Frank

Here is a little bit about myself so you can get a picture of my situation. I am a young single somewhat nerdy guy. I am a college graduate, however getting a higher education has left me with a large amount of debt. My debts have made it impossible for me to afford my own home so I am forced to live with my mother rather than being homeless. I don't drink, or do drugs. I am working part time because it is the only work I could find. I consider myself a fairly level headed guy, and I have no criminal record, and I stay out of trouble. I try to treat people with respect, and be a nice guy.

My sister is my polar opposite. She never graduated high school. She works at a strip club, and has a drug and alcohol problem. She has no debt because of her stripping money although she is always broke because of her drug problem. She has a 7 year old daughter that basically lives with my mother and I most of the time. My sister is a bad parent, and it shows in my niece's behavior.

I will just give you examples from the past few days to get a general idea of this child's pattern of behavior.

Three days ago: I gave my niece a $10 toy. I personally cooked two meals for my niece. I read a book with my niece. I spent an hour doing my niece's homework with her. I assembled a hamster cage for her. After all this my niece says "You never do anything for me." Then she went into my room and stole some things.

Two days ago: I needed my mother to grab a couple of little things from the market the next time she goes out like some sponges for washing the dishes, and garbage bags. So I go to grab a post it note... and those were among the stolen things so I go to my nieces room to get back a single post it note (She took 4 and a half full pads of post it notes from me. I only retrieved a single post it note.) My niece spots me getting back a single post it note. She screams bloody murder. The child was screaming as if I was murdering someone in front of her. She could barely breath and was turning red because she was screaming and crying so much. She was not back to a more normal state for at least twenty minutes.

Yesterday: She was worse than normal. My mom asked me to get her a glass of milk. My niece said "I want chocolate milk." I get a glass and poor milk into it. Then I start putting some chocolate syrup in the glass. She screams again and starts hitting me. My mom yells at me and not her and says "You know she likes putting the chocolate in herself"... No backup there. When she calmed down I asked her "Why are you so mean to me?" She said "You are ugly, and you stink." I can't do anything about ugly, but I know I shower twice almost every day so I can't stink that bad...

In general my niece screams at me tells me to shut up, cries a river of tears a lot, and physically hits me. My sister is of no assistance nor is my mother because my mother always plays the "good cop bad cop" and I end up as the bad cop. I'm the cop when I say "No you can not eat a fifth ice cream bar today, you have to eat healthier food." I'm the bad cop when I say "No you can not eat a sucker while driving in the car. If we are in an accident it would make things worse."

My mom ALWAYS blames me if my niece throws a fit. She claims I am provoking the child and I should act like an adult. I am the closest thing to a real parent my niece has, yet she treats me worse than any of the other adults in her life.

Her real father is hundreds of miles away and has not ever paid child support and the last time he saw her she was in diapers.

Her mother is not much better. Although she makes far more money than I do I end up having to spend more money on my niece than she does. I can't let her go to school without shoes, and since she is here I have to feed her I'm not going to let her starve.

My mother does not help the situation at all. She coddles my niece because of her messed up situation. My mother is my nieces favorite person / best friend. The problem is my mom lets her get away with anything. She never punishes bad behavior and spoils her rotten. One time my niece punched me in the head and hurt her hand on my face. I got yelled at over this incident. She constantly undermines and over rules any discipline I use.

I really hate my life, and I'm sick of it. My niece, sister, and mother make things so hard for me. What should I do?

I am a guy. I have known a woman for several years. She considers me to be her best friend. At least couple of nights a week she will be up texting me all night until 2 or 3 in the morning and she texts me hundreds of times most days. She does have a boyfriend, but they fight all the time and he is going to be deployed in a few months for the military.

She literally tells me everything about her. Things from her favorite movie, song, color, flower, her daily activities ect to much more personal things like how she grooms her pubic hair, how and how often she masturbates, every sex partner she has ever had, what she does and does not do in bed. Sometimes in vivid detail other times in just a few words.

