Daniel

A girl I fell pretty hard for, and still can't get over, ignores and avoids me. It's been going on for months and I feel that she really doesn't want to even associate with me any more. The thing that drives me crazy is that every time I wanted to find out why, she just avoided me again. We were friends for a few years, and everything seemed pretty casual. I loved being around her and she made me feel better by simply being around.

The only point I can remember was a fling she had behind her boyfriend's (now ex) back with some guy I thought she hated. She didn't really talk to me about it and then suddenly shuts me out completely.

For the past few weeks it's been driving me absolutely crazy and I don't think I should really even try to be friends again.

Would dating someone else get my mind off her? It seems kinda unfair to whomever since it wouldn't really be for them, but would it help?

A good friend of mine has just been avoiding me recently, ever once about a week ago. She told a couple of her friends she was feeling sad and pretty down, but when I tried to ask what's wrong she pretty much just shut me out. We've usually talked whenever there's a problem, but now she won't speak to me, walk with me, or even stay around me anymore.

If something's wrong, I want to tell her that I'll help however I can, or apologize if I did something, but she won't even stick around long enough for me to try anymore.

I think it has to do with some guy she used to hang around with, or maybe her and her boyfriend are fighting again, I don't know. I feel like I'm being a terrible friend by not helping her out with this stuff, but then she won't let me.

I am just clueless on this, why is she avoiding me? Should I try to help her or hang out with her again? Or should I just let her go?

She recently broke up with her boyfriend. She had everything set in place and things looked set up for her, until recently. Problems with her boyfriend got bad and I guess she started screwing around with one that I thought she hated, like, absolutely despised. Said person is also the ex of one of her friends, that caused more problems with them. I'm worried for her because she never seemed to be the one to cheat, or forgive one she so publicly disgusted her. I'm still trying to figure out everything I can and make sense of all I hear, but I just can't wrap my head around it all. I want to help her, but another part is so baffled, and kinda angered that she would just mess herself up like this.

We have been avoiding each other again, something that we tend to do a lot more of as time goes on. I want to help her, as I said before, and I don't really want to cut ties and clear out like I usually do with these situations.

I've been in too deep of a rut for too long. It's hurting my grades, my happiness, and starting to show on my body. I don't want to reach out to my family, problems keep me distant from them and I honesty prefer it that way. I do have friends I might be able to reach out to, and I really need another voice to keep me moving again.

The problem is that I'm a quitter. I start good, show determination, and set an unrealistic goal. I make projects or routines to follow, and I keep at them for up to a few weeks, but then I start thinking, thinking leads to doubt, doubt leads to quitting.

I need an outside source to, well put bluntly, kick my *** back into gear. I need someone who will stick with me through it and keep pushing me around when I start doubting.

I know what I need to do and what needs done, but I always question why I continue whatever I do, more often than not, it feels like I get little in exchange, which leads to doubt, etc.

I guess the main question would be if I should try to find a friend to kick me through it or if I should risk leaving myself to pull through again.

I met a girl about a year ago, we became what I thought to be good friends and even more regrettably, we started dating. I found her cheating various times and even when I caught her, she still wormed the blame on me.

I am an idiot for staying with her past the first time, an even bigger idiot for stopping her the second time, and blind for waiting until the third to finally break up with her.

It's been MONTHS since I've erased all forms of communication between us, and I am so glad I did, but I just have a burning hatred towards her. I feel pure rage burn through me when she comes back into mind, and I both like and dislike that. I like it since it gives me something to focus on and it moves me forward and reminds me that what we had WAS a lie; however, I don't like that I still have ANY feelings for her even if its anger. I hate being angry because it numbs away everything and just gnaws at me relentlessly.

I'm not sure if I'm angry at her for being such a cheat, or if I'm just angry at myself for being so foolish and blind to let her do all of it to me.

Is there anything I can do to erase her from mind completely?

Talking to her won't work, I've tried several times and she's tried to drag me back to her all of them.

So, a good friend's birthday is in about a week and a half away. I want to get her something good and something that she will appreciate since last year, it was pretty lousy.

She is very artistic, a little dark humoured, and loves music. I was going to make something for her that tries to capture as much of that as I could, but I recently started wondering if she would prefer something sweet and more 'heartfelt' I guess. She does have a very sensitive side that filters through at times.

Recently her relationship with her boyfriend has been going through some rough spots, I want to get her something that shows I'm here for her, but not come off as flirty or something.

I'm just debating on whether or not I should make the gift creative, or if I should just get her a gift from the things she's told me she likes.

A good friend of mine, the same from a few of my other posts, found a college, and is moving quite far away. We've had plenty of ups and downs, and things just started to pick back up when I found out about this.

Now, I truly am happy for her, she is furthering her education and getting everything set up, which I'm confident she will do well with. It's just that, it feels too soon, like I want more time to be with her. The problem is mainly that we've never really been able to communicate through anything. My phone's always been messed up, and we can't make any progress through messaging, but we can have full length conversations in person.

Ever since I had, and ended, a relationship with an ex, we have our days where we almost avoid each other. I still feel bad about dating a girl that she didn't like, and even worse about wasting time I could have been hanging out with, but I don't know if she avoids me because of that, or to make leaving less painful.

I could be just feeling overdramatic with things I guess, but I feel like things will be so...bland without her.

As it may sound, yes, I do have feelings for her, and no, I am not looking for her to go out with me. She is in a relationship, one that I'm actually happy for her, and I just want to keep my friendship with this girl.

