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I want another kid, even though before my son was born I said I only wanted one. My son has been diagnosed with a very serious terminal illness and it is genetic, meaning if we have another boy he can have it too.

My husband says no that he does not want another one period. Before we found out he was sick I was more okay with that, but my son will not live longer than his mid twenties, and he will have a long tough road ahead. I want a child for me and my son, it would be good for him to have a life long friend.

I am just having a hard time coping with this. He is a person and has a right to his opinion, I don't think he has to do something just because I say so either. I understand his view and I want to learn to get over this before it causes more problems in our marriage.

My son has muscular dystrophy, his needs will mostly be physical. The reason I am considering special education is so he will be watched over and not have to go through bullying. Thing is I do not want to keep him away from a good education.

Our sons birthday party will be the 17th of NOvember, at a park. I am worried it might be too cold.

I have been having cramping, very hungry, dizzy and tired for about two weeks. Took one pregnancy test, the kind that shows two lines if pregnant. The first one was positive but the second line was barely visible, second one looks negative.

Not sure what to think, guess I should take another one just in case.

I know most of our fighting is because I complain a lot, and I know it' is because I want to change him. Thing is the things I want to change could probably change themselves if I start being nicer to my husband and appreciate him more.

Any tips on how I can get to that place?

I am a stay at home mom, I take care of baby and do a lot of activities with him. He is VERY active baby who wakes up constantly at night. It's impossible for me to wake up every time he wakes up and get any sleep at all. We pretty much split the nights, he takes care of baby, while he is asleep, from when he gets home till about 1230,w hen he goes to bed. Then I do the other half and wake up about 730am.

On weekends we also do half and half.

Basically neither of us gets a day off.

Now he tells me I need to do more and him less because he works all day. I work all day too and I never get paid for it, a break, or any appreciation. Instead he tells me I am worthless and need to do more.

How can I not ask him for help with baby and not resent him at the same time?

I cannot figure out how to enable check in with my BB, every time I try it says that Location Services is DIsabled on my phone.

Any tips on how I can be the only one waking up for baby in the middle of the night during the week? I try to nap with baby but as most of you know, that is much easier said than done in most cases. And when I do its usually a half an hour here and there.

I do not work but my hubby works long hard days and needs to be focused at work, he wakes up when baby cries to check his diaper before I wake up to feed him, the not much sleep is getting to him, I can tell.

I do not produce enough milk for baby right now, so at times I must supplement with formula to give him what he needs, usually at night when I cannot feed him every half hour to an hour, at the most about four ounces. Rest of the day I breastfeed exclusively because I have time to feed him whenever he needs it.

My problem is I have been trying to only breastfeed at night too, thing is he is never full no matter how many times I do it and he wakes up screaming and irritated for lack of sleep and food several times a night. I want to do what is best for him. I think I am going to go ahead and supplement some with formula at night and hope my supply can meet up with his demands soon.

How do I do this without feeling like I am failing as a mother?

40 wks pregnant, is it normal for babies movements to slow down? He use to move a lot more in the morning and at night, he still moves but they are slow and not as frequent.

I have not decided yet but I might be induced next week, I hear many good and bad things about Pitocin. Is it really the Pitocin that causes a longer and more painful labor? Can it really encourage a c section? And what about the times it does not work?

All these "side effects" can be from Pitocin or just the way that particular birth is going.

We were 100% on Aiden for a little since my last pregnancy, now that we are getting closer I am having some doubts.

Here is what I have so far as a backup, in case I see him and do not think he looks like an Aiden.

Brenden Spencer

Braden Spencer

Bran Spencer

Cayden Spencer

Aiden Spencer

As you can see we are going for Irish and Celtic names. We are for sure on Spencer being the middle name.

I prefer to have a natural labor, my due date is November 14th. However I am scared and feel like I might not be able to handle the pain. I plan on telling my doctor that I want to try as long as I can, to have labor naturally, but still have drugs available if I change my mind. Any advice?

I have gained 35 pounds already and am 34 weeks pregnant, my goal was 25 but obviously that did not pan out. I have exercised throughout my pregnancy and did my best to eat healthy, of course I have cheated and did crave lots of fatty foods during my second trimester. Also, I have been drinking loads of fruit juice, just something I crave.

I am concerned that I am obsessing over my weight gain too much. Sure I would of loved to not gain as much as I have but I want to focus more on the baby and the fact that I am almost done! But it does not help that my doctor always says something when I have gained more than 4 pounds a month, which has happened about three times.

Anyway, I need help to stop worrying so much.

My husband was raised in the Latter Day Saints Church and decided against it at a young age. I was actually baptized in the church after we got married. I have attempted to be part of it but never follow through because it has been very difficult for me to give my whole life to a church, and because it makes my husband so uncomfortable. I would like to give this another try but know that I would have to do it alone, w/o him, and try not to force him to do the same. Just not sure if this can work without affecting our marriage.

Have been married for eight years, I have no real big complaints about my husband at all. I am noticing the ones I do have are due to the fact that I am always picking on him and not appreciating what he does for us as much as I should. Now I just have to teach myself to not be such a b*$# to him after so many years of being high maintenance. Help I don't know how to get better.

Just reconnected with a friend about a year ago, was unable to attend one of her kids birthdays and she got mad at me. Now I can't make it to her baby shower for medical reasons, and she decided to not attend mine and ignore my calls and messages. I feel bad that I can't come to her shower but I get really bad cramps when I drive more than about twenty minutes for some reason and I don't want to take any chances.

At this point I am starting not to care if she talks to me again, seems really silly of her.

I go from full blown manic to severely depressed pretty regularly, at least twice a month. As most of you know it is difficult to have a "normal" life when up and down so much, not including the frequent mood swings I have all day long. I am currently a part time student, on no medication, and I am having a very difficult time keeping up with homework and studying. When I am manic I study all night and do my homework perfectly, show up to class every day. When I am super depressed I miss a class or two and start slacking in my work.

Any advice?

I am on permanent disability from work, have a learning disability, because of my diagnosis, and am currently a part time student, only taking seven units. Algebra and CIS. I only have class twice a week and my other class is online. I am not use to studying yet and think I should continue going only part time, taking courses I enjoy in order to get use to college life, it has been eight years since I have done any type of schooling.

My question is should I continue to go slowly or challenge myself to go full time even though school is harder for me than most?

PLEASE NO RUDE OR SARCASTIC STATEMENTS.

I have always had a problem with complaining, I think it stems from my mother ALWAYS bitching about EVERYTHING all the time when I was growing up and because I was spoiled rotten as a child, then sort of spoiled through relationships from then on.

Anyway the point is I want to learn to stop complaining about everything to my husband. I do not expect to be perfect but I want to learn some self control, I do not want to be negative and complaining so much, I 'm sure it wears him down.

Any ideas?