She usually says something along the lines of "Not like you care but..." before she tells me something very personal and sexual about herself. I knew she was pregnant before the father of her child or her own family knew she was pregnant.

I love her, and I have told her that I love her but I think she won't say it back b/c she is with this other guy and she would consider that cheating. I know she has feelings for me though.

I feel like I found myself in the friend zone and maxed it out. It is like I became a hall of famer record setter gold medalist in that friend zone. I know I am an important part of her life, but I don't know if I can ever get something more meaningful than that.

There is a dentist by the name of John. John is a real straight laced guy who has never done anything worse than jaywalking. John has a wife named Stacy who he has found out to be cheating on him. They are going through bitter divorce proceedings and he is under a mountain of stress. John and Stacy have a son named Willy. Willy has a very serious disease that will almost surely kill him without very expensive medical treatment. As long as John keeps his job then the insurance that he gets from his job will pay to keep little Willy alive and kicking. If he loses his job then there is a very great chance that Willy will die shortly after he loses his insurance coverage.

One day a patient comes to Johns office for a significant dental procedure that will require her to be put to sleep. The patients name is Lauren. Lauren is a young and extremely attractive divorce lawyer. It just so happens that she is Stacy's lawyer for the divorce proceedings. Lauren is a very successful lawyer. Even though John's wife cheated on him Lauren will likely get half of John's assets in the case.

John's stress, depression, loneliness, anger, and frustration make him snap and do something devious and out of character for once in his life. While Lauren is under the influence of his knockout gas he decides to open her blouse and fondle her breasts. He enjoys himself for a just a couple of minutes before feeling lump and then a ton of guilty feelings flow into him about what he is doing and then closes her blouse, and makes her presentable again before doing her dental work.

As he is finishing up on her dental work, and she is waking up he thinks about weather or not he should tell her about the lump. John has some basic medical training and he thinks it might be cancerous and he definitely thinks she should go to a specialist about it.

Then other thoughts fill his head.

If he tells her about the lump this is the worst possible scenario: Johns reputation will be ruined. His son will likely die from his medical condition. John will lose his job. John will lose a lot more in the divorce. John could be sued by Lauren for some sort of sexual misconduct. Basically the terrible life he thinks he has now could get a whole lot worse not only for himself but for his innocent son.

If he does not tell Lauren things won't get worse in his life however Lauren may not find the lump on her own in time and it could kill her.

What is the morally correct thing for John to do?

Most of the people I hear about with BDD are like some hot young girl that is like an 8 or 9 or 10 on the attractiveness scale who thinks she should look like a super model in a magazine and is depressed about it.

Body dysmorphic disorder is a type of mental illness wherein the affected person is concerned with body image, manifested as excessive concern about and preoccupation with a perceived defect of their physical features. The person thinks they have a defect in either one feature or several features of their body, which causes psychological distress that causes clinically significant distress or impairs occupational or social functioning.

Here is what I was wondering. What if the person truly is unattractive. For instance could a heavy set woman with sagging breasts, crooked teeth and gray hair have body dysmorphic disorder if they truly thought of themselves as physically ugly? Or would that person just have an accurate self image?

The way I understand it is that Syria has been in a civil war for a few years now since the Arab Spring thing.

In recent days Syria bombed... Syria.

So these pro war people think what now?

We should bomb Syria because Syria bombed Syria in order to teach Syria to stop bombing Syria?

Is that not like shooting a man who jumped out a window for crime of trying to commit suicide?

I will list a bunch of examples I could possibly think of. Say if these are moral wrong doings and why you feel they are or are not.

First off assume the following to be true for all of these situations. You are a kind person and would never do harm to another person who did not deserve it. You are near the bottom rung of the socio economic ladder. You work hard but can barely afford food and shelter. You are not successful in romantic relationships either. Many people are this type of person.

1) You sell prescription medicine or weed to people who demand it. If you personally do not sell it to them then they can and will get it someplace else. You are not the only person who sells drugs. However you only sell these drugs to people it is useful for like adults with arthritis that do not have insurance. You don't sell the drugs to children or people you feel a serious drug addicts.

