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I'm a 17 year old senior in high school and every girl I've dated I've known for several years and been good friends with. I'm a virgin, and want to keep it that way til marriage. In every relationship I've had, the girl wanted to wait til marriage, and they were wanting to wait before dating. But every single time, over time as we dated, the girl would start gradually pushing for sexual stuff or all out saying they want to have sex just because we dated a couple months, and I'll leave them.

I refused to have sex in any of the relationships and after i refuse, the relationship would go downhill and go to a breakup, and the girl would end up going after a guy that treats her like ****,lose her virginity to him, cry about it and get sympathy, and then talk about it like they're all proud of it, all in a cycle of like 2 weeks. This has happened with almost every girl I've dated.

I don't get it at all. I'm not physically attractive, I don't work out or anything. I'm skinny with hardly any muscle and my hair is getting thinner already so I don't understand what made them like this when they dated me.

In every relationship where this happened, after the break up, the girl would go be with some big muscular guy who's an asshole and just uses her and takes their v-card and they act like it's nothing. I honestly feel like most girls are just sluts and hypocrites anymore.

I make myself clear about things like this so someone doesn't waste their time on me, I understand a lot of people don't wait, that's fine, that's not my business. But it offends me when someone knows how strongly i feel about this and tries to push me. Many of the ones that say they want to wait til marriage end up being the first to try to change my mind about it, at least in my experience.

Wtf is with girls going into relationships to change people? Are all girls like this now?

I've been doing some thinking lately about life, and a lot of my friends have been getting into working out and exercising lately, either for health reasons or others, and the only physical activity I actually enjoy or don't feel physically awkward or uncoordinated at is running.

I've tried getting into lifting and workouts for muscle build up and I just lose all motivation for it, so I'm very skinny with little muscle to begin with. I'd feel physically awkward in sex, the motion of the hips and everything feels just weird and awkward and i'd probably either be tired or end up losing motivation in that too. Heck I even hate having someone sit on my lap, it's uncomfortable, and the idea of having someone bouncing on top of me just sounds even worse. And all of that just for a short feeling at the end, it doesn't sound worth it, even for someone you love.

I've always been more of a mind based person than physical person. Should I just avoid relationships because of this?

I've never had sex, but I've tried moving my hips like you would and it just feels physically uncomfortable and weird, there's no way in hell I'd spend all that time doing that. I'd rather just do a work out and I hate working out half the time.

I'm a 17 year old senior in high school and every girl I've dated I've known for several years and been good friends with. I'm a virgin, and want to keep it that way til marriage. In every relationship I've had, the girl wanted to wait til marriage, and they were wanting to wait before dating. But every single time, over time as we dated, the girl would start gradually pushing for sexual stuff or all out saying they want to have sex just because we dated a couple months.

I refused to have sex in any of the relationships and after i refuse, the relationship would go downhill and go to a breakup, and the girl would end up going after a guy that treats her like ****,lose her virginity to him, cry about it and get sympathy, and then talk about it like they're all proud of it, all in a cycle of like 2 weeks. This has happened with almost every girl I've dated.

I don't get it at all. I'm not physically attractive, I don't work out or anything. I'm skinny with hardly any muscle and my hair is getting thinner already so I don't understand what made them like this when they dated me.

In every relationship where this happened, after the break up, the girl would go be with some big muscular guy who's an asshole and just uses her and takes their v-card and they act like it's nothing. I honestly feel like most girls are just sluts and hypocrites anymore.

I make myself clear about things like this so someone doesn't waste their time on me, I understand a lot of people don't wait, that's fine, that's not my business. But it offends me when someone knows how strongly i feel about this and tries to push me. Many of the ones that say they want to wait til marriage end up being the first to try to change my mind about it, at least in my experience.

Wtf is with girls going into relationships to change people? Are all girls like this now?

I've been doing some thinking lately about life, and a lot of my friends have been getting into working out and exercising lately, either for health reasons or others, and the only physical activity I actually enjoy or don't feel physically awkward or uncoordinated at is running.