A girl that I, regrettably, dated a while ago is contacting me again saying that she wants to be friends again. I notice that she usually only tries to fall back on me whenever she got herself into something she couldn't get out of, and I tried to cut her out of my life because of it. She lied to everyone telling them that she was single while we were dating and even started 'relationships' with others. I know I can't let that happen again, but this girl is really the only person I once felt like I could trust.

We tried to keep talking even after we broke up, but she started saying things that made it look as if I were going out of my way to hurt her. I want to be over this girl so bad, but like I said, she's the only one I've felt close to. I want someone to be there for me, just someone who I can trust, and this girl is the only one that shows up, that even tries to take the spot, and I feel like she just wants to keep using me.

Should I try and talk to this girl, on the off chance that she might have changed? Or should I just keep trying to avoid her?

Title sums it up mildly I guess. It's just that, my parents were never around, and the few times they were it was usually drunk. I was practically raised by my sister (6 at the time) and I've just never been able to stay 'close' with anything.

Any time I've gotten a pet something always happens, usually the family gives it away for whatever reason. Every person I've tried to open up to either leaves once they know about me or twists it so they can use it and me.

I just feel...alone. I do have quite a few groups of friends, but I hardly ever talk to them about my pain or ask for help. I try to help them out, if it's something I can help with, but I just feel like if I open it with them, then it risks me just losing more.

I'm fairly lucky when it comes to most things unrelated to others, but I just feel afraid to trust or care for anything too deeply. I don't know, maybe I'm cursed or something.

A girl I was friends with and I feel like we're drifting away kind of. We used to hang out a lot and even after she got into a relationship we still spent as much time as we could together. I did develop a bit of a crush on her, and I suppose that might be the reason why I want to be a better friend with her again.

The thing that caught me and really pushed us apart was when I found a girlfriend. I know my friend didn't really like her, and did seem upset about my relationship or at least that we spent so little time together anymore. My relationship didn't work out, and hers is still going pretty well from the looks.

I see her a lot now but I feel bad around her, like I neglected or betrayed her for someone else less deserving. I tried to apologize and she said it wasn't a big deal, but it still just feels so wrong. I want to try and make things better, but another part of me feels like she just might not care anymore. Our conversations most days are just minor things, and I still feel kind of guilty around her.

So should I try to make things better? Like find more time for us to hang out again or should I just let things be? She doesn't seem to hate me, or even care for the most part, but I still would like if I could get close with her again.

A girl I used to be in a relationship with comes back whenever I feel like I'm finally over her, and pushes me away every time I want to start over. She lied and used me more times than I could count from telling everyone that she is single while we were dating, to getting me to drive four hours to a place I didn't want to go, a person I didn't want to see, and come back with two people I didn't want to spend time with.

We've broken up, and at times, more and more each day really, it feels like the best decision I made. Other times it gets me, and she tries to push all the blame on me for everything she did. Then when I can't stand her she comes back and says that she's sorry for everything she said and did, and so-and-so made her believe I just tried to hurt her. I loved this girl, I really did without a doubt in my mind, but I always questioned if she meant it when she said it.

I'm done forgiving this girl, yet I can see that she has a problem and I want to help her. It'd be so much easier to just tell her to fu** off and leave me to my life, but I want to help this girl from her own poor decisions.

Leaving is the easiest option, but is there anything I could do to at least make her see what a pit she digs herself into? I don't want another chance with her, I just want her to find a decent life.

A friend and I used to hang out a lot and spend a bunch of time together. I did developed somewhat of a crush on her, but it's never been anything serious. Along the way we both found someone else and started our own relationships. We started spending less time with each other, but still hung out when we could.

I know she didn't like the girl I was with, and she did seem somewhat jealous or at least a little upset about us losing so much time we used to spend together. We touched here and there on it but didn't go into much about it.

Things in my relationship didn't work out, and I'm not quite sure how hers is. I just feel...wrong about it. I don't really feel too bad about my relationship anymore, I just feel kinda bad about things with her. I don't know if I betrayed her, or if I feel like I left her on her own, but I just feel bad towards her. I don't know if I should apologize, or if that would only make things a bit more weird between us.

Should I apologize to her? Or am I just torn up about my relationship still?

So, a friend and I used to hang out and do a bunch together, and I admit I did develope a bit of a crush on her, but nothing too serious. We both found relationships and kinda stopped hanging out as much. She did seem somewhat jealous that I was with someone else and we touched here and there on it, nothing really much of a big deal, but she did seem a little upset about it.

Now my relationship is over, I'm not sure about hers, and I just feel like I should apologize to her. I know she didn't like the girl I was with, and I do feel bad about us not having time to hang out as much, but I'm not sure if that's why I want to say sorry, or if I feel like I just betrayed her, even though there wasn't anything really between us romantically.

I don't know, maybe I'm over thinking it. Did I betray her? Should I try to apologize, or would it just make things a bit more weird?

We've been dating for months, we can talk about pretty much anything, but she tends to keep flirting with others behind my back. She tells them that she's single, and she hasn't been with anyone since her last ex (broke up months ago). I don't know if she's doing this to hurt me before I have a chance to hurt her (she's been in a lot of bad relationships) or if she's really not interested in me. She's got a lying problem, but I have been able to work with her through a bit of it.

She's had to move recently and I'm trying to keep things going. She was talking with her ex still when we began dating and that caused problems between us for a while, but now it was someone new and someone I thought we both didn't like.

We've both been going through a lot lately. I don't know if she's trying to cope or what. The only thing I can see behind this other than her actually cheating is that she's trying to start an argument.

I don't know what to do. Leaving would be the easiest option, but I still want this girl. My trust has been damaged severely and I'm not sure if I can fully forgive this, but I think I might still love her.

I would like any and all advice that could be given because it's been driving me crazy for a while now.