was earlier to “Hint” to him I was in the mood. But instead he just simply told me where it was. It’s getting frustrating, we’ve just moved back into our own home and I want to take full advantage of that, but instead he just isn’t interested. What can I do?

I have just asked a question about my Boxer and can see that the topic of Tail Docking does spark a heated discussion, My question is Do you agree with Tail Docking? and to explain why or why not. I didn't agree with tail docking until having my Boxer who is now stuck with an unhealing open wound on his tail. It seems like amputation is going to be the best option for him and this could have been prevented if his tail was docked as a pup.

hi all, I have a 2 year old male boxer called "Tommi" and he has been having some trouble with his tail recently. He has had a sore on his tail for the last two months that just isn't healing. I've tried bandages but he will just "Wag" them off lol and the sore will continue to bleed. I purchased antiseptic powder recommened by the Vet to help heal the tail but it continues to just randomnly bleed with no sign of healing. The problem is he wags his tail.. ALOT!, and because he is constantly wagging it he catches it on things such as the walls, chairs & cupbaords ect. so it will just bleed and because he will continue to wag it he will splatter blood all over the place. I mean it doesn't seem to cause him much discomfort at the moment but I'm worried it will eventually become infected and lead to serious problems. I personally believe amputation would be the best option for him, can a vet amputate a dogs tail for this reason? It's for the health of the dog and certainly not for the appearance. I didn't agree with docking before having Tommi but now I'm All for It :) It's just a shame that because it's now illegal my dog has to go through the stress of having it amputated rather than having it docked as a puppy.

Hiya, I need some advice desperately as I've been having some problems with my new puppy and other dogs. I have a 9 week old English bulldog x staffordshire bull terrier female puppy "Winnie" and a 2 year old male Boxer "Tommi". I have only had the puppy for a week and so far things haven't been going to well.Firstly she's very dog aggressive & it's not playful. She growls & bites my Boxer who is normally very laid back. This has resulted in him snapping at her on a few occasions which I have allowed him to do in order to tell her he's boss, but rather than her leaving him be she just gets more aggressive when he does snap at her resulting in me having to seperate them immediately. She barks aggressively at the cats and both my grandmothers dogs have been bitten by her which caused them to whelp but she continues to shake her head while holding them by her teeth. If she has something in her mouth that I try to remove she will snarl, growl and snap at me and my daughter. I have had to seperate her from my Boxer at the moment until I know how to deal with this correctly and appropriately as she is not even backing down to the warning snaps off my Boxer. How do I deal with this?

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She's 8 weeks old today, can you guess what breed she is

Ok I asked a question on here earlier about if my friends situation was classed as "Rape" and it was confirmed it was infact rape, It however was not my friend who this happened it was infact myself, for some reason however I can not come to terms that this has happened and I have not told anybody about the situation. This is what happened ....

I was seeing a bloke who was being violent towards me, he often kicked, pushed or damaged my property.One night I was at a friends house with him and we decided to stay there the night, We began arguing and he grabbed my by the throat , pushed my to the floor and kicked me multiple times, I was too scared to get back up incase he kicked my back down again but he demanded I got a grip and got up off the floor. When I got up off the floor I said I was going home but he said (It would not be safe for me to go home alone at night and leave him) meaning he would do something worse If I did leave. So I went upstairs into the bedroom with him and we didn't speak, He began touching me and then while undressing me pushed me up against the wall and began penetrating me. I was crying but didn't want to anger him so I let him have his way with me.I didn't shout, or say no, I was just shaking and crying. I sort off shut off from what was happening and it was clear to him I wasn't enjoying it. After that happened we got into bed and I waited for him to fall asleep before running home. Only to be followed by him as he began knocking at the door minutes after I arrived home. I ignored him knocking and never spoke to him again. I went to the police about the violence and got taken into refuge but as I was unsure about Rape I never mentioned it. He had already previously threatened me that if the police got involved he would kill me, so I dropped all charges. What I want to know is , If this is Rape why can't I come to terms with it?, why do I feel to embarrased to tell anyone I know and trust about this? I feel as though I am overreacting about the situation and therefore was unsure if it was rape or not. Would he have known he was raping me or was it my fault for not screaming no? I feel so confused about this situation...... I am with another partner now who treats me great but I have lost all interest in sex completely... Is that because of what has happened? and if so Do I open up to my partner and tell him what has happened? or do I just forget about the whole thing?