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I have been friends with her for about 5 years and I really never noticed how negative she was. She doesn't follow the weight watchers program any more and then gets upset when she doesn't lose. She refuses to exercise, even though that would help her lose weight faster and allow her to eat more if she wanted. When the latest program changes happened, she was ANGRY. Why are they changing the program, why didn't they know this before, etc. I have tried to encourage her and I listen to her, but I feel as if she just wants to have the weight come off without any effort on her part. I have the same issues as she does, but she doesn't seem to "hear" me when I say that I have gained. She thinks because I have lost more than she has, that I am breezing through. But I go up and down just like others. But, I don't keep making the same mistakes. If I have a bad day or a bad snack, I immediately get control back, so I don't totally slip back into my bad habits. Yet, even though I tell her, I am having the same issues, she doesn't seem to notice it because all that she sees is that I am smaller than I was. She doesn't seem to support me in that. She got angry when we were leaving a meeting and someone asked me how close to goal I was. This made me feel good but it made my friend angry. We always hug at the end of the meeting and she just walked away, mumbling good bye, see you next week. When she was losing and I wasn't, I clapped loud for her in the meetings and told her how great it was after the meetings. I always encourage her! She seems to think this is easy for me, but it isn't. The difference between what I am doing is I am following the program and I incorporated exercise as well, which helps with the weight loss. She doesn't do either of these. I have bent over backwards to encourage her and when she asks what I am doing, I tell her I am following the program and I am exercising. I feel that I have been a better weight loss buddy and friend to her for the past 6 months, than she has been to me. I find myself actively avoiding her, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. The last straw was the last meeting. I told her our 1 year anniversary of joining weight watchers was coming up, but I would't be in town because my mom is having surgery and I am going to go help her out for a week. She said "really, I am surprised you would do that". Even though my mom and I have issues, she is still my mom and of course I would go help her. I feel like she attacked my character or morals with that comment. My mom doesn't live in the same state, so it is not like I can drop everything and go help her once a week. My friend constantly helps her mom, but she complains about it all the time. I never complain when I have to help someone. Either do it and shut up about it or don't do it and don't worry about it. I feel like an idiot because we have been friends for 5 years and I never noticed how negative she is. It has become very hard to want to remain friends with her. When I think about it, though, she has been complaining about the same things in her life for the past 5 years (mostly her mom and her husband), but made no effort to make any changes in either. Her mom is capable of taking care of herself, but my friend has to clean her house, shop for her. I really do not want to be friends with her right now. I still like her, but it is hard to be friends with someone so negative. What should I do?

We will be going to their house at Christmas and they do not care about how many children, elderdly adults are around. As long as they can smoke to their hearts content. I am worried about my daughter in law and my grandbaby and the second hand smoke. I walked into their house this summer and almost gagged from the smell of the stale smoke. I thought I had walked into a bar. Any suggestions?

I would like to give some nice gifts and some gag gifts, but certainly don't want to step over any lines.

Any help would be appreciated.

I took it to staples and the person there had it working, but when I brought it home, it started acting up again. She thinks it is a software problem. She suggested I do a restore and I have tried to do a restore to specific dates and it won't allow the restore to happen. I was using my son's CPU while mine was at Staples and this didn't happen with his (I thought it might be the power in the house at first). Any suggestions?

I don't fit it in with my family. I consider this good since I am the only sibling of 4 who has never had a drug/alcohol problem or been in jail. I have held a job for 28 years, I am not a racist, never been in jail, accept responsibility for mistakes I have made and try not to make the same mistakes again, I don't borrow money from family. My brother, who is a manipulative dry drunk (he is a recovering alcoholic, but is as big an *** as when he drank), just sent me an e-mail about Jesus. My brother is a racist. He lives in Florida and does nothing but ***** about everyone speaking Spanish. Also, he never communicates with me. Why does this hypocrite brother send me this e-mail? Because he is a self-righteous prick. Plus, when i don't respond, ooh my sister never talks to me. He doesn't remember all the manipulative things he does. I don't want to see or speak to either of my brothers. I tolerate my mother because she is my mother. I wish I could disappear! HELP ME!