I've tried getting into lifting and workouts for muscle build up and I just lose all motivation for it, so I'm very skinny with little muscle to begin with. I'd feel physically awkward in sex, the motion of the hips and everything feels just weird and awkward and i'd probably either be tired or end up losing motivation in that too. Heck I even hate having someone sit on my lap, it's uncomfortable, and the idea of having someone bouncing on top of me just sounds even worse. And all of that just for a short feeling at the end, it doesn't sound worth it, even for someone you love.

I've always been more of a mind based person than physical person. Should I just avoid relationships because of this?

I'm a 17 year old senior in high school and every girl I've dated I've known for several years and been good friends with. I'm a virgin, and want to keep it that way til marriage. In every relationship I've had, the girl wanted to wait til marriage, and they were wanting to wait before dating. But every single time, over time as we dated, the girl would start gradually pushing for sexual stuff or all out saying they want to have sex just because we dated a couple months.

I refused to have sex in any of the relationships and after i refuse, the relationship would go downhill and go to a breakup, and the girl would end up going after a guy that treats her like ****,lose her virginity to him, cry about it and get sympathy, and then talk about it like they're all proud of it, all in a cycle of like 2 weeks. This has happened with almost every girl I've dated.

I don't get it at all. I'm not physically attractive, I don't work out or anything. I'm skinny with hardly any muscle and my hair is getting thinner already so I don't understand what made them like this when they dated me.

In every relationship where this happened, after the break up, the girl would go be with some big muscular guy who's an asshole and just uses her and takes their v-card and they act like it's nothing. I honestly feel like most girls are just sluts and hypocrites anymore.

I make myself clear about things like this so someone doesn't waste their time on me, I understand a lot of people don't wait, that's fine, that's not my business. But it offends me when someone knows how strongly i feel about this and tries to push me. Many of the ones that say they want to wait til marriage end up being the first to try to change my mind about it, at least in my experience.

Wtf is with girls going into relationships to change people? Are all girls like this now?

I've been noticing that the girls that are interested in me all have major issues, such as drinking/partying, heavy smoking, easy, father issues, etc. I don't want to deal with any of that in a relationship. I've seen what happens to people who date someone like that, and even if it does work out, the relationship is constantly rocky and just an utter mess. It just becomes trying to help that girl deal with those issues, and I'm not getting into a relationship to fix someone's mess.

I don't have any major issues going on like that, I'm a typical high GPA student, no partying or crazy stuff going on in my life. I like things simple. It used to be, from what I saw, girls with all those issues going on typically would go after guys with those problems just because they wouldn't feel alone in that, but now it seems the opposite? I just want someone who won't bring so much drama and baggage into a relationship and doesn't have a questionable past. I understand people "make mistakes," but I end up getting screwed over in some way by a past of mistakes, so I've become less accepting of those kinds of things in dating. Why do all the wrong people and none of the right ones have any interest in me?

A very close friend of mine (female) confessed that she's been "in love" with me for almost a year and has been flirting with me nonstop the past couple weeks and has talked to me about the idea of us dating. I've been deflecting her advances by putting myself down (I have major self esteem issues that don't bother me until a relationship comes up) and she'll change the subject to put me at ease.

She asked me why I don't want to date, and I told her it's too much stress, drama, wasted money and time, I hate my body, and I'm socially awkward, and I don't want to have sex.

She's a really sweet, caring girl and she's always been there for me through everything, and we always have fun talking and hanging out together and everyone's asked us if we're dating. But there's 2 major reasons why I won't date her.

- I have low self esteem when it comes to my body, and I don't want sex ever. Literally nothing turns me on. I can tell I'd be so awkward doing that. She tried saying I was wrong and actually said to me, "Not trying to be creepy, but I'd have sex with you if we were dating. There's nothing wrong with your body or you as a person." That brings me to my 2nd reason why I won't date her.

-Even if I wanted to have sex, I'd wait til marriage, and it would be with a person who also waited til marriage. The last kid she dated apparently "pressured" her into doing all kinds of things. On the one hand, that's not totally her fault and she would make it sound horrible and regretful, but on the other hand, she'll talk about it like she loved it. I'm not a religious person, but I'm old fashioned I guess when it comes to dating. I won't even date a non-virgin, much less marry one. It just feels...wrong to me, in my head and my heart.