2) You attend college and work a low paying job as well. You have a very demanding schedule. You have a scholarship and need to maintain certain grades to keep your education being paid for. You cheat to get good enough grades to maintain your scholarship, but only in "filler classes". For example if you are training to be a nurse in college you don't cheat on anything to do with medicine you are learning. However you don't think twice about cheating in say an astronomy class or art appreciation because those "skills" have nothing to do with the job you are training for.

3) You are really attracted to someone and love them very much and long for them but they only think of you as a friend, and will never think of you as more than a friend. You do something like sniff clothes from there hamper while they are not in the room, or paint pictures or write poetry of them without showing your art to them. Perhaps you don't have artistic skills to express yourself and instead you use your technical knowledge and obtain nude photos of them from there computer or phone, but keep them for "personal use" and do not share them or use them to blackmail or anything sinister like that. You act no differently towards them, but having the release of your hidden behavior allows you to keep your sanity.

4) You want to see a certain movie. You can either not afford to go to the theaters or can not find a date to go with. Eventually the movie will come out on cable and you will watch it then. However you decide not to wait a year or more and instead download a bootleg copy of the movie for free. The people who made the movie are losing no money b/c you would not have attended the theater to see it in the first place. You would have watched it on basic cable in a couple of years but decide to watch its bootleg now instead.

5) You apply for a job. Your resume and application have false information on it. You put friends numbers in as former bosses to give you a referral. The job you are applying for is something you are more than capable of doing but lack work experience in. For example the job may be a custodian and you put down that you worked as a professional carpet cleaner for five years even though you have no related experience other than mopping up occasionally while you worked at mcdonalds. I'm not talking about a person who worked as a mailman applying to be a brain surgeon where someone could be killed or even get bad service. I'm talking something you know you can do but you just want to make yourself sound better on paper.

I could list other examples but here is 5 what your your thoughts? Is this behavior morally wrong even if nobody gets hurt and it helps you out economically, sexually through masturbation, or provides you with entertainment or comfort.

Think about it...

I am a big nerd. Think Leonard from Big Bang Theory... Only with an IQ of in the 150 range according to a few tests instead of 173, and I'm not short, and I'm not a physicist I'm a computer programmer.

I have a female friend. I have kept her from failing out of college and losing her scholarship by doing a lot of her work for her. She knows I love her and would do anything for her. She likes to come over my house and eat my food. She likes to swim in my pool a lot. She likes to watch movies with me and stuff. Problem for me is she does not look at me romantically / sexually...

Even though she does not look at me romantically or sexually she has told me of every sexual act she has ever done in vivid details... Such a tease. I ask her to send me naked photos of her self she is like no. Then she is like she would never date me. I think she gets off on teasing me.

If I were a caveman type person I would say enough of the teasing club her over the head drag her back to my cave for some sex. However I am not that kind of guy. I would never take a woman against her will.

What I have done however is taken photo's I have of her and used my expert photoshop skills to create fake nude images of her. They are for my personal use and I wouldn't post them anywhere or blackmail her with them or anything like that.

Have I done anything wrong?

I'll explain my story so you can understand my situation. I remodel houses, and do construction. About 3 years ago I was sent by my boss to a nice mansion worth millions of dollars to tear down a wall to expand a room. I was greeted by a very attractive young lady in a silk bathrobe. Her name is Ashley. I was using a ladder and a hammer as part of doing my work. I had most of the wall taken down when Ashley came into the room and offered me a bottled water. I was thirsty so I accepted and thanked her. We had a short conversation for a few minutes. Well I left my hammer on top of the ladder and I went to move the ladder while distracted from still talking to her. The hammer fell on top of my head knocking me out cold. I was in a coma for three days and this woman I had just met got me to the hospital and stayed by my bedside the entire time. She saved my life.

After I woke back up we started talking and I invited her to go out on a date with me. She accepted and things progressed from there into a sexual relationship I was her first. For some time I was very happy. Ashley has never worked an honest day in her life. Her grandfather was some sort of bigshot in the steel industry and before he died he setup a trust fund for her so that she gets a paycheck of more than I make in a year every month for her whole life.

She had me quit my job and move in with her after a few months. She would buy me anything I wanted, and have any kind of sex I wanted and it was great sex. She treated me like a King. I couldn't complain.

All good things come to an end. Eventually one day we went to the convenient store, and she dared me to steal some beers with her. I went along with it, and we got away with it that time. She said "Stolen beer tastes better." That was just the start of me seeing her kleptomania. She got a huge high off of shoplifting. I didn't want to do it, but at the same time I didn't want to upset her so I went along with it. One day we did get caught, and both of us were banned from a store. I wanted to call it quits on the whole shoplifting thing, but she didn't and we continued until we had to spend a few hours in jail.

Then she started wanting to have sex in public places all the time. Like in a strangers parked car or in the bathroom at a restaurant. It got so bad that we eventually we even had sex in a church confessional booth.

Sometimes is bipolar. She gets crazy and violent sometimes. She has thrown dishes at me, and cursed me out on more than one occasion hit me in the groin. I never lay a finger on her.

Well I decided enough of this she is too crazy for me and I dumped her. I got my old job back and tried to resume my previous life.

She did not take the breakup well at all. She filled my entire voice mail box. I gave her a second chance and she was back to stealing things again and I broke up with her again. These breakups and get back togethers have happened at least ten times since we started dating.

Eventually on our most recent breakup she called me up all suicidal told me she is gonna kill herself with a bunch of pills. I rushed over to her house and took her to the emergency room to get her stomach pumped.

Here I am reluctantly back together with her. I mean I care about her and I don't want her to kill herself, but at the same time she is just to crazy to be around.

A handful of children commit suicide because they are bullied. Most of whom are not even physically bullied it is verbal or cyber bullying.

Why not instead of focusing on the bullying they focus on the kids that are being bullied? Tell them to "buck up". When I was a student sometimes I would get bullied. You know what I did? I didn't do what these commercials advice and go tell an adult. Instead I stood up for myself. A few shoves back and forth, nobody gets hurt and I gain respect for standing up for myself and the same day I made a new friend out of my former bully. After all he was just horsing around didn't mean anything by it. The kid had 3 brothers and thats just how things were. I'm still friends with that person today 20 years later. I was the best man at his wedding.

When I was in school do you know what happened to the kids who would run and tell the teachers / parents on everyone who did any sort of "bullying"? The other children would dissociate themselves with that person and alienate them. Those were the kids who would get bullied the worst for being a snitch.

Why are they giving these children such bad advice? or has society really gone that "soft"?

I'm going to tell a short story part of which I got out of a newspaper, and other parts of which I made up so that things fall in place better, and it is more interesting. Here goes.

Jane is marred to John. She is happily married until she finds out that he is having an affair with her so called best friend Betty. Jane is angry at John eventually she forgives him, but she is absolutely furious at Betty. That is when Jane plans her revenge.

Jane goes online and searches for a lonely perverted creepy gullible guy. That is where she meets Walter. She sends photographs of her own nude body with Betty's head photoshopped in. She calls the guy and talks with him for weeks pretending to be Betty all the time. Eventually she "confides" in Walter that she has a violent rape fantasy.

After Jane has been talking with Walter under the guise of being Betty for over a month she finally invites Walter over to Betty's house to rape her. She sets up strange guidelines like her safe word is "pineapple" and she don't want him to stop raping her unless she says "pineapple" which is a word that has probably never be said to a home intruder.

Walter goes ahead with the planned rape fantasy / Jane's revenge plot, and ends up raping Betty. Walter rapes Betty for several hours and slaps her around a little bit as to Jane's request doing no determinant damage until John comes over her house. John beats Walter within an inch of his life breaking several bones in his body giving him a concussion and putting him in critical condition. Even after he has stopped moving John kicks him in the ribs and head several times. He stomps on his spine breaking his back. After the police and an ambulance arrive Walter is handcuffed to a hospital bed and is only saved by the skin of his teeth by outstanding doctors. Walter will never walk again.

The police show up, and an investigation is done on Walters computer. The IP address of the chat logs along with phone records lead back to Jane being the one putting Walter up to all of this. Jane confesses to putting Walter up to everything.

Who would be sentenced to what in this case or would there be multiple cases?

A couple of months back I got a new cellphone number. Since then I have gotten a handful of texts and calls from people I don't know trying to buy drugs. What should I do?

I have been dating this girl for a little over a year now. She is very attractive, and is nice to me but she is so shallow...

Some of my criteria for her shallowness:

- Judging people based on their appearances (how hot they are, whether or not they wear nice clothes)

- Spending lots of time in front of the mirror; overly concerned with her own appearance

- Caring a lot about gossip and other people's lives

- Lacking her own beliefs; she just goes with whatever she thinks sounds 'cool'

Don't get me wrong she is very good to me. She will massage my back, and cook me food, the sex is great, she even does my laundry and stuff for me. She does a lot of little things that are nice to me. I make a lot more money than her but she is not selfish / gold digging about buying me stuff. For instance she bought me a PS3 game that she knew I wanted, and she sometimes buys me clothes. Truth be told though I probably have spent 3-4 times as much on her but I do make a lot more money than her. I'm not even gonna make that an issue.

The problem is her shallowness... She likes to talk crap about other people or celebrities. It's annoying. She can be mean to people who she thinks are unattractive or poorly dressed. Her intelligence is so very low. It saddens me. I can't have an intelligent conversation with her without feeling like I am talking to an idiot.

She is totally in love with me and wants to spend a ton of time with me, and have sex all the time. She moved in, and we have sex a few times a week. I mean that's great and all, but I can't watch a baseball game without explaining everything to her, or watch a movie or TV show without explaining everything to her.

Her Pros : She is attractive & super nice to me

Her Cons: She is not very smart & she is very shallow

Here is my paradox... If I choose to dump her based on her lower intelligence and shallowness that makes me shallow, and stupid for passing up on a good thing. I would ultimately be a hypocrite... The problem is I want a woman that can actually hold a conversation about something other than celebrity gossip or clothes and fashion...

I don't know what the right thing for me to do is? I mean I love her, but I wish she were more of a nerd like me instead of such a bimbo... or am I just over thinking things?

Suppose there is a big professional poker tournament with hundreds of people and everyone who finishes in the top 10 places people get differing amounts of money. Lets say 10th place gets $10,000 and 9th place gets $20,000 just to simplify. The top 8 get more than those, but that's not important.

The tournament is down to the final 10 people.

Player A has been dealt pocket kings.

Player B has been dealt pocket kings.

Player C has been dealt pocket aces.

Player A has slightly more chips than player B, and player B is the short stack. Player C has a big stack of chips and is in the lead by far.

Player A goes all in before the flop, and is quickly called by player B who thinks he is about to double up. Player C has aces and he makes a quick call as well. Everyone else folds. The flop turn and river are dealt. The aces hold up and are not cracked by either set of kings.

Would the prize money of both 9th and 10th place be split evenly among players A & B giving each $15,000... or would player A get $20,000 b/c he had more chips than player B at the start of the hand?

My mother remarried when I was 10 years old. My stepfather has a niece 2 years younger than myself. From the time I was 14-20 and she was 12-18 we became best friends, and spent almost every day together. When we were teenagers we had sex numerous times. Nobody but us ever knew we were having sex. We were only related through a wedding anyways so its not like it was incest. As adults however we sort of went our separate ways. My mom divorced my stepfather, and we don't see that side of the family much anymore. We are both in our 30's now. Well she has been on again off again dating this other guy for the past 10 years. Last year they had a big fight, and she came over to hang out with me. We hadn't seen each other in almost a year at that point. Then we had a lot to drink and then had sex for the first time in since we were teenagers. Well they got back together, and he proposed to her, and she accepted. They are getting married at the end of the year, and she has invited me to her wedding. Would you go if you were me? Why or why not?

