Bunny7

Son has joint physical custody of daughter that just turned 16. Mother is non-traditional and has done and ALLOWED much. Son and our whole family have "went to the end of the earth" to help daughter have happiness amid Mother's barrage of troubles given. Daughter was always happiest at Daddy's house. Son went to prison for 2 years in fluke mishap. Left daughter at "mercy" of mother. He is home now and GOOD, but mother allowed daughter to become involved with 20 year old drop-out on probation for drive-by...allowed daughter to go STAY with him almost every weekend without supervision...among other dispicable acts for a mother. Basically, she was left on her own to do for herself most of the time. Now, daughter wants to spend all her time with boyfriend as she did before. My son is trying to re-inforce parental guidelines and MOTHER agreed to back him up, but failed after only one week. Daughter refuses to come to Dad's because he will not allow her to spend the night with boyfriend. LOTS OF DRAMA going on with phone battles, etc... Son is totally heartbroken. We all are. He believes he should speak to the boyfriends probation officer and enforce "what is right." Wants his daughter to spend these next months until she becomes 17 and CAN (I think in Missouri) leave home to try to "reel her back in." But is torn and doesn't know if it is really the right way to handle it or not. Daughter just had first wreck and has gone wild in more ways than just boyfriend. He fears for her safety and also fears losing her love, what appears to be left, anyway. He had advice to "go all the way" to enforce rules, from mentors. But has refrained so far while trying to decide. He doesn't want RID of boyfriend, JUST RULES and for daughter to be non-obsessed and enjoy school activities again like she once did. She has ALMOST become the spitting image of her troubled mother. What should he do...go all the way with love to enforce the "right thing" and hope it works and his daughter forgives him or "let what is going to happen, happen.

Please serious replies only and Thank You.