I didn't outright tell her that her being a nonvirgin was why I wouldn't date her, but she got the hint and she's been feeling sad the last couple times we've talked. I feel really bad about it. She's a really sweet girl and she goes out of her way to help with things and listen and be there, but this is just something I can never be comfortable with. I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I apparently already have. What should I tell her?

I'm a senior in high school right now, and I'm pretty set on the college I'm going to, but that's really all the progress of any kind I've made in life in the last 4 years. I've lost the majority of my friends since they're busy with jobs, and I haven't gotten hired the past 4 years I've applied for jobs. The places I've applied too instead hire either the CBI kids of nearby schools, college students, or senior citizens instead. Even after all this time, I have no interest in anything academic at all, but I'm a 3.5+ GPA student. I love music, writing and playing music. I play guitar, bass, and drums. However, I know people who have tried going into music related careers, but that doesn't appear to be a solid career path anymore, and I would never teach music. Teaching in any sort of way isn't for me.

My parents have been getting on me about finding an interest, but no school clubs or groups around here are anything I can fit in with, my community and school cut down to mostly sports activities, and I'm far from athletic. I'm skinny 5'8" about 145lbs and uncoordinated. My parents tell me I should work out and point out how the more built muscular guys around here get the girls, but I don't care. Women have brought nothing but useless drama and BS into my life, I don't need anymore. Plus I have very low self esteem, too low for relationships. I act like a jerk if a girl takes interest just to be left alone.

Every day I just feel like I go through the motions and there's nothing really worth living for. I don't really know what to do at this point, I feel so empty every day. My best friend (female) confessed that she's been "in love" with me for months and wants a relationship with me, but I just use my low self esteem to deflect her advances and tell her I don't want to date period.

I feel like a shell half the time, I come home from school every day, go in my room and just listen to music or play a game for hours, and school just sucks the motivation to do anything out of me.

Maybe I should just disappear, I'm not critical in anyone's life at this point.

This girl, "Kate," has been my best friend for several years. I've never been a big dating person, only having few, but lengthy relationships.

Kate and I dated 2 years ago for 8 months before she started having issues with her father about him wanting her to come home from college just to make her do all the work around the house her mother doesn't want to do, plus her grandmother had died. Kate had and still has her own place. Kate and I broke up, though it was for the best, she needed time to herself.

She went out with several guys who treated her like total ****, and just wanted to use her, and it was irritating to see her doing that knowing what they wanted. Then months after this, she wanted to go back out with me, and I was cautious. We talked, but then she went to hang out with this guy who's wanted to use her for over a year, but she didn't believe me. He got her drunk and took her virginity, after which she came to see me and she was bawling and shaking, yet weeks later she talked about it to her friends like she was proud of it, so I turned her down and she appeared sad for awhile.

After that, I had her go to this dance thing with a guy i knew would treat her right. She wanted to go with me but I lied to get out of it, and she's recently told me that it broke her heart that I didn't go, but I was too torn to deal with how I felt at the time. She's been dating this guy for almost a year now, and I've been happy for her, though wishing that things turned out differently before all this. Then last week, she tells me that she wishes she hadn't dated those guys before and lost her virginity to the guy who got her drunk, and says she missed us being together, and has been flirting with me like she used to when we dated. She asked me if I could see a future for us together, and i gave a neutral response of "Anything's possible." But after this, I told her that I can't see myself in a relationship after being screwed over by almost everyone I've dated, and that I hate the thought of sex.

I'm a virgin by choice, and if I ever have sex, it'll be in marriage only, and though every girl I've dated agreed with me at first, they'd change their mind several months into dating and we'd break up due to this issue. Over several years, the thought of sex has grown to just disgust me and I'm starting to think I'll just remain unmarried so I don't have to have sex. I also have self esteem issues when it comes to my body, I'm only 5' 9" and 145 lbs, I'm rather skinny with little muscle. I told Kate all this and she was upset by it and spent almost 3 hours into the night trying to convince me otherwise, but I told her that it's not something she has to worry about anymore and she's been flirting with me, still bothered that I've grown disgusted at the thought of sex and am considering to just be asexual.

Why is she so bothered about something that doesn't involve her anymore? I got her to be with a guy who treats her well and is able to be there with her more often than I was able to, due to my being busy so much, though I've become less busy lately. She tells me that she hasn't been as happy as she appears, but I highly doubt that's true from what her friends have said.