Here are my attributes. Single, White, Male, early 30's, low income, drug & disease free.

I just always wanted to have some crazy fun sex with a large group of people, but I don't know where to start.

Thoughts?

Lets say there is a couple. We will call them Jack and Jill.

Jack and Jill are both legal adults.

Jack and Jill have been dating for a few years, and have had consensual sex with each other over a hundred times.

They have not had sex for a few weeks. One night Jack and Jill go out drinking and when they get home both parties are extremely hammered. They start having sex shortly after they get back home, and Jill reaches her hand down to Jacks butt. Jill gets extra frisky today, and sticks a finger into Jacks rear.

Jack says "Get that out of there, No, and Quit it", but she proceeds to finger his butt. Eventually they complete the intercourse, and she passes out.

Jack can't get to sleep, and rolls Jill onto her belly and sodomizes the sleeping Jill. Jill has never agreed to anal sex in the past with Jack or anyone else. She wakes up in the middle of it. She says for him to stop, and protests. He stops about a minute later. She starts yelling and screaming, and they get into a huge argument.

The neighbors called the police b/c of the screaming. Shortly afterwards the police arrive, and they get the story that I just told you.

If you were the police, and some sort of report was made about this, and both parties agreed that all that was said is true what would the charges be?

Jack is a rapist.

Jill is a rapist.

Both Jack and Jill are rapists.

Neither party is a rapist.

I saw a popular video on youtube where a little fella was being arrested by a police officer and he said "I can break these cuffs". The police man calmly replied with "You can't break these cuffs". And thus a meme was created... Here is the video. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhrwC2BoAkE

Here is what I am thinking: If you took several very strong guys. Lets say...

-The #1 professional arm wrestling champion in the world

-Muhammad Ali in his prime

-A martial artist such as Bruce lee or Chuck Norris in there prime

-Andre the giant in his prime

-The winner of the world strongest man competition

-A professional body builder in his prime

Okay now lets assume that you handcuff all of these men with there hands behind there back individually to telephone polls.

To put them all in a full on rage, and desire to get out of those cuffs you take there loved ones and start slowly torturing them to death in front of them. So that power that a mother can get to flip a car off of a child is burning inside each of them.

Would any of them be able to break the handcuffs? Why or why not? Who would break the cuffs first, if any could and why?

I have a sixteen year old son. His mother, and I have been divorced since he was a toddler. (She got remarried, so no more alimony Yay!) He has his own room at my house. He comes over to stay almost every weekend (assuming I do not have to work that weekend), and I get him for most of the summer.

I don't think I'm a perfect father, but I do the best I can. I paid for half of his car when he got his license. (I made him pay for the other half). I like to take him out to sports games, or to play paint ball, laser tag, camping, fishing or just hang out and play some xbox 360 with him. He says I'm "20% cooler" than his step dad... Don't get that 20% cooler reference? Well I wouldn't either if not for my son.

You see my son is a "Brony". (A brony is a fan of my little pony.) My dad would have beat me if I liked my little pony, but I don't want to be like that with my kids. I have never laid a hand on my son in violence... If that's what my son likes good for him. He likes to watch that show all the time, and he writes fan fictions for that show and draws pictures and stuff and he is a huge fan of it... So I even bought him hundreds of dollars worth of those pony dolls, a few t shirts, and the dvd set... Wow I'm such a cool dad right? (I sort of regret that at this point...)

I never really had to yell at my son over anything serious. He gets excellent grades, he has a box full of sports trophies, he stays out of trouble, and treats other people with respect... Nothing really to punish him over. He actually talks to me about stuff, and we are like friends. (I'm still his father though, but it's nice that he can talk to me about anything that is bothering him.) He has been as great of a son to me as I have been a dad to him. I really love him a lot.

Well... Last night at about 3 in the morning I woke up because I had to take a pee. On my way back from the bathroom I heard a noise and checked around the house. I peeked my head into his room, and saw that he was jerking off to naked pictures of cartoon pony's... I stared for about five seconds like a deer caught in the headlights, and slowly backed away out of the room.

I went back to my own bedroom, and stayed up for an hour thinking. I really have no idea what I am supposed to do... I have narrowed it down to 3 possible responses.

Response 1) Take all his pony crap away, and yell at him...

Response 2) Try to talk about it...

Response 3) Ignore it, and hope it is just a phase...

All 3 responses have a negative side to it.

If I take his pony crap away and yell at him he will probably get mad at me and not want to talk to me and be embarrassed. I don't want him to stop drawing either he has actually gotten very good at drawing ponies and that might stifle his creativity, or might look for other activities like sex with girls his own age and get one pregnant or start doing drugs...

If I try to talk about it... I don't know what to say.

If I ignore it then it might get worse.

Not trying to be racist, just telling it how it is from my perspective.

My wife is a petite beautiful woman of 4'10", 90 lbs. I'm a little over a foot taller than her, and twice her weight. She works as a librarian, and I am an automotive mechanic. I am in my early 30's she is in her late 20's and we have been happily married for going on 8 years. My wife dresses more conservatively than most women do, and she is showing off her body or anything like that by the way she dresses.

Unfortunately neither of us were born with a silver spoon in our mouth, and we happen to work for our money. In order to find work we have been forced to live in one of the blackest cities you could imagine (It's like 90-95% black). Ever since we moved here, we have had to deal with constantly being harassed, propositioned, stalked, and hassled by these creeps, and it's at the point where my wife don't feel safe going anywhere without me. She says she can't even walk our dog, or go grocery shopping, or go to the mall, or go out to eat, or even just drive her car to work.

I personally always pack heat when I go out, and I have taken her to the gun range a few times to learn how to shoot. I have even given my wife a glock to keep in her purse, which I hope she can use if needed, but we are both constantly on edge. I can't count how many times she has complained to me about having to get away from a black (or group of blacks) who were trying to "holla at her".

Last year we moved to a new apartment complex that is a little more expensive, making it less likely that trash can live there, but it doesn't change the fact that I don't feel we are safe outside of our apartment complex.

I hate it. I hate living this way. I'm sorry if it sounds like I'm ranting or racist and not making sense, but I just need to vent. I can't wait to get out of this city and move somewhere where we can finally feel safe.

With all the recent news about Trayvon Martin things have gotten even worse for us. I feel like we are eventually going to be attacked if we don't move somewhere more white, but that is not economically in our cards at this point in time.

Here is the bare bones of information about myself. I am a working class conservative man in my early thirties. I am heterosexual. Having children is something that is important to me. I'm getting older, and One of my long term life goals is to be able to see my grandchildren graduate from college, but I don't have any kids yet. One of my ex's had a miscarriage, and another had an abortion. On Friday's I usually go out to the bar and have a couple of drinks after the work week , but other than that I am not much of a drinker.

About three months ago on a Friday evening I went out to the bar. I met a woman, and started a conversation with her, and bought her a beer. She bought me one back, and at the end of the night she gave me her cell number. I called her up the next day, and asked her out to dinner. We had some good times, and over the next two months we went to see a couple of movies, and had dinner a few times, and went to an amusement park. Eventually she told me she loves me, I even said I love you too. We had at least one conversation about wanting to have kids, and she does. Last weekend things finally got more physical than a kiss one night, and she performed oral sex on me. When I went to return the favor I was in for a bit of a surprise. She had a penis... I am not gay and not into that so I fought the urge to punch him in the face and left, and went home never calling him again.

Why is it okay for a man to dress up as a woman, and pretend to be a woman. And liberal folks think it's just fine. However if I painted my face black or brown, and went into a black community and acted as "urban" as I could based on rap video's and tv / movies. I would be considered a racist. I might even get shot, and I would definitely offend some people. In politically correct terms why is it okay for a man to impersonate a woman but not a black man?

How is a man impersonating a woman better than a man going around in